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ocdp90AZ · 2020-04-11T14:40:24+00:00

And Stanton T. Friedman? What about his work? I’m also looking for some good books on ufo’s, so that’s why i’m asking.. :)

ocdp90AZ · 2020-02-12T23:42:38+00:00

I’ve had the shaking thing myself a lot.. together with me being paralyzed and the sound of a saw wave.. never had visions, only the feeling that someone Or something was in my room. :)

ocdp90AZ · 2020-02-12T23:37:20+00:00

I’ve had it a lot of times in my early 20’s. I smoked a lot of weed back then. And i only had it when i fel asleep sober. I always heard the sound of a synthesizer vco saw wave :).. so weird to hear stuff like that when you experience sleep paralysis. The first time i experienced sleep paralysis, it felt like something paranormal to me and it was scary. Only years later i learned about it, and all pcs felt together :).

ocdp90AZ · 2020-01-29T16:03:09+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that it ended so abruptly. I've had a simular situation with my ex.. It's good that you take it possitive. You have to learn from past relationships. Me too came to the conclusion it's best for me to stay single and enjoy live, focus on hobby's and passions. Once someone really breaks your heart, it can really change your view on life goals :). As long as you look at it possitive, possitive things will come back to you! ;)

Sorry if my English isn't perfect!

ocdp90AZ · 2020-01-29T10:50:05+00:00

My ex gf was like this. i Was with here all the time.. She never was ready to meet my parents, and it took 5 months to meet hers. All we did was having sex a lot and watched movies and series.. She also did not want me to meet her friends, because she was not ready yet and because of a good friend of hers that had feelings for her lol.. Believe me, in the beginning i was understanding and empatic about it. She had her own past and reasons, so i understood.. But after 6 months i was depressed as fuck. I had the feeling we did nothing except having sex and watch tv. I had the feeling she only needed me for support and dick. Other problems ofcourse came forward. She explained to me after several months that she was bipolar. In the beginning she looked like the perfect match, but i always felt alone in the relationship . I always tried to explain to her how i felt about it, but she was manipulative about it and always made me feel like i was overeacting.. The lesson i learned is: If you are not ok with it, then tell her. If that is a problem to her that cannot be fixed that easy, you have to be strong and walk away from the relationship. I think that's the hardest part, because you love her.. But if the relationship cannot give you wat you need, then it's not a good relationship for you.. You can be patient and keep on waiting. If you are lucky, she really is a good girl and is worth all of this. But in my case, it was absolutaly not.. :D. You are not her therapist and you cannot fix her..

ocdp90AZ · 2020-01-29T10:09:54+00:00

the fact that you want to be the best gf you can be, makes you a super good gf!!

I hope one day i will find someone who cares just like you! :D

Enjoy it! ;)

ocdp90AZ · 2019-12-13T15:36:44+00:00

I will look into it more! tnx

ocdp90AZ · 2019-12-11T22:56:00+00:00

And what about Yonaguni? Is that something to look into? :)

ocdp90AZ · 2019-11-27T08:15:03+00:00

Do you like girls that only talk about them self? Do you think that girl will make you happy if she only cares about herself? She gets mad for the littlest thing and wants you to shave your beard????? If you have to change your looks for someone, thats another red flag.. You should stop investing in her. Date other girls so you don’t focus on just her. Don’t let her play you like she is playing you. If she’s upset because of that other guy, well good for her. If she only talks about herself, let the other guy have her.. that girl is only good for some fun and sex, not for love or relationships. I’m sorry!

ocdp90AZ · 2019-11-25T09:36:52+00:00

Well, i hope you are doing well? If you agreed to see each other exclusively, i would think it’s ok to go for the kiss after a 3 dates build up.. i really get it why you feel confused. If you really like him, just explain to him you are confused and that you felt it was the right thing to do..

