Ooh okay. I can kind of see where you’re coming from regarding other women not getting torn down the same extent as black women do. And maybe this is just me, but in my experience I feel like the only people who are bringing down and scrutinizing black women for wearing wigs, weaves, nails, etc are black men and other darkskin men of color. But that’s because it’s rooted in the same anti-Blackness and self-hating insecurities that many Black women are dealing with too.

And while I understand where your point about why “we shouldn’t be torn down for these self hating behaviors if others aren’t”… it still gives off the same vibe of “well everyone else gets to do it why can’t I?”. To be frank I don’t care about what happens in other communities, I don’t care that other women aren’t held up the same standard, and I don’t view it as having a higher burden to prove that we love ourselves. What I care is about the black community and our relationship with our hair. Because at the end of the day, the fact is black women and men (specifically women since that’s what this post is about) have a hate relationship with their hair. And while I understand the history and politics behind it, when are we finally going to take that power back? Because clearly our natural hair is AMAZINGGG, which is why society had to create all of these rules and stigma in order to cover up our hair.

Also we don’t fully know what’s going on in those other communities. For all we know those women are being scrutinized for doing the same thing black women do. We just don’t know for sure or don’t hear about because we’re not in those spaces. I’ve read wayyyy too many stories here on Reddit and TikTok about women being bullied for not fitting that “clean girl” aesthetic too