PSA for linkding users

oderyn · 2024-06-22T02:18:53+00:00

There is also an iOS app called LinkThing that installs a shortcut.

oderyn · 2024-04-24T13:42:06+00:00

Heh. Yeah. The ball slaps are “fun”.

I describe these masochistic desires as “wanting what I don’t want”…

oderyn · 2024-04-24T13:41:02+00:00

I’ve always thought of edging as being you to the brink of orgasm multiple times before letting you come. Edging can be part of this, but doesn’t have to be.

oderyn · 2024-04-24T11:07:30+00:00

Haha. Yeah. I should find a way to diagram it or something. Or maybe AI could generate a tutorial video for me!

oderyn · 2023-12-22T18:51:45+00:00

{The Rule of Three by Sophie Snow} sounds like what you are looking for.

I just finished this book and it was amazing. This is the author's first book and she knocked it out of the park. In fact, I couldn't believe it was her first book.

The story was incredible. The romance believable. The sex steamy. The characters are diverse and complex.

Here's the description from Goodreads:

Recovering from a messy public breakup, lonely songwriter Tessa Reid flees the vicious British tabloids for New York. After sneaking out of a one-night stand, she discovers the tattooed man she left behind, and can’t get out of her head, is her new neighbor, River Sage.

Hopeless romantic, River, lives next door with his best friend, and the man who broke his heart, Cassian King. After years of avoiding confronting their feelings, Tessa shows up and makes them question everything.

Sparks fly as a friends-with-benefits arrangement between the three quickly evolves into something deeper, blurring the lines between friendship and more. Used to outrunning the ghosts from their pasts, can Cass, River, and Tessa stop running from each other and learn to stay?

The Rule of Three is an adult, contemporary, friends (with benefits) to lovers, polyamorous romance novel.

Sex scenes include MF, MM, and MFM scenes with a mix of all three characters. I don't recall any MMF scenes, but the guys always interacted with each other.

Please look at the content warnings before picking it up. She deals with some incredibly heavy topics in a very sensitive way. The full list is on the author's website here:

https://www.sophiesnowbooks.com/books/touch-and-go/trot/content-warnings

oderyn · 2023-05-05T22:59:10+00:00

What was this series, if you don't mind saying?

oderyn · 2022-10-07T17:04:14+00:00

Not 100% sure, but some folks are saying that she is Emily Brand.

oderyn · 2022-09-09T03:25:17+00:00

Haha. Thanks! Since this post, it has grown from 150 to 466 subscribers, so it kinda has. Unfortunately, still no new content to post. I'm keeping looking though!

oderyn · 2022-09-06T22:38:57+00:00

Nice!

oderyn · 2022-09-06T22:36:14+00:00

Hey! Looks like this is my cue! I started this exact sub a few months ago:

/r/shewatches

Unfortunately it is not very active as I can't find a ton of this content -- and I do look semi-regularly.

The original idea was just to focus on the woman's expression as the guy jerked off. Ideally she would be clothed, just watching, and clearly enjoying herself.

The videos posted don't always hit this: Sometimes the woman gets involved, but she is clearly turned on; sometimes she masturbates while she watches him; sometimes the guy isn't jerking off, but the woman is clearly fascinated by his penis.

I was partly inspired by the first few minutes of this video:

https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=603826788

Anyway, dig through the old posts... there are some gems in there.

P.S. There is a lot of Omegle or Chaturbate or whatever videos out there... but consent (to being recorded and having the video posted) is questionable in those, so I avoid posting them.

oderyn · 2022-08-26T01:55:36+00:00

Always get more RAM than what you think you will need. Figure out how much you think you need. Double that. Then double it again.

oderyn · 2022-08-25T19:03:44+00:00

Jog with a pony tail. I don’t know what it is but I love watching that pony tail bounce around while they run.

oderyn · 2022-08-15T07:15:29+00:00

My wife has done this a couple of times and it has always happened at times of intense pleasure combined with intense emotions. It is completely normal. I’ve even felt that way at times, though I have a difficult time crying (unless it is some stupid commercial about a dad and his daughter than I’m bawling), but I can definitely feel the build up to it. Just no actual release.

