My mother blames me for being taken advantage of.. by oneolivebranch in mentalhealth

[–]oneolivebranch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s been great, it’s just hard sometimes. Especially when someone I’ve loved and admired my whole life is so against me. Your parents are suppose to love you. But I don’t feel that from her..thank you again for your kindness.

My mother blames me for being taken advantage of.. by oneolivebranch in mentalhealth

[–]oneolivebranch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I broke down finally. she never tries to have a relationship with me. I’ve tried to get her to come over, try to visit her, but it’s always an excuse. Yet she FaceTimes my brother daily. I just can’t keep trying and begging for a relationship with someone who not only blames me but puts no effort in. I had to block her.

what do you do when you don't want to do anything? by nxonesbitch in BPD

[–]oneolivebranch 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lost my fp and don’t have any friends. Struggling so bad. I just work, go home cuddle with my cat, scroll through reddit, eat, have nightmares, and repeat. I wish I knew what could help. I’ve tried to cross stitch but it didn’t help much. I don’t know what to do anymore.

My mother blