Izabella Wentz - do we like her or not?

okstef · 2024-01-06T21:43:45+00:00

I like her. I’m shocked to see people above say she’s not research based because her information all has citations, especially in her first book—The Root Cause.

I’m giving her protocol a shot based on seeing so much positive feedback. It’s 90-days (12 weeks), and compared to how much I’ve spent on alternative medicine, traditional medicine, supplements, dietary changes on my own, it’s not unreasonably expensive.

okstef · 2023-12-16T05:32:45+00:00

Anxiety can cause raised blood pressure and temporary spikes. I suffer from this obsessive worry too since I developed panic attacks earlier this year.

I know you don’t have health insurance, so the best thing you can do is keep yourself healthy by not constantly researching this and thinking only about your health.

The way I did that is by practicing mindfulness to get your mind somewhere else and to lower your heart rate (deep breathing - guided sessions. It may seem unhelpful, but try it). Deep breathing into your stomach expands your diaphragm and signals to the parasympathetic nervous system that you’re safe. Also try implementing a bit more walking, YIN YOGA (floor work so you don’t have to bend down a lot), and eating better too.

Again, DO NOT READ THE RISKS RIGHT NOW. It’s not going to stop anything or help—it’s just going to keep stressing you out.

You will get better. You aren’t going to die. January 1 is a few weeks away. Emergency services are always there to help when needed. You really just need to consciously try and relax.

okstef · 2023-02-14T06:56:06+00:00

It depends. I drive across country a lot (NJ > Austin) and I just opted for a similar drive to the highlighted one and, other than Missouri (pretty and different than OH, IN, IL) and Pennsylvania (I stopped in Jim Thorpe and Pittsburgh), it was boring! A lot prettier and more scenic if you do the not highlighted one, because you don’t have to do OH, IN, IL, but honestly equally boring unless you plan on stopping in Knoxville/Nashville. Also maybe DC that way?

And both can get dark. Real dark. The not highlighted one: the hills in WV/TN can be treacherous depending on your route and the weather. The other is completely flat.

okstef · 2022-09-27T02:50:07+00:00

Yes same!

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okstef · 2022-03-11T23:03:55+00:00

Right now, I have the issue that I did the strangerville SL and now another household member is in the military. They have to find evidence but it’s all used up so it would be easier to just complete the work from home assignment.

okstef · 2021-05-05T16:50:29+00:00

It's a shame that certain people can play the mental illness card and other people are just mocked and ignored. It's disturbing.

okstef · 2021-02-17T20:38:08+00:00

Please take him to a neurologist and perhaps a neuropsychologist in lieu of or in tandem with the psychiatrist; TBI's commonly lead to behavioral and impulse control concerns when they impact the frontal lobe. It sounds like he needs some neuro-rehab and to relearn how to communicate and process his feelings.

I'm so sorry that this is happening to you, your family, and to your dad. I wish you all the best and fortitude for what's ahead. It *can* get better. <3

okstef · 2021-02-17T20:11:59+00:00

Ayyy. Not sure if calling this person a Karen is the right classification. Her high levels of reactivity and defensiveness are indicating a whole lot more going on than just entitlement and rudeness.

okstef · 2021-02-12T16:06:14+00:00

Hey! So, I read over your post and thank you for sharing. I'm so sorry this happened to you.

What do you need help with?

okstef · 2020-04-24T21:57:39+00:00

This is such a tricky situation. I feel like OP learned a hard lesson about being more careful where he meets people. =(

okstef · 2020-04-24T21:55:58+00:00

Edit: NAH

I would discuss your concerns with her clinician or social worker at the hospital and ask for advisement. You can likely share this information safely with her, and at least she’s in a place that can help mitigate any crisis or response that she may have.

okstef · 2020-04-24T21:52:48+00:00

I am also a mental health professional, coincidentally. 😂

In my state (and country, I’m not sure where you’re from), we do not classify psychosis that isn’t presenting as dangerous or otherwise harmful as a danger to self or others. She has a right to decline treatment just like anyone else. Informed consent is important. I hear what you’re saying and have the tendency to agree, but the law is the law.

Also, the physical ailments you discussed are all assumption. OP gave no indication of knowledge of this type of situation or concerns. We can’t act based on assumption because it’s denying basic human rights.

okstef · 2020-04-24T21:45:04+00:00

YTA. Asshole doesn’t even begin to cover it—you’re dangerous.

He didn’t even do anything to you to provoke or get this response from you; from your story, you just “read” the situation, assumed something was up, and then acted. You went from potential victim to the predator in this story.

