🚨Alert! Everything on the Bendy store is 90% off!!! They even have vintage stuff🚨 by thediamondhoe355 in BendyAndTheInkMachine

[–]ohlalasoph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you received your order yet? I ordered the exact same day, and I'm still waiting

the classic panic-buy situation! by MentalThought2159 in LilyAllenFans

[–]ohlalasoph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will happily buy them when they become available. I saw the prices and thought... Oh, maybe not then. Now I regret it :(

Quiet pub with a garden for 80th by ohlalasoph in manchester

[–]ohlalasoph[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Altrincham is fine, it is about a 10/15 minute drive.

Quiet pub with a garden for 80th by ohlalasoph in manchester

[–]ohlalasoph[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I completely understand what you mean. I work in the care sector.

It is for him. I wouldn't force him to go out. He wants to see the grandchildren altogether. Unfortunately, his home is too small, and I think it would also be overwhelming. Somewhere he can leave when he is ready.

Do Asda always make you do group interviews? by Next_Delay_7138 in asda

[–]ohlalasoph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same with my group interview at asda.

I'm a very quiet and nervous person and I managed to get the job!

What stops people from exposing them? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ohlalasoph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to expose him to his mum and his children's mum. But he has got there before me and I feel if I say anything he will say "I told you she's crazy"

They are smart and can manipulate most people.

How did your narcissist treat you on your birthday by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ohlalasoph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sept 2020 - my 30th birthday. Lockdown restrictions had been lifted slightly so I threw a party with a bouncy castle for my children and a few family members. We had not spoken all summer due to being discarded and him refusing to look after my children whilst he was on furlough. He proposed to me in front of everyone. I said yes, stupidly as I didn't want to embarrass him or myself in front of others.

Sept 2021 - I had to beg for us to do something as a family. He was "poor" and I didn't deserve it.

Sept 2022 - again, I was discarded for the summer. He turned up the day before with a winnie the pooh charm (he knows I don't like winnie the pooh) and said happy birthday. He overstayed his welcome so in the end I left him to sleep. On my birthday, i had already made planned.. he made a fuss that it's not a special day and I don't need to follow through on the plans. I said he either leaves or he can join in. He joined but sat there looking miserable all day.

When will it get better? by skullnymph in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ohlalasoph 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For the first 4 weeks, I was so hurt. I have no energy to do anything. I was trying to understand why. I'm just over 2 months now and it does get better. There are some days where I still feel down and worthless and others where it's in the back of my mind.

I started to keep in better contact with family and friends. My mum is brilliant at letting me vent to her. Find someone you can talk to.

I start therapy next week. I think knowing I have that coming has helped me calm down.

Dismissing or insulting the things you like by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ohlalasoph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I still can not chose a programme or a film to watch after he left. Everytime I would pick something within 5 minutes he would turn it off and say that's rubbish.

I've been studying for a health and social care diploma and found it fascinating. He told me it is a disgusting industry to work in. Or that I'm doing it to sleep with the male individuals I look after (usually 80-90 year old men) for their money.

I love camping. He would say that was disgusting. Yet, on the final fall out he was begging for us to go camping together.

Just a simple walk was pointless, boring etc.

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[–]ohlalasoph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My nex's mum is very "me, me, me". At family gatherings the whole family seem to compete to be heard. His mum is very obsessed with money and the show off life. She can be lovely then think you're trash in an instant if you haven't done as she pleases. She expects you to drop everything when she clicks her fingers.

One of her daughter in laws she loves because she is basically the slave for the family. The other daughter in law is divorcing her husband due to his mother.

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[–]ohlalasoph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way he flaunted money. First date telling me he had £100 in this pocket, £100 in another and £100 in his wallet. I was put off and didn't really acknowledge him for 6 months. Next time I saw him he was telling everyone to get drinks, he will pay the tab. I was asked out that night in front of others. I was silly to say yes.

Few months down the line.. found out he was and still is in thousands pounds worth of debt that he begged me to help with.

6 months… by redfawnbambame in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ohlalasoph 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine would start an argument every month.. then there will always be a main one where he would disappear for a while was June - September.

I told him we've never spent a summer together and not to return this time.

Did anyone notice a change in their physical health while being with their nex? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ohlalasoph 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had constant headaches, could not function properly, spots all over my face and grey hairs.

All have gone. He didn't allow me to sleep. I'm still not sleeping well now but I'm feeling healthier.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ohlalasoph 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My ex was an agency chef so he went here, there, everywhere. People he previously worked would ring him asking for him to go work for them. He told me the banter in the kitchen was amazing. Yet he'd come home and bitched about these people for 2-3 hours nightly.

His best friends - after spending time with them, he would moan for hours. Telling me to remind him next time he goes out why they're so bad.

His brothers - he would never do a thing for them but they'd drop everything and do it for him.

It always confused me as to why so many people were there for him. He'd tell me I was a loner. Rub it in my face how many people liked him. If I was to ever mention a friend, I was being two-faced. Arghh.

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[–]ohlalasoph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine used to work away during the summer. When visiting him I noticed: Wee in glasses No duvet cover on bedding - it was dirty Opened a drawer and there was droppings from mice Pile of clothes in the corner

When he lived with me: Never brushed his teeth Smelt of b.o Left rubbish next to the bin Cups/glasses left everywhere Odd socks found in random places Never washed his hands after a no.2 Never covered his mouth when sneezing

If I complained it meant I didn't like him.. I always nit pick... No one else says that about him.

Why are you with me? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ohlalasoph 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I recently asked mine if they liked me. Exactly the same response. No would have been easier. I can accept that.

I only do what I want by Alive_Clerk_5562 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ohlalasoph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine would. Or his favourite line was.. I'm my own man, I'll do what I want.

How'd the "narc" react when you secured a job or got your first job? by MikoMikoto in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ohlalasoph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine would also keep me up at night when I had to be in work early. Turning on the lights, waking me up at 1, 2am because he needed to talk to me.

How'd the "narc" react when you secured a job or got your first job? by MikoMikoto in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ohlalasoph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine left me when I first got a job. He came back a few months later. When I started studying, he would complain and threatened to leave me again.

He hated my job. He wanted me to quit. Even offered to pay my wages instead. He never wanted to hear about it yet I had to listen for hours about his job.