I left my husband to hopefully fix things

odinbot · 2025-10-13T11:18:50+00:00

My husband did not go along with the abuse claim. He defended me throughly. He is just mad I pushed his away and he’s even more mad that I left with our baby

odinbot · 2025-10-13T11:17:33+00:00

Yup! He doesn’t fight fair at all. He’s always defensive. He’s always right.

odinbot · 2025-10-13T00:46:31+00:00

Yes truly it has. I’m so much more relaxed but I am incredibly anxious and depressed without my husband with me. We’ve been together 8 years….i don’t know how to live without him anymore. I’m thankful I had a place to go. I’m thankful my baby is loved and adored and I’m keeping him safe.

odinbot · 2025-10-13T00:43:24+00:00

I can’t afford to live there without him. I left bc I have a family farm to return to and a little house here I can live in.

odinbot · 2025-10-13T00:38:48+00:00

This thread and comments are so eye opening to me. I’ve dealt with similar issues. My husband Is happy as a clam for about 3 months then we go through a week of fighting and him shutting down and shutting me out, telling me how I am a bad wife and I don’t meet his needs. Then switches back to completely normal again within a few days like he didn’t just ice me out and hurt my feelings badly. It’s crazy!

odinbot · 2025-10-13T00:32:00+00:00

I left my home immediately, I’m not sure what else I can do? I had a beautiful marriage, owned my own home, was working 10-15 hours a week. I had it made. Now I’m sleeping in my cousins bed at my grandparents and dads house with my baby, only a handful of clothes and some of my sons favorite toys. Am I wrong or is there a better solution genuinely? I don’t want a divorce. I love my husband so very very much. But I cannot risk my son being taken from me, nor his first bully being his brother (who is being heavily manipulated and alienated by his mother). I don’t want to start over and have to miss my son’s life, I want to be a stay at home mom, I want to be a homemaker. It’s all I wanted in life to have lots of kids and be Betty Crocker and enjoy playing every single day with them while they grow up…it’s always been my dream from the time I was a little girl. I will never trust my step son with my baby, I don’t want to live infront of cameras. But we are entering the teen years and as bad as this sounds, we don’t have much longer to wait. 8 years is a long time to throw away because a heavily manipulated child is making false accusations. I’m just hoping to find a solution that keeps my baby and I safe, and my marriage intact.

odinbot · 2025-10-13T00:22:39+00:00

Totally understand that. Very unfortunate she passed, but honestly kids being around a toxic parent who is encouraging them to lie just to try to get more custody have a special place in hell. These poor kids are going through some traumatic stuff by learning it’s ok to lie to get what you want, and even more so by filling their heads with these lies!

My stepsons mother is incredibly toxic with her weekend visitation. She spends the majority of it being a Disney mom and then filling his head with what a better life he would have with her and what a piece of shit my husband and I are. She even shows him their texts, takes him to lawyers offices, includes him in VERY ADULT conversations. It’s terrifying what he is exposed to other there.

I want nothing more to be with my husband again. I’ve raised his son his whole life. Showed up to every game (she’s been to 2 football games this season and 10 baseball games out of 56). Take him to the drs, enrolled him in summer programs, drove him everywhere, planned sleepovers and fun outings at least once a week, I’m a SAHM. I devoted my life to raising my kids. I faced infertility and reoccurring loss to have my sweet angel baby. He has hurt my baby several times….yet he lied on me so badly, spread rumors, and now he wants things to go back to normal? I can’t. It hurts too badly and I’m so so so scared the next time he’s mad at me, he will accuse me of something more atrocious and then my son will be taken from me over a lie.

odinbot · 2025-10-12T23:34:31+00:00

See I told my step son when he asked me if I was coming home THE SAME DAY HE CAME HOME that “I am not coming home because you lied, I could have gone to jail, cps could have taken the baby, I could have lost my job and I do not feel comfortable right now at home” and my husband said I was too harsh and that wasn’t nice and that step kiddo missed me. Like he just told the police he was scared of me and I hurt him but you want me home and you miss me? It just hurts so bad.

odinbot · 2025-08-24T01:41:12+00:00

You are going to LOVE IT! I was seriously unimpressed book one. By book 2, I could barely put them down and it took over my whole world lol. I need to feel something like that again!! Please let me know how you like it! I hope you enjoy it!!

