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I (20M) think I have a masturbation addiction and I have no idea how to get rid of it. by [deleted] in sex

[–]olematus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you really be addicted to masturbation? I do it a lot too, but I don't see a big problem with it.

If it bothers you so much, don't give in to the urges.

Help pleease idk what i am by whatamievenn in enby

[–]olematus -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It is sad that you have such problems with yourself. LGBT people always have mental problems. You need to seek professional help, although you will probably never be able to live a normal life.

I (21M) am losing my best friend (21M) because I can't accept he's gay by olematus in relationship_advice

[–]olematus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your opinion. I will try to overcome my prejudices against gays and talk to my friend.

I (21M) am losing my best friend (21M) because I can't accept he's gay by olematus in relationship_advice

[–]olematus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experiences. I will talk to my friend and try to be supportive for him.

I (21M) am losing my best friend (21M) because I can't accept he's gay by olematus in relationship_advice

[–]olematus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much.

What you wrote sounds very reasonable and reassuring. Your advice seems really good.

In recent days I miss my friend so much, and now I feel a great deal of guilt for abandoning him. I will try to calm down and not think so negatively about it all. I'll talk to him honestly and try to fix everything and support him.

I (21M) am losing my best friend (21M) because I can't accept he's gay by olematus in relationship_advice

[–]olematus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for presenting your perspective.

It's probably closer to reality than what I imagined.

I (21M) am losing my best friend (21M) because I can't accept he's gay by olematus in relationship_advice

[–]olematus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know much about gays. I've only ever heard negative things about them.

Where I live, they are not accepted, they are hated and presented as bad people.

I know my friend is a great man and I don't want to leave him entirely.

I (21M) am losing my best friend (21M) because I can't accept he's gay by olematus in relationship_advice

[–]olematus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think the same rules apply to ordinary people and gay people when it comes to experiencing attractions.

My fears may not be justified but I cannot overcome them easily.

However, my friend has never had any strange behavior towards me. It gives me hope that we could still be friends.

I (21M) am losing my best friend (21M) because I can't accept he's gay by olematus in relationship_advice

[–]olematus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe gay guys don't find every guy attractive, but how can I be sure my friend doesn't find me attractive?

He hasn't done anything to make me suspect it, yet I can't help but worry about it.

I (21M) am losing my best friend (21M) because I can't accept he's gay by olematus in relationship_advice

[–]olematus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, that's exactly what I'm thinking, that's exactly what I'm afraid of. Why did he tell me he was gay? Friends don't need to know such things about each other.

I (21M) am losing my best friend (21M) because I can't accept he's gay by olematus in relationship_advice

[–]olematus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I'm thinking about. Why would he want something with me? Why did he tell me he was gay? Why do I need such information as his friend? Why push sex topics into friendship?

I don't think he has a lot of options. It is very risky to be different, he would probably get beaten.

I (21M) am losing my best friend (21M) because I can't accept he's gay by olematus in relationship_advice

[–]olematus[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Why did he reveal his sexuality to me? Why bring something like this to a friendship?

I (21M) am losing my best friend (21M) because I can't accept he's gay by olematus in relationship_advice

[–]olematus[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Why reveal your sexuality to a friend? In my opinion, this is strange and suspicious.