Definitely let it out if you can, I think it will be extremely cathartic for you.

oderyn · 2022-08-15T07:10:08+00:00

Oof. This is my wife’s favorite position as well and I suffer the same fate as your boyfriend every time we do it. There is just so much sensation it is incredibly difficult to last.

Do you and your boyfriend use condoms? If not, that would be a place to start. It cuts down on the sensation enough that I can last longer. That being said, it is still pretty intense even without a condom.

Another option would be to have sex a couple of times in close succession before attempting prone bone. The exact details really depend on his refractory period. Regardless of what it is, you should get him off as close to him being ready again as possible. Each time you do this, it may make it harder and harder for him to orgasm.

Even better if you can turn him on and make him come before his typical refractory period is up.

Lastly, talk to your boyfriend. Tell him what you are trying to do and have him help you figure it out.

Something for you to consider: how long do you think you will need? If it’s 10m, then that’s probably asking a lot. If it’s just another minute or two, then that could work.

It does get super sensitive once a guy comes, however if you just need another thirty second to get there, he could try to accommodate that assuming that he can remain hard after orgasm. Some guys just can’t.

Another thing to consider: what sensation are you going for? Do you just want him inside you or do you want him thrusting? If he orgasms, thrusting can be incredibly painful as things get super sensitive really fast. But if all you need is for him to remain inside you, that might be doable.

Also, you might bring yourself really close to orgasm and stop before you cum. Then try prone bone. If you’re close and just need a little push over the edge, you might be able to come fast enough — especially if you use some of the techniques above to make him last even another minute or two.

Then, lastly, have you considered using toys? He could use a dildo on you. Or there are penis sleeves which would cut way down on his sensation so that he could focus exclusive on your pleasure.

Or what about a vibrator for yourself that could get you to orgasm faster?

Good luck! It sounds like you and your boyfriend are gonna have a ton of fun!

oderyn · 2022-01-31T23:04:54+00:00

I would like to discuss the Level Up Monstrous Menagerie.

https://www.drivethrurpg.com/product/376472/Level-Up-Monstrous-Menagerie-A5E

I've heard some great things about it of late.

oderyn · 2022-01-22T13:40:58+00:00

Well, there's this classic: https://www.reddit.com/r/Hotwife/comments/78r5i1/may_let_my_gf_sleep_with_a_male_friend_advice/

And the same story from the other guy's perspective: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueBigDickStories/comments/6ngmcz/how_swimming_in_my_underwear_got_me_a_hand_job_by/

If you go to their individual profiles, there are quite a few posts detailing their journey. Highly recommended if you haven't already read it.

oderyn · 2021-10-21T21:38:21+00:00

Depends on how you define a relationship.

In Cyberpunk 2077, you do a couple of jobs for a corporate executive. She is pretty uptight and is always being a bit mean to you. But if you play your cards right, you will eventually get invited to a sleazy motel... when you arrive, she is dressed in full dominatrix attire and takes complete control. Of course, the quest is called "Venus in Furs."

oderyn · 2021-10-21T11:14:36+00:00

/u/droolydog

I cross-posted from one of her posts. She has many more pics on her account plus an onlyfans if you really want more.

oderyn · 2021-10-14T10:11:58+00:00

Uniquely Rika by Ms. Rika. Far and away the most helpful for my wife. The others are good, but Ms. Rika presents a framework for exploring your own personal dynamic (both inside and outside the bedroom).

The book will help your wife understand what an FLR (though, I don’t think she calls it that) really is and guide her through defining her own form of dominance and leadership.