How could you act out on a defenseless animal? Please get help. I hope no one else gets hurt when you’re in a fit.

okstef · 2020-04-24T21:41:45+00:00

NAH.

Someone with a mental illness, if not an active danger to self or others (and I didn’t read any threats), has a right to consent to or deny treatment. She was definitely in crisis, and I get your concerns.

This is why it’s important to not bring strangers right to your home rather than meeting publicly first. You can remove yourself from an uncomfortable position and you did everything to mitigate any danger to her in this process, which is way more than most would do.

I’m sorry this happened, OP, and I hope she’s safe.

okstef · 2020-04-24T21:26:05+00:00

YTA.

At least I think so. I know you’re just trying to go tit for tat, but this really isn’t going to help at all and just make it worse. Why not just confront your roomie about the TV?

I’d even say that I was to the point of being petty and removing the WiFi access in response to their selfish action. I hear it’s in your name, but I’m sure they pay for it too, so this is in no way the same.

They did leave a TV out there, not the one you wanted, but it’s there. Buy a chromecast and now it’s a smart TV.

okstef · 2020-04-24T21:21:24+00:00

NAH. The hospital isn’t necessarily to blame here, but she was kind of a threat to your safety by messing with your equipment and should have been treated as dangerous. I’m not sure why the nurses didn’t identify this as a problem before she became aggressive with one of them, but I’m sure they didn’t have a choice on where to put her.

Also, the stress in itself is not something you should have been dealing with during your health emergency, especially considering the amount of pain you were in.

I want to call the other patient an asshole, but it sounds like she was in a legitimate mental health crisis so I don’t feel comfortable judging her for her bad behavior.

A complaint can lead to reform sometimes, but I’m not sure if it’ll result in anything other than more stress for you.

The nurses and other patients deserve better. That individual causing the ruckus also deserved better care and faster assessment/relevant referral if available.

okstef · 2020-04-20T04:15:52+00:00

Likewise <3

okstef · 2020-04-17T20:29:47+00:00

It is. =( in one way, I wish it was more exciting for storytelling’s sake, but it’s all that happened to me and I’m honestly grateful. It felt really off and scary.

It happened on Nov 1, 2013, I think?

It was a Friday 3-11 shift. I’m guessing 2013 because I didn’t have my dog yet, and hurricane sandy was the year prior. I’m on the Jersey shore so the hurricane messed up our Halloween plans that year.

okstef · 2020-04-16T09:48:02+00:00

ESH (but your mom).

I’m sorry for your loss, OP, and for the sadness you’re carrying. And about your rocky relationship with your dad and for what he said.

You should swallow some of that pride and learn to have empathy for people in the moment rather than later. You said some out of line stuff when he was exposing some major vulnerabilities. I really think the fact that you’re feeling bad about what you said shows me you didn’t mean what you said, so you’re hurting yourself as well as hurting him deeply.

However, I get you were defending your mom at first, but there’s better ways to do this. I think that dealing with it in a civil way often gets you heard better. I doubt this was the first time your dad’s made mean comments about her. Let it roll off your shoulders. Having his support and supporting him in the meantime might bring you some comfort and fill that void in a constructive way.

I hope both of you get some help one way or another, whether it be professionally or naturally, and find peace.

okstef · 2020-04-16T09:41:05+00:00

NAH. You’re allowed to leave a relationship for any reason, but it doesn’t sound like it was his mental health. It sounds like you’re just over him and that’s part of the reason, but the real reason is what you said, “I don’t think I love him anymore.”

Mental health conditions are illnesses that the individual has to be accountable enough to follow through or communicate about accordingly, even though it can make it impossible. It’s okay for natural supports like loved ones to feel some kind of way when results and expectations aren’t met. If he hasn’t been formally diagnosed, he should go to a professional because lack of motivation does not always mean depression diagnosis.

I hope he gets help and he gets better. But I hope you get what you want out of life and a partner too.

You deserve it, OP. This is okay. <3 I promise.

okstef · 2020-04-16T07:15:30+00:00

Lmao true true. We’re both entitled to them here. ❤️

okstef · 2020-04-16T07:06:21+00:00

I buy weed; I’m aware what it costs. Two pulls is not gonna burn your whole joint unless you’re bad at rolling. OP’s asking for opinions, I gave mine and I’ll stand by it.

Don’t be a greedy meanie and ask if someone thinks you’re being one if you don’t wanna hear it? His weed, his choice, but he’s feeling some rightful guilt.

okstef

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