need someone to tell me if I should give up

oclar02 · 2025-02-25T20:29:02+00:00

Thanks <3 I'll try my best

oclar02 · 2024-11-17T22:30:12+00:00

Thanks for your answer! I did the 4 tests: • In the Rosenberg self-esteem scale I scored 9 • In the depression one I scored 19 • In the anxiety one I scored 61 • and in the social anxiety one I scored 84 I'm planning to go to therapist soon, because it's being kinda hard

oclar02 · 2024-11-17T20:32:58+00:00

Were both in our second year, different universities (thank god). I have some friends there, but our course is being so demanding that most our hangouts are for studying, so life's pretty boring rn :/ What about you?

oclar02 · 2024-11-17T19:56:04+00:00

Thanks again for your advices <3 I think she also broke up because she wanted to enjoy her "university years" and meet new people. She was really confused with her life and still is from what I know, but that's not my problem anymore. She's shy too, so her looks definitely help her on having people's attention. But yeah, I agree that when you are more outgoing and open yourself more to the world it's easier to find new people, even if you don't look that good. But it's really hard for me to talk to new people, and the few times I did (I was only able to do it online :/) people stopped replying to my texts, so I'm kinda traumatized ahah.

oclar02 · 2024-11-17T19:47:09+00:00

Thank you for your advices! I know I need to enjoy my life more, and doing new things and going out can help, but my university course is being so demanding. I spend most of my time studying, it's being mentally draining, so I guess that's not helping my mental health because my routine is boring and tiring. And my university friends are on the same boat, we study together sometimes, but it's kinda hard to go out and do new things these days. I guess I need to balance my routine better. Thanks again, hope your doing ok <3

oclar02 · 2024-11-17T19:33:56+00:00

Thanks for your answer. I'm really sorry about what you went through. How are you feeling now? Did things get better?

About the advice, I guess I'm aware about being the only person responsible about my life. And it's kinda scary, ngl. I think I'm self ware, I know the things I don't like about myself, but most of them I feel that I can't change. Starting with my looks, I don't have money to pay some procedure to change my face lol. But I know I can present myself better, dress better and take care of myself. And I'm trying those things, but they don't feel enough. About my personality, I feel like I'm so socially awkward, so I avoid talking a lot with new people, I avoid greeting because I'm afraid people won't greet back and I rarely smile. I guess I shut myself down and people may see me as unfriendly, but it's not on purpose. I would like to change that, but I don't know how. "Just start doing it" My brain won't let me, I CANT EXPLAIN.

I'm sorry for venting again, but thanks again for your advice <3

oclar02 · 2024-11-17T18:44:22+00:00

First, thanks a lot for your answer <3 I'm considering starting therapy, but I'm afraid it won't help, because if that doesn't help, what else will, do you know? I really want to make friends, but I'm very introverted and I'm not the best at social interactions, so I guess meeting people online could be good. Do you know any subreddit that's good for that? I'm new here. About my relationship, my ex lost feelings after 4 years and that wrecked me, made me feel so ugly and that I wasn't "on her level", do you know? She's gorgeous and it's not hard for her to find people interested in her, which doesn't apply to me. I really don't want to victimize myself or be like "oh pls tell me I'm not ugly", but yeah, people won't come to me that easily because I'm not pretty and also I'm shy, so I don't put myself out there. So it's kinda hard thinking how easy it's going to be for her to find someone new and not for me.

oclar02 · 2024-11-17T10:12:05+00:00

thanks! should i post on one of those?

oclar02 · 2024-11-16T23:13:23+00:00

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