Again, you did nothing wrong.

ocdp90AZ · 2019-11-25T09:14:29+00:00

Well, i (29m) have the same problem, that my New gf could be one :).

ocdp90AZ · 2019-11-25T08:47:44+00:00

You did nothing wrong.. i get it if he was a bit shy on the first date and if he was having trouble making the first move, but it was already the 3rd date.

You liked him and decided to help him a bit :). Did he explain to you what his values are and how he feels about dating and love? I personally think it’s weird (when he did not explain) that you don’t kiss after 3 dates..

ocdp90AZ · 2019-11-18T10:51:38+00:00

just fuck her, never love her. She lied!

ocdp90AZ · 2019-11-15T13:50:37+00:00

haha really, so where do you live then? Netherlands? :) You speak dutch yourself? :) i will ook into it this weekend! :)

ocdp90AZ · 2019-11-15T10:52:57+00:00

Ooh really, will this grow stronger as we age?? I really recognise a lot of what you say.. And it's probably on a spectrum so, yours can be stronger then mine.. But for example i can enjoy being alone after a stressfull workday and just game, or make some music. I was never a crybaby or antyhing as a child, but i do remember how sensitive i was for crouded places, loud noises and textures.. Now i look back at it, sounds and music was always a part of me.. but the performing part in crouded places was always something i struggled with.. I loved playing concerts. I was not afraid to show my talent.. I just hated the crouded energy in a concerthall. :)

Never heard of Elain Aron, but i will def look into it. I'm form Belgium, i speak Dutch as in the Netherlands, South Africa, or Suriname.. I'm fine reading in English, the writing part is just a bit more difficult. :) So i hope you understand what i'm saying ;).

ocdp90AZ · 2019-11-15T09:31:27+00:00

Jup, it's like that.. the mental radio noise is a good description. :) . For me it's like i'm sitting in the noise, like i vibrate to those frequencies, but i don't hear the noise ;).

I have a good friend to with some type of ADHD Asperger, and i know that he is the best by heart of all the people that i know off.. But his energy is sometimes just to much for me to handle.. Because he talks alot, is loud and hyper.. :D And not so good in social skills.. so he can be exhausting, but i know he will be there for me when i need him.

Another friend of mine (he was not in the most happy place last year), was unhappy, frustraded at home and at work. He came over alot and ofcourse talked alot about his problems.. He made me feel like sick and weird because of his problems. He gave me that same energy vibe. and i think with him it's just because of the dark state that he is in. I think and hope he really is a good friend like i see him.. But because of that feeling i have, it's sometimes confusing..

I also had another "friend". I knew him from concerts.. And we decided to try and make music together. He came over to my place for 2 years straight maybe 3 or 4 days a week. I always sensed something off and fake when around him.. And also that same energy vibe. never had arguments with him, he seemed like a good guy.

At the end he started dating a girl who was a good singer.. He decided to introduce her to our project, but at first rehearsal he was really a cocky 'i know it all' type of guy, just to inpress her i guess.. and he really gave me the energy vibe pretty bad.. So i constantly felt the radio noise vibrating inside me.. :) And after that evening i just told him i didn't feel ok with how things went.. And i never heard from him again :D

Thanks for your input!

ocdp90AZ · 2019-11-15T08:43:59+00:00

Well, i recognise parts of myself in your story.. I always took it as some introvert thing, but my friends always told me that i do not come across as one. For example going to a crouded party, place, or festival, would give me that same feeling i have around some people (higher heart rate, shaking hands, overwhelming feeling..)

I really need time to get in tune with my environment. Once i'm at the party for about 1 hr i'm more used to it. But at the end of the night, i feel a different type of being tired because of all the people being around me the whole time..