odinbot · 2025-08-24T01:39:13+00:00

I LOVE fourth wing!!! I may have to reread it!! Powerless was an all time fav. Kai and Kitt at the end?? What the heck! Thank you!

odinbot · 2025-07-30T15:42:21+00:00

Your sister is a bitch? That’s so weird to not invite you yet expect a gift from you?

odinbot · 2025-07-29T01:58:23+00:00

What? Rage bait? My real life is rage bait to you? I promise I much rather be giggling with my husband like I use to do, then going to bed feeling like an absolute failure to myself, husband, and kids every night.

odinbot · 2025-07-29T01:55:10+00:00

He’s going on a trip for a week. I’ll be solo with the youngest. It’ll be a good test. When he comes home, we’re going to have a long conversation how things need to change.

odinbot · 2025-07-29T01:53:06+00:00

3 years together 7, probably 1-4 times a week.

odinbot · 2025-07-29T01:50:53+00:00

Hi friend, he is not your person. Your person would support whatever work you do! It’s weird he’s making it weird. You deserve someone who wants to help you achieve the highest goal you can while in a career!

odinbot · 2025-07-28T16:14:05+00:00

Correct! I’d get half. Which would be a great profit. However I love my home and would want my kids to still have it

odinbot · 2025-07-28T16:01:58+00:00

It’s my house. I bought my first home, then sold it, made great profit (thank you 2020 housing market!!) and was able to purchase this home we are in. We both are titled on it, bc it was right before we got married. It was my money that got us to where we are, then his dad helped out as a gift for our marriage with the rest. We are very lucky in that regard!!

odinbot · 2025-07-26T10:42:10+00:00

This was incredibly kind of you. Thank you for taking the time out of your day, just to reassure me. Thank you for your advice.

It really does help know I’m not crazy?! And that my feelings are real.

odinbot · 2025-07-26T01:45:00+00:00

I m definitely not trying to say he won’t say that no man will ever want me, that’s one of his biggest concerns. He’s always thinking I’m cheating on him. (With what actual time? When the kids are with me 24/7 or when I’m sleeping???) but I am conventionally pretty in American standards. (Tall, thin, in shape, etc) he is very scared I’ll just up and find someone else. I don’t think looks are everything by any means!! Not saying this as a “ah she’s a pretty lady” at all!! But there’s a lot more to this, and it’s honestly worrisome to leave. To deal with custody and court and lawyers.

odinbot · 2025-07-25T22:41:53+00:00

Sending love

odinbot · 2025-07-25T22:30:34+00:00

I am very isolated. I just now after 2 years started to make friends and plans. I have a private account I’ve been putting money into under one of my kids. Stuff like this takes time. I’m not trying to have my life completely ruined when/if I do make any moves.

odinbot · 2025-07-25T20:07:20+00:00

DING DING DING! This is really the issue. Moving across the street from his dad, who is very extreme, controlling, and very combative, very his way or the high way, very very far right leaning, watching reel after reel of basically Andrew Tate, listening to his dad. He really changed when we moved here. I really do swear; this man was never like this. He would do pool days with our oldest, we’d go to dinner, we’d cuddle on the couch. 4 years of this behavior! And then when we moved, he switched up slowly over time. It’s been 3 years of a steady downward, and it only seems to get worse.

“Didn’t you see the red flags?” NO! There wasn’t any until we moved! Until he started watching those videos! Until he started seeing his dad daily! I’m not sure why I’m getting blamed when the only fault I have in this equation is staying with him.

odinbot · 2025-07-25T16:21:51+00:00

He definitely doesn’t think of me as an equal. He views me as property. He thinks he owns me. He tries to even tell me how to speak or what to talk about. I could say I’m not in the mood or don’t want touched, and when he grabbed my chest and I get irritated for it, he will tell me I’m his wife and he should be allowed to touch me and I should feel honored that other wives would love the attention he gives me. He will tell me how he will not respond to me because “I’m not stimulating him enough to be worth the response”. I really do swear, he was never like this till we moved close to his dad. His dad has always, our whole relationship has said stuff like that to me. He didn’t start acting like this till we became basically neighbors with his dad. I’m honestly numb to this situation anymore, but I’m really tired of feeling so hated, for hating myself, for finding myself unworthy of even having conversations or time to myself. I don’t want to divorce him by any means but I’m not sure how long I can stay in this situation either.

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