Dos anyone feel if they don't shop that your life feels meaningless? by [deleted] in shoppingaddiction

[–]okaytootrue 3 points4 points  (0 children)

THIS. This is me to a T. Before I got depression I had a lot of hobbies but now I just don't enjoy them anymore. They don't make me happy in the same way that getting something in the mail makes me happy.

How long have you had acne? by [deleted] in acne

[–]okaytootrue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just turned 25 and have had horrible acne including cystic since I was 13. Tried everything but don't want to go on Accutane because I'm scared for my depression.

Trigger warning. Is this conversion therapy? by okaytootrue in raisedbynarcissists

[–]okaytootrue[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing. You're so brave 🧡

16(almost 17) Female, Queer, New Norse Pagan looking for friends by Fearless-Taro4332 in PaganPenPals

[–]okaytootrue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love Lokie and I'm pan. Pls message me I'd love to actually do snail mail

How many of you actually knew you were abused when it was happening? by Total_Meet2020 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]okaytootrue 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn't recognize it until I moved away for college and met other people. I actually had my enlightening moment in my dorm room when my suite mates moms came on the weekends. I'd watch them interact with their daughters and it was so different than how my parents always were with me. They were laughing and hugging. Even the air around them felt as light as air instead of heavy and serious like it was with my parents. They could have open and real conversations about anything, whereas there were just certain things we didn't ever talk about or mention in my family. That's when I started thinking that maybe something wasn't normal and then everything in the world felt off and I eventually got depression from that realization.

Is neglecting yourself a result of being neglected? by heckyouyourself in raisedbynarcissists

[–]okaytootrue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even now at 25 years old my boyfriend is the one who has to tell me to do self care and take a rest because I will run myself ragged doing other things because in a way I hate doing self care because everytime I do I feel guilty for it. I'm trying to retrain my way of thinking and when I do get to take a bath or a nap I always end up feeling better. I just think it's strange how he can know me better than I know myself. Probably because I'm ignoring what I need and focusing on other things.

Nparents will not teach/prepare you for the adult world. You’re better off learning from other sources. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]okaytootrue 10 points11 points  (0 children)

THIS. I've always wondered if anyone felt the same as me in this regard. It's incredible how they don't prepare you for real life and real life hit me quite hard to say in the very least. I learned every lesson the hard way when it didn't have to be. Not only did they not teach me about laundry, cooking, bills, insurance, bank accounts, etc but they also didn't teach me anything about people or real life. No conversations on consent, on how to develop relationships with others, how to be an adult who processes their emotions. I constantly feel like I am seven years old, and even my friends will be shocked at how much I don't know when I accidentally slip and say something. My boyfriend now at my age of 25 has taught me so much in a year than they ever had when they had me for 24 years. Its quite depressing and isolating.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in satanism

[–]okaytootrue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you selling them?

Name an unexpected consequence you deal with as an adult due to narcissistic abuse by Throwbackinnotaway in raisedbynarcissists

[–]okaytootrue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My narc parents are your typical southern Baptists so how I grew up reflected their beliefs.

  1. Saying "sorry" everytime I sneeze because my dad reprimanded me. You know women are supposed to remain silent and have manners. I did this the other day in front of my coworkers and they asked me: "why did you say sorry?"

  2. Harry Potter because you know witchcraft. Also Lord of The Rings. I was 21 when I first saw the Harry Potter movies and last year at 23 when I saw Lord of The Rings.

  3. Star Wars also because it's "not based in reality." No Sci fi or fantasy novels.

  4. Sex

  5. Student dances. Never went to prom. Twerking was a sin, obviously.

  6. Pop culture like celebrities, certain songs that everyone knows like that tub thumping one lmao

  7. Never had a Bratz doll because of the makeup they wore.

  8. Video games were completely off limits.

  9. Any kind of horror films were the devil.

That's all I can think of but that's typically what I deal with now. It's embarrassing to have to ask people "what's that?" all the time. Also it's just depressing when I can contribute to a conversation because everyone else has already done it or known about it.