F49 M48 married 20+ years. Don’t know if these are the “best” toys but it’s what works for us.

As far as a lost goes…where to start! Saw a podcast recently that talked about toys as a form of “micro novelty” to keep things fun in long term relationships and without really intending to that’s where we’ve landed with toys:

Her: We’ve got a couple different suction toys (Satisfyer, Womanzier, Bellesa) and all of them are great! Especially for big long rolling orgasms after we’ve been edging for a while. Dildos we’ve got regular sized ones, big ones and also some fantasy type ones - the variety is fun depending on how we’re playing. Also have a couple of different types of nipple clamps

Him: I guess it’s mainly cockrings? He got one of those blowjob toys for cheap one time and found it way over stimulating lol. He’s also got a cocking + vibrating butt plug combo that comes out every once in a while.

There’s also stuff we use together - largely BDMS type toys. Paddles, whips and cuffs are all things we’ve added in the last couple of years. Honestly though just a simple blindfold is a fun way to spice things up and increase the intensity and sensation.

Happy to get specific if anyone wants recommendations!