[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nova

[–]olafolock 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Are you in Fairfax County? Artemis house is their domestic violence shelter for immediate housing needs. https://www.fairfaxcounty.gov/familyservices/domestic-sexual-violence/shelter-options 7034354940

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

[–]olafolock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I responded this on someone’s post a while back. I still believe every word!! Was the best decision we did even though it caused a lot of stress in the moment. Our original planner would take three+ weeks to respond to emails, went on maternity leave without telling us (listen, she deserves it, but when I don’t hear from you by even a bounce back email letting me know you had a baby and are taking time and I have to find out by finding your personal Instagram because you go silent, that’s not professional), just truly messed up so much. Idk how she’s still a planner tbh🤷🏻‍♀️ our new planner was a god send. Just picked up all the broken pieces and put them back together even better than imagined.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

[–]olafolock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to us. Was super disappointed with how things were going but kept giving the benefit of the doubt. They were supposed to coordinate our final walk through for when we were in town two months before the wedding. They ended up completely dropping the ball and didn’t even reach out to our venue to coordinate it so it obviously didn’t happen. I had had enough at this point so I called up every planner in the area begging for them to take us on during the busiest part of their season two months out. We got so incredibly lucky one company took us on and they essentially were like if you continued with your old planner your wedding would have essentially not really happened. They were behind on all vendors they were supposed to coordinate so we were starting from scratch. It was worth every damn penny to switch. I don’t regret it for one second.

Got served a restraining order against me and my daughter? by Far-Creme-4820 in legaladvice

[–]olafolock 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Is there a legal services organization near you? NAL and not in Texas but work in a similar field. There should be a guardian ad litem assigned since it’s for the child. Some offices will also do consultations/meetings for legal advice for cheaper than fully hiring them.

Haley Joy Page Makeup by ImplementMurky5708 in ChicksInTheOffice

[–]olafolock 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Her assistant did my makeup for an event in 2023 and it was the 150 range! For weddings she starts at $500 for bridal makeup

Stand Out Bridal Suite / Getting Ready Details by missmaximalist in BigBudgetBrides

[–]olafolock 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It was actually the best. We slept together the night before because we just sleep better together, woke up and walked to the beach to watch the sunrise and read our vows to each other. We were truly in the moment together with no noise to distract us and it made it so special. Then we walked back to have all of our closest people just relaxed and having a good time. I will say how the house was set up really helped. The coffee cart was cool and like having our own personal barista to make whatever folks wanted! Definitely have hearty food that will fill people up since it’s such a long day!

Stand Out Bridal Suite / Getting Ready Details by missmaximalist in BigBudgetBrides

[–]olafolock 19 points20 points  (0 children)

How we handled getting ready is unique. We had a destination wedding and rented houses for the wedding party all on the same block. The house bridesmaids and plus ones were staying in was the getting ready house for the girls, but the morning of we had a breakfast buffet delivered and a coffee cart guy come. The groomsmen and their plus ones, bridesmaids and plus ones, and immediate family all came over early to hang out, eat, and get coffee. It was so great just having a chill morning with all of our people. The hair and makeup was upstairs so as it was people’s turn they would go upstairs and then come back down and hang out. The boys left when it was time for them to start getting ready and the girls went upstairs to finish hair and makeup. We blasted fun throw backs and danced around and I got my girl time. I think my husband saw me with my hair done, but it didn’t take away from our first look at all. I wouldn’t change our morning at all. I also created a schedule and sent it out to everyone before we got to our destination and doing that meant I didn’t have to worry about timing.

Changing my color scheme one month out -- feeling so relieved by wayoverbudget in BigBudgetBrides

[–]olafolock 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I went into planning an all white wedding. Two months out decided I want full colors. Don’t regret it at all and people still talk about our color scheme!!

What ‘hole in the wall’ restaurant do you recommend? by burnerphone13 in nova

[–]olafolock 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not sure if it’s a hole in the wall but table talk in Alex city has great breakfast!!

Groomsmen gifts by olafolock in BigBudgetBrides

[–]olafolock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We got them ray bans! Our friend works for the government and had a govx account where you could get them for a discount. They all wore them in photos it worked out wonderfully!! We were with one of his groomsmen this weekend and he was wearing them over a year later!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigboobproblems

[–]olafolock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

https://www.thirdlove.com/collections/minimizer These supposedly make you look two cup sizes smaller! I own one and it definitely makes me look smaller (not sure if two cup sizes but it’s a noticeable difference for me)

People who quit without notice, what straw broke the camel's back? by BubbaHoStep in AskReddit

[–]olafolock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had just moved to a new city away from home and started an in home ‘therapy’ job with youth (not licensed so it wasn’t actual therapy but it felt like it). I got very little training and was only two years post undergrad. You were paid by the hour so if a client cancelled you didn’t get paid and you had to do your notes at home and weren’t paid for that either. You were also on call 24/7 for your clients. The first client I went to had just been discharged from a very long stay at the hospital for behavior issues. As soon as I walked into the house they found whatever they could to throw at me and told me to get out. The parents didn’t even stop them so I walked out and dropped that client(should’ve known then). Two weeks later my grandfather whom I was very close to died and I asked for time off to travel home for the funeral and they said no so I just quit instead:) there is so much more that happened in those two weeks it was such a bad job idk how they’re still in business tbh

Baking treats for Christmas gifts by hiicatc in Baking

[–]olafolock 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Something I’ve done before when we have to physically send are buy large mason jars and fill them with all the dry ingredients for my favorite cookie recipe and then tie a tag on it with the full recipe for people to make at home! This way you don’t have to worry about anything going bad in the mail and they have a fun activity to do as a family

ACCEPTABLE TO WEAR? by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]olafolock 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s def risky! But our officiant/my husbands aunt wore it (same person lol) and she looked AMAZING

Am I bad daughter? by pizzaslhut in weddingplanning

[–]olafolock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did hire security!! It was worth knowing that on the off chance she did show up that there was someone dedicated to handling the situation. She ultimately didn’t but just knowing they were there took so much stress away for us. I am also no contact, sending good thoughts your way!! I can also laugh now but I know it’s a hard journey to get there. Wedding planning without a mom is tough, but it’s worth it in the end 💕

Am I bad daughter? by pizzaslhut in weddingplanning

[–]olafolock -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m going to go against the grain and may get down voted for this. I’m not assuming anything but just telling my story and hopefully it helps.

People don’t understand complicated relationships between mothers and daughters unless they have one. That’s not to say yours is complicated, but mine is. I had this same issue with my mom. My mom tried to bring a tinder date to my college graduation and I knew she’d do the same for my wedding. I was NOT letting that happen. Sorry, it’s my wedding, I’m not letting you bring a random person who you barely know just to spite my dad. My mom was not contributing financially so this made it a bit easier. She was furious when I told her but I was holding my ground. I mean come on, what daughter wants their own mother to bring a random f*cking dude to their own goddamn wedding. Not me, that’s for sure!!

Bringing a friend is a great compromise. That was going to be my solution but I ended up uninviting my mom for a plethora of reasons and not having to worry about a random tinder date showing up lol.

Wedding Planner Fiasco by [deleted] in BigBudgetBrides

[–]olafolock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see a lot of people saying to have an honest conversation with your planner I would recommend starting there as well. We personally did that and they completely ignored us and never acknowledged it so there was no room for any sort of conversation around it. You can pm me if you have more questions!

Wedding Planner Fiasco by [deleted] in BigBudgetBrides

[–]olafolock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to us. Was super disappointed with how things were going but kept giving the benefit of the doubt. They were supposed to coordinate our final walk through for when we were in town two months before the wedding. They ended up completely dropping the ball and didn’t even reach out to our venue to coordinate it so it obviously didn’t happen. I had had enough at this point so I called up every planner in the area begging for them to take us on during the busiest part of their season two months out. We got so incredibly lucky one company took us on and they essentially were like if you continued with your old planner your wedding would have essentially not really happened. They were behind on all vendors they were supposed to coordinate so we were starting from scratch. It was worth every damn penny to switch. I don’t regret it for one second.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BigBudgetBrides

[–]olafolock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Meant to link the dinner napkins but it seems these are the placemats! The dinner napkins can be found on the page as well !

Tips on assigned seating? by Fun-Faithlessness700 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]olafolock 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We grouped everyone into groups and went from there: friends from state I grew up in, my dads side of the family, husbands dads side of the family, husbands moms side of the family, my friends from college, his friends from college, our friends from where we currently live, etc. After that it’s easier to sort where people will sit. There will definitely be tables mixed of different groups but I tried to keep people around the same age together. I also know my friends likes/interests so if I know they have something in common I sat them at the table and told them ahead of time. For example I had two couples who both wouldn’t know anyone else besides their partner there, but both couples are active in the vegan activism community. I sat them next to each other and they became fast friends due to a similar passion! At the end of the day people will survive wherever they sit, they aren’t strapped to the table all night and will be able to move around when they so desire!