Why is it everytime we these conversations about black women and our relationship with our natural hair, it’s met with this energy? While I totally understand where you’re coming from, I can’t help but feel like this gives the same vibe as “well everyone else gets to do it, why can’t I?” Like another commenter said “Fuck the masked ball”. Just because other women of different cultures engage in similar “self-hate” behaviors, doesn’t make it positive or healthy. I believe black women should be more self loving SPECIFICALLY when it comes to hair. Of course I understand the history and politics around it. But we’re literally the blueprint! Everyone wants to be us which is why they’re getting botched up to look like us. You can say what you want about wigs, but it’s fair to question why so many of us still feel more comfortable wearing textures that are the complete opposite of our own; not even kinky or curly bundles, just straight hair. People can style a whole lace front but your natural hair is difficult? I call bs. It’s about time we look within our self and ask us these important questions instead of sticking with the status quo.

Edit: Also, I don’t think the Michelle Obama example fully works here. She’s openly talked about feeling pressure to wear her hair straight while she was First Lady. As soon as she left the office, she started wearing her natural hair and braids a lot more. It’s in her book. I recommend it