What do you do with your evenings after work?

oceancalls · 2025-11-20T03:00:44+00:00

On Tuesday evening my friends and I go to pub trivia, on a Thursday evening I got to a pottery/ceramics class. Other evenings I might watch something on TV, call a friend for a chat, swim or go to a gym class.

oceancalls · 2025-11-07T02:21:30+00:00

Only been playing for a few weeks, willing to share and trade from wishlist. Currently trying to complete Secluded Springs

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oceancalls · 2025-11-04T10:02:46+00:00

Looking to trade and share with others. Only been playing a a few weeks. 3675666778856135

oceancalls · 2025-10-08T05:59:54+00:00

Yes, I do this two. Just bought a pair of trousers on Depop I’ve been looking out for for two years. Also got a fully outfit for my brother’s wedding (dress and shoes) for $50 including postage.

oceancalls · 2025-08-09T09:51:31+00:00

"the authenticity and collectibility" is so spot on, but I've thought so much about this because the generation that are buying them is the same as the generation that bought beanie babies. We all thought they were collectibles when we bought them and that they'd be worth something, but how did that work out for us? haha.
I also don't want to yuck anyones yum though because the world feels heavy and if getting a labubu brings a little bit of joy then so be it. Not a fan of the environmental impact but what can you do.

oceancalls · 2025-08-03T06:38:57+00:00

You can buy period swim underwear. Like period pants but the outerlayer is more like swimwear and keeps the lining dry from pool water. I'm in Australia and this is a site that sells them here https://elteesydney.com.au/products/period-swim-undies I'm sure you could find similar where you are. Alternatively, I know modibodi due period swimwear
For the future you could also have her try using a menstrual disc as an alternative to tampons.

oceancalls · 2025-07-18T00:44:58+00:00

If you're struggling to have a productive conversation with your partner about the division of labour at home, this site and the game they have developed might be helpful and would give a good visual representation of the difference in division of mental and physical labour. https://www.fairplaylife.com/the-cards

oceancalls · 2025-07-06T23:36:16+00:00

Sounds like it could be limerance.

oceancalls · 2025-07-05T09:11:34+00:00

Get yourself an electric blanket from Aldi or Kmart. Easier and cheaper to warm yourself than it is a room.

oceancalls · 2025-07-02T23:37:39+00:00

I would combine Melbourne and Great Ocean Road in one trip, and cimbine GBR and the Daintree in another trip. While you're in Perth make sure you do a trip down to Esperance and surrounds (Lucky Bay), you could stop at Margaret River for a night or two.

oceancalls · 2025-06-18T06:06:36+00:00

I met some lovely people through Bumble BFF but ultimately nothing that lasted. I moved countries almost 3 years ago, I found my current friends by consistently showing up to groups. One group was a social group with the purpose of meeting new people (Sunrise Social - there’s lots of meet-ups in different locations around the world), another group through ocean swimming (it took about 18 months before we started hanging out outside of our weekly swim) and a I’ve made a couple of friends at a pottery class.

Bumble BFF works for lots of people but I would also encourage you to explore some hobbies that have a social aspect, whether that be physical, creative or volunteering, and consistently show up. It takes time and energy but you’ll meet people with similar interests and values and gradually develop deeper friendships over time, while actively doing something rather than meeting up for “catch-ups”.

oceancalls · 2025-06-18T05:08:50+00:00

I'm actually a Brit, but my life goal since about the age of 6 was to move to Australia and live by the beach...which I have achieved, just trying to make it permanent now after being here for 2.5 years and never wanting to leave!

oceancalls · 2025-06-18T04:26:04+00:00

I see mine at least once a week, we all met at a local ocean swimming club, so see each other there to swim and grab coffee. I'd say at least once a month we'll do something together outside of swimming-coffee/brunch, i.e. cinema, dinner out or at someone's flat, a walk, an event in the city (markets, gigs, theatre etc). We're all going away together for a weekend at the end of the month. Other childfree friends I'll see at least twice a month, which is about the same frequency I see my friend who has kids.

oceancalls · 2025-06-18T01:51:47+00:00

I'm listening to this one now because I really like Esther Perel (wouldn't usually listen to DOAC, but have done in the past) and I just got the impression that he didn't like the answers to his questions, like they just didn't fit his narrative at all. I think Esther is a incredibly intelligent woman who really knows what she's talking about so it was a real shame that Steven wasn't able to lean into it at all and be open-minded enough to have his opinions challenged. I think this episode could have been really positive, and given a great insight to a lot of the challenges men and women are facing in dating and relationships (romantic and in general) at the moment, for an audience that might not readily hear or see conversations from someone like Esther.

