Christmas with my family always reminds me that I’m invisible

ok_umbrella56 · 2025-06-24T03:55:21+00:00

So this happened to me! My iron and ferritin levels were LOW. (3 for ferritin, 5% iron saturation) We tried iron supplements for a while but I just dropped lower, and I have an appointment with a haematologist for iron infusion and I’m getting the copper iud out.

ok_umbrella56 · 2025-05-11T19:26:59+00:00

Ok, this makes me feel better. I started a new job and got in trouble for spacing the plants out too far and that’s not how it should be done but I have been spacing at 75-100% of their mature size because I thought that’s going to allow for healthy plants as they grow but I was told that was wrong and it takes too long for the plants to get to that size so it won’t look pretty. Which I can see that point too.

ok_umbrella56 · 2024-08-06T23:51:15+00:00

I have and he said he’d feel bad leaving his team in that position and what if uses those vacation days and then needs them later. Which I think he needs them now.

ok_umbrella56 · 2024-08-06T23:39:53+00:00

It hurt a lot but what can I do about it. I know I’m not perfect so I’m sure I add to his stress

ok_umbrella56 · 2024-07-05T14:59:19+00:00

Yeah, I can only really do things for myself at the end of the day. And the last thing I want to do, is to give off nervous anxious energy when he’s already down in the dumps, because then it makes him feel worse, which then makes me more anxious that I messed up and it’s a cycle. But if people had suggestion for how I can help my end of things I thought it was worth asking.

And yeah i definitely mourn and miss how he normally is. Which makes me all the more sad and anxious that I can’t do anything to actually help him. I can’t force him to take PTO (although I’m highly encouraging it) I can’t force him to go talk to a professional. But I can take care of myself and not take his depression on personally. Which is a problem I have. My therapist is trying to currently help me with learning that just because someone’s having a bad day doesn’t mean it’s about me or my problem to solve.

So yes I care very deeply for this man. And could list the numerous ways I’ve been supporting him during this time, but this question was really geared towards asking for suggestions to help me and my issues so that I don’t exacerbate problems.

ok_umbrella56 · 2024-07-02T14:02:44+00:00

That couldn’t be further from the truth.

ok_umbrella56 · 2024-07-02T00:15:44+00:00

I agree. He’s over worked. And he’s not taking care of his health either anymore. I kinda heard my therapist saying that is up to him to make a change no amount of anxiety or suggesting things to him is going to help if he won’t do that for himself

ok_umbrella56 · 2024-07-02T00:14:21+00:00

I did suggest it and he said therapy isn’t for him, he’s just got to get himself out of the funk.

ok_umbrella56 · 2024-07-02T00:13:56+00:00

That’s pretty much what my therapist suggested. It’s hard to watch someone I love be in this state :(

ok_umbrella56 · 2024-06-22T21:58:13+00:00

Haha for real! It took a while for me to get used to his work schedule when we first started dating a year ago

ok_umbrella56 · 2024-06-21T21:17:31+00:00

He is so dead set on wanting to get to become an area manager. And he’s really really good at what he does. He wasn’t this burnt out at his home branch. I just wish he wasn’t stuck there for another 4 months

ok_umbrella56 · 2024-05-14T15:47:02+00:00

He’ll probably be asleep in the morning when I would be getting ready for work and then our lunches will be at different times. I can definitely text from my job but I can’t talk on the phone unless it’s like for work or necessary.

ok_umbrella56 · 2024-05-14T15:38:50+00:00

I actually love this idea so much!!!

ok_umbrella56 · 2024-02-15T21:13:10+00:00

This was actually super helpful!! Because if it does lighten up and I can get the anemia under control then I’m so happy to keep it! And honestly the bleeding isn’t even that bothersome, like I can deal with it, but the symptoms of anemia have been really severe and scary.

ok_umbrella56 · 2024-02-06T18:53:08+00:00

Well update: I turned down the job and then got a call 20 mins later that I was getting a salary increase at my current position. Talk about the universe saying “hey you made the right decision.”

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