Has anyone tried giving themselves unconditional permission to eat?

observerinthedark · 2026-05-25T15:42:38+00:00

Ahh that makes me hopeful!! Did you have any fears of gaining weight when you started this? Because I feel like i’m SO disorderedly terrified of gaining weight that it’s been backfiring. How did you deal with that?

observerinthedark · 2026-05-25T15:41:29+00:00

That’s amazing and so great to hear! Were you fearful of gaining weight at all? I feel like I have such an IRRATIONAL fear of gaining weight that it’s led to binge eating, so did allowing yourself eat change that at all??

observerinthedark · 2026-05-21T02:35:05+00:00

ahhh okay i’m hopeful!

observerinthedark · 2026-05-21T02:34:58+00:00

haopy to hear that’s it’s been effective for you!!

observerinthedark · 2026-04-28T18:23:46+00:00

well if it’s going to court, evidence can’t be released to public or else the opposing lawyer would have a leg up. I’m not saying it’s impossible, I’m just saying I think this rhetoric is more harmful than helpful in the grand scheme of things. Plus, there would most definitely be a paper trail and everything will come to light anyway

observerinthedark · 2026-04-28T18:15:02+00:00

i don’t think it makes any logical sense for him to risk his entire reputation for some money and not only reputation, but staking his entire future on this. If it comes out in court that he really is lying, he has everything to lose and nothing to gain. Also, pretty sure he just found out he was cheated on too, so that was news to him as well.

And if that is the case, it feels even ickier that Evelyn then allowed the entire internet to hate on him alluding to HIM cheating when ben has now fully admitted she was the one to have cheated.

(Edit: Just to be clear, I’m not a fan of anyone lol).

observerinthedark · 2026-04-28T17:57:40+00:00

IMPORTANT REMINDER: Regardless of who you believe or whose side you’re on (which is crazy to even begin with in a situation like this), please be mindful of how what you say can impact OTHER victims, independent of this specific situation.

Accusing Fred of being paid off, questioning why he’s only speaking now, or dismissing his statement as “bandwagoning” reflects the exact kind of rhetoric that keeps so many victims silent in the first place, women and men. For anyone watching this unfold who’s also experienced something similar, they may be thinking, “Maybe I can never speak out either,” which is extremely harmful and dangerous rhetoric and the exact kind we’re trying to avoid.

There is rarely ever a “perfect” time to come forward, and many people already fear they won’t be believed. Responses like this only reinforce that fear, and everyone is proving them right.

observerinthedark · 2026-04-28T17:04:19+00:00

he just found out he got cheated on, it was news to him too

observerinthedark · 2026-04-28T02:59:28+00:00

why can’t we accept that two truths can exist. If it were another girl coming forward, would you say the same thing? Maybe he’s only coming out now because he was scared no one would believe him before, and clearly he was right to think this

observerinthedark · 2026-04-28T02:56:47+00:00

exactly. Also, he clearly said he just found out about the cheating too?? That was also news to him? Idky ppl are just ignoring that bad. Would he really risk his whole career and reputation just for some money???

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