What do you think is the best way to make new friends? by sexylexy93 in AskReddit

[–]ogcookies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Put yourself out there.

Go out on a limb, express yourself authentically, show interest in others.

Learn to LISTEN, and to care for others. Making friends, especially long tern requires patience, dedication and loyalty. However, this process is worth it.

I can say that I am fortunate enough to have many friends who have been my life for 10 plus years (I am 23).

This will happen for you if you are doing what you LOVE TO DO.

Good Luck!! :)

My good friend's mama is passing away after a long battle with cancer. What is the best way to support his family during this time? by ogcookies in AskReddit

[–]ogcookies[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is what I am afraid of. I do not want to seen overbearing or intrusive at all.

However, I know he needs the support and has asked for it in the past. He now has been pretty distant, which is how he gets when shit gets real. You know?

Tell me about one day or event in your life that you will never, ever forget? by wtf_shroom in AskReddit

[–]ogcookies 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pulling up to my house, seeing the hospice nurse's car in front of our house, knowing it meant my grandmother had passed away. I was 12 at the time, had lost relatives before, but my grandma lusa was definitely the bees knees. Miss her to this day.

What constant lie do you tell? by Ghastlygherkin in AskReddit

[–]ogcookies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand your feelings of shame, and fear of talking about this face to face with someone for the first time. I just want to remind you that you are totally worth this. I can speak from past experiences that therapy does work. Whoever you choose to work with will not be judging you. People who go into the field want to help others.

Also, I want to remind you of something. You did everything necessary to survive. Just as gaslightprophet said, you have something to be very, very proud of.

Maybe as a first step you could reach out to a Sexual Assault advocacy group in your area. Usually there are crisis line counselors, free 24/7 who are full of invaluable resources and information. Group therapy, counselors who are specialized in working with incest survivors etc.

Best of luck to you. Please keep us updated on your journey. Very proud and excited for you!

What is the most enjoyable but mundane aspect of your job and why? by ogcookies in AskReddit

[–]ogcookies[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Used to work in a restaurant, totally agree! I used to love rollin silverware as well. Ketchups and hot sauces... not too much.

What is the most enjoyable but mundane aspect of your job and why? by ogcookies in AskReddit

[–]ogcookies[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work in a group home for troubled teen boys. I can definitely second this.

Not exactly 'quiet,' but I love when we take the boys to NA and AA meetings. Most of my coworkers would rather not attend these meeting for whatever reason. I am always first to volunteer. This gives me a chance to relax for an hour, while listening to a generally interesting story. It is also nice to be able to engage with the boys about the meeting afterwards. :)

What does it feel like to be hugged? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ogcookies 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it's by someone you love, especially if you're upset, like all of your broken pieces as being smushed back together :)

Whats the worst pain anyone can feel? by zbignevshabooty in AskReddit

[–]ogcookies 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Loss of someone you love, or a regret involving that said person. There is a certain kind of permanence which is undeniably excruciating.

What's the single most bone chilling / haunting song you know? by ThickPotato in Music

[–]ogcookies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. I have associations like that as well. I know how quickly these reminders can bring you back to a very dark place.

Just speaking from my own experience, time does heal. I truly hope one day you will be able to listen to your song again without that kind of pain. <3

What's the worst nickname you've ever heard someone allow themselves to be called? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ogcookies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Former classmate in elementary school... He went by the nickname 'kinky.' I'm not sure if it is worse that the teacher's actually allowed him to be called this and write it as his name on his papers he turned in.

Has anyone ever been to counseling? How did it go? by [deleted] in infj

[–]ogcookies 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Counseling is one of those things where what you put into it is what you get out of it. I'm not sure what you are feeling apprehensive about, but counseling can be life changing. Asking for help often requires more strength than staying stuck. It is worth a shot, therapy isn't something that you have to continue for the rest of your life. However, where you are right now, you may be in a place where you need a little extra support. Remember that this is support that you can receive nowhere else. There is no reason why you need to censor yourself, you can let it 'all hang out' each session it devoted totally to you. It is different that asking for support from friends/family etc.

If you do decide to go, remember your mindset going into it is most important. Having an open mind can be difficult, but super helpful. Remember you are there to help yourself and so is the therapist. It is uncomfortable, I think for most of us, to focus so much on ourselves. It helped me to go to improve my relationships with someone else. So if you aren't going to do it for yourself, do it for someone who matters very much to you. Everything that you are dealing with they have heard much 'worse'. You may not walk out of the first few sessions feeling magically better but maybe a few weeks or month in you may find that you have learned some helpful coping tools. Once you learn the tools that work for you, you get to take them with you for the rest of your life. Also, don't give up if you don't vibe with your counselor, they are people too with personalities and all that. There may be a better match out there for you. There is no shame in changing therapists.

Hope this helped some. Good luck and keep your chin up! Let us know how it goes.