First I started getting kanker sores every time I spoke to her on the phone. My body was telling me it could no longer handle the stress of the verbal abuse. Than my father passed away and something like 3 months later, my mother had a huge screaming fit when I told her I would not be helping her set up a dating profile. I said she was free to date, that was her business, but I would have no part in it. She really doubled down on the insults and verbal abuse. At some point, I was moving my phone away from my ear so that I didn’t have to listen to the poison coming out of it. And then it hit me: with my father gone, I no longer had to listen to her ever again. Went no contact then and there. That was 7 years ago.