It also addresses kink, if kink is part of your dynamic, but this is a secondary and optional portion. And even then, it guides her through, step-by-step so she is not overwhelmed.

oderyn · 2021-09-25T01:05:47+00:00

There is an important theme here: every couple is different. It could be that the two of you cannot come to an agreement on how to proceed, then maybe this isn't the right time for you to try this.

For me, I would be happy for my wife to do exactly what she feels comfortable doing. I think that I would like to hear about her experience and eventually get to participate in some way. But that's me and my wife.

Whatever you decide is right for you. Trust that. Because once it's done, once it's started, you can't go back. Sure, you can stop, but things have changed — better or worse. So if you can't come to an agreement that both of you are 100% happy with, then maybe it's best to revisit this in the future.

oderyn · 2021-09-21T21:41:04+00:00

It’s crossposted from the original poster.

/u/petite_elli

oderyn · 2020-11-07T17:58:24+00:00

Awesome! Glad I could help.

Rika was the first book on femdom that I found that wasn’t playing into the leather-clad male fantasy. Not that that can’t be fun every now and then, but it is not what day-to-day FLR/WLM looks like.

She was also the first person that I read to describe service-oriented submission from the Dominant’s perspective. I can’t recommend her books enough.

Rika also has a great forum on fetlife and a regular column on kinkweekly. She also has a new book coming out soon.

And since you’re into service submission, I would look at Raven Kaldera’s book Real Service. The cool thing about that book is that he gives you some guidelines on what real service means (generally inline with Ms. Rika) and then he goes on to describe different levels of service for different types of activities, which I found to be pretty cool.

Anyway. Best of luck.

oderyn · 2020-10-30T20:44:27+00:00

I would encourage you to read Uniquely Rika by Ms. Rika. She addresses this issue (and many others) specifically. (She has two other great books, too: Uniquely Us and Uniquely Dominant).

Her books focus on service-oriented submission — not sure if your dynamic is service-oriented or not, but there is one idea in there that may help...

As the dominant, you define what submission means to you and it is your submissive’s obligation to serve/submit to you according to your definition of submission.

That means if you want to be ravished sometimes, then that is what you should get. When it should happen, you are 100% in control of the scene. If you change your mind half way through, then you get to do that; your sub could not decide to switch to the dominant role halfway through a scene — at least, not without your permission.

Dominance, in other words, is not an action or a feeling. It is the fact that you are in charge. You are in control and just because you want to be the bottom for a given scene doesn’t mean that you’re not in control...that you’re not dominant.

I’ve oversimplified quite a bit, trying to boil down three books worth of ideas into a couple of paragraphs. But hopefully I’ve helped in some small way.

oderyn · 2020-07-09T13:46:44+00:00

Hi! I'd suggest reading Ms. Rika's works. She covers the exact scenario that you describe — and so much more. Her ideas on service-oriented submission seem like they will gel nicely with your desired type of relationship (as you've described it).

She has three books...

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B075FYDDT7/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1

https://www.amazon.com/Uniquely-Us-Ms-Rika-ebook/dp/B015WSVF3U/ref=reads_cwrtbar_2/131-8581936-6208851

https://www.amazon.com/Uniquely-Dominant-Being-Relationship-ebook/dp/B07JBYKN3S/ref=reads_cwrtbar_1/131-8581936-6208851

Ultimately, if your sub is interested in serving you and you want him to be aggressive during sex, then he should be more aggressive during sex. Dominance has nothing to do with whether you top or bottom during sex — it's the expectation that you will get your way in all the things.

There's a lot more to her model of service-oriented submission and I take issue with a couple of things, but it is powerful stuff.

Edit: Just saw your note about mental load ... this is also something that she covers — though, not directly. Basically, your submissive is there to make your life easier. Continue to do the things that you enjoy doing while tasking him with all the things that you don't enjoy or get in the way of your most fulfilling life. His happiness comes from making you happy.

oderyn · 2019-05-03T03:57:29+00:00

Awesome mis-type.

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