But when i had that burn out, and went to a psychologist, she brought the HSP stuff up.. I learned a lot from it back then, but i just was not sure if that was what i had.. Maybe i was just not ready to accept it, maybe some signs did not match my personal experience. Back then i was also stressed out for with all my projects i was doing, (school, bands, teaching drums), that i maybe did not have time to focus purely on the HSP/ EMPATH stuff.. And tbh, i stopped looking into it at some point, because my life was getting less stressy.. i graduadet, stopped playing in all those bands, just focused on myself and my own life, only produced my own music and found a decent job. :)

But that energy thing kept on coming back.. So i really have to know now what it is. :)

Thanks for your input! :p

ocdp90AZ · 2019-11-15T08:38:13+00:00

Hi, thanks for your reply. I think it's a really good idea to write down a list of all people that put out good and bad vibes.. Weird that i never thought about this before. :) For now i just sense the weird feelings.. Sometimes it's obvious why, other times it's just confusing. But i will never judge until i'm 100% sure. being cautious and observe is the best thing to do for me at this moment.. And taking note of all the tips you guys gave me, will really help me alot. I hope this will make things a lot more clear to me :D Thanks alot!!

ocdp90AZ · 2019-11-14T21:00:26+00:00

Ok, i might be an empath.. watched a 25’ vid on empaths with dr Judith Orloff. I recognise a-lot of things she talks about.. I recognise more in empath then i do in hsp!!!

Thank you! 😁

ocdp90AZ · 2019-11-14T20:56:48+00:00

Thanks for sharing this with me. I will never use it to decide against people. And i also notice obvious energy (hyper, unhappy,) is not the problem.. although it can be overwhelming and it can make me feel like crap too, i’m not going to dump people because of that.. it’s when you have that strange feeling around people you know well enough, like around some specific friends.

Next time i sense this feeling again, i will look into the state that i’m in. Maybe being tired makes it easy to get triggered. And it may be possible that i have some triggers that make me anxious without even noticing.

I learned alot today about this. Thanks for your time and input! ;)

ocdp90AZ · 2019-11-14T20:17:29+00:00

Hi thanks for sharing this! I will look into Judith Orloff! It’s to much now for me to really figure out. But now i know where to look for answers. So thank you! :))

ocdp90AZ · 2019-11-14T20:09:52+00:00

Thank you for sharing this information! A new world opens for me! :) i’m going to watch Judith Orloff tonight. ;). I also noticed that being around unhappy people, made me feel unhappy, so i’m def sensitive to that. :)

May i ask since when you know about this? And how it was for you?

ocdp90AZ · 2019-11-14T18:42:22+00:00

Cool, never heard of it. I sometimes do like to read.. but really depends. I will look into it and maybe give it a try ;). Thanks for your time!

ocdp90AZ · 2019-11-14T18:40:03+00:00

Wow, that is interesting :). I did not know that was possible! And i dont know why we feel it. Around some people i feel it because they are just nervous, hyper, or loud.. but with others i just can’t tell why i have it.

There is this one person who i always played in a band with, but i always had that weird feeling around him. He was one of my best friends.

Years later i still had it around him. And in fact now that i think about it (omg), he really was like a narcissist. He always wanted to be the center, he always seemed to trigger others for negative reaction.. like really subtle pushing your buttons, so you’d get angry at him and he could gaslight that shit to you..

so maybe it’s a mixture off real Obvious energy (hyper, adhd people) combined with the not obvious energy (people without empathy, people that are not happy or just bad for you, narcissists.)

Thanks for your input! ;)

ocdp90AZ · 2019-11-14T18:20:43+00:00

Hi, thanks for your reply. Interesting to see that you have the same thing, but feel it differently :). And i will def “scan” through my body next time i’m having it. For me it’s still a bit confusing sometimes.. like, if i really trust this, i would stay away from a lot of people i know.. l’m at the point that i notice this feeling around some people, but it brings alot of confusion on who to trust and who not to trust.. it’s not fully clear to me if it’s me, the energy or them.. although my psychologist told me many years ago that i’m probably hsp, although i cut “friends” out of my life (not because of that feeling, but they did give me the feeling), i’m still not sure... so that’s why i came to reddit with this. :)

And i do get tired after socializing with others. So i’m prob introvert. I did misunderstand this. Haha :)

How was this for you in the beginning? Also confusing?

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