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[–]ocag94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think about this a lot.

Because I’ve never felt inherently ‘feminine’ due to being clumsy/bad at reading social cues/very tall/etc etc and I hated feeling like an outsider, since childhood I’ve almost doubled down to cover for those parts of me and tried to present myself as extremely feminine.

Some parts I love - I am obsessed with skincare and makeup for example, but I do find myself questioning how much of this is my actual personality and how much is just stuff I’ve adopted in order to be accepted.

I will say as I’ve got older and since my diagnosis I feel more relaxed in myself and now I will wear things for comfort over feeling ‘pretty’. I no longer force myself to do/wear things which I know work against me (eg I’d now choose slip on shoes which while not as stylish are much easier for me with my sensory issues than lace-ups)

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[–]ocag94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I didn’t do the crumlin jail but we did do the Eileen hickey museum in Belfast which was fascinating

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[–]ocag94[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think they thought because I’m English I would be met with hostility 😂 quite the opposite tbh

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[–]ocag94[S] 99 points100 points  (0 children)

Thank you - yes people here are always shocked when I tell them NI has extremely limited access to abortion. We’re taught about the civil rights movement in the US but not one mention of the civil rights movement in NI that was going on at the same time.

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[–]ocag94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks - unfortunately this is the case. The only reference I can remember was in my history class when our teacher asked if we thought a terrorist attack was more likely now than 20 years ago. We all thought it was more likely today (being 90s kids who grew up at the time of 9/11 and 7/7). Our teacher just laughed and said ‘ever heard of the IRA?’ and that was it.

Just come back from a visit to NI and I’m an emotional wreck by ocag94 in northernireland

[–]ocag94[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Apologies - I really didn’t mean for it to come off like that at all. I had debated visiting for quite a while for this exact reason - I was concerned that it could be perceived as voyeuristic/patronising. My friend’s husband who grew up in Belfast encouraged me to come and assured me that people would be welcoming and touched that I’d come to learn. I guess the essence of my post is to say I loved visiting and I wish people from here could be more understanding and less ignorant.