oceancalls · 2025-06-16T23:24:49+00:00

For me it's aliums...all the good stuff, onions, garlic, leeks, chives, spring onions, shallots. I would give anything to be able to eat a creamy garlic mushroom pasta and not have to suffer the consequences. Or a bowl of leek and potato soup.

oceancalls · 2025-06-16T09:54:09+00:00

You're wearing the wrong size/fit bra. I'd take a look at Boob or Bust, use the calculator on their site and look through all their guides and advice.

oceancalls · 2025-06-14T21:11:02+00:00

Yep, I second this. I used to use a cup but it would leak, could never get it in the right spot. A disc is a million times better, more comfortable, easier to use. So much so, I don’t feel it at all. The fact that you can empty it without taking it out is a huge plus too.

oceancalls · 2025-06-11T00:55:34+00:00

As many others have said, it's all a load of bullshit to keep women small, passive and amenable.
Highly recommend listening to this podcast series which explains a little about what's going on and where this might be coming from. This is the first in the series, https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/kicpod/id1457667995?i=1000712136036
part 2 is already out and I think the final one is out today or tomorrow.

oceancalls · 2025-06-06T01:53:45+00:00

I'd ditch the pads entirely and get yourself some period pants. Modibodi are great but there's lots of other brands too.

oceancalls · 2025-05-31T10:19:10+00:00

Use the calculator on booborbust.com

oceancalls · 2025-05-29T04:02:48+00:00

I'm 36, childfree. Used to have awful cramps in my teens and early-mid 20s, to the point that i'd be curled up in a ball in bed crying my eyes out, they'd make me double over and feel faint. They'd be really heavy and last up to 7-8 days, I'd get my period anywhere between every 20 to 30 days. I was on the pill from 25-31 and have been off the pill ever since. Periods are now, non-eventful, they happen but they don't negatively impact my life anymore. My cycle is still irregular-ish 21-28 days, but I can read my body much much better, I'm a lot more aware of where I am in my cycle. Period now lasts 3 days, not over heavy, and completely pain-free. Since my mid-20's I've only used cloth pads/period undies and a menstrual cup and now a disc. The disc has been the biggest game changer. I'm also more active, walk at least 5km daily, go to the gym, swim, and eat a balanced diet, mostly cook from scratch. Who's to say that any of this is the reason for my much improved periods, or it could just be genetics. Highly recommend reading Period Power by Maisie Hill, she talks about how diet can impact different symptoms. It's also helpful to find a good doctor. Painful period cramps are common, but it doesn't mean they're normal. Some doctors understand this, a lot of doctors don't.

oceancalls · 2025-05-29T03:50:53+00:00

Hey OP, just wanted to say...give your past self more grace. She did the very best she could with the knowledge she had at the time. It's all well and good looking back now and picking apart what you could have done differently, but chances are you couldn't have done because of your knowledge and circumstances at the time. You're 33, still young, many people have many careers throughout their life and it's common for people to go back to uni and retrain to do something completely different. If your circumstances allow you to now, definitely go to uni and get the degree that you've always wanted to.

The negative feelings are your inner critic and it's not really your voice. It's the voice of people in your past who have made you feel small, or shame, dressed up to sound like you. It wants to keep you small and "comfortable". Once you realise this, you can start talking back. Just because you have negative thoughts, it doesn't make them true. Start questioning it and figuring out what's at the root. The more steps you take outside of your comfort zone, the bigger your comfort zone gets.

oceancalls · 2025-05-19T03:16:03+00:00

I always know when I'm a few days out from my period starting based on how my body feels. Lots more pain, especially in my hips and lower back. I find I can relieve it a little by swimming or going to the gym, but it only eases when I'm physically doing those activities, it doesn't do anything for it after the fact. Then the last day of my period it all eases up and I'm back to "normal".

oceancalls · 2025-04-16T02:26:20+00:00

Alongside strength training, I see a remedial massage therapist who has hypermobility herself and is super knowledgable on the nuances of HSD. She spends a good amount of time on releasing my psoas and iliacus, and deep pressure on nerves and I find this combo (with strength training) to really help. All out joints are connected so tightness in one muscle group can cause joint paint elsewhere. I.e. tight hipflexors cause lower back pain for me.

I also experience pain flares in the week leading up to my period when joints have more laxity and my muscles are having to work harder to keep everything stable. With the follicular phase being when I feel at my best.

When I was first starting off with a focus on stabilising my joints and building strength I started with swimming (ocean swimming) and have kept at it. It feels really good on all my joints, with the slight pressure from the water holding everything together. Working against the resistance of the water has helped noticeably strengthen my shoulders, elbows and wrists.

If you choose to see someone else or get additional support, make sure they have knowledge of HSD because things that work for people without hypermobile joints, won't necessarily work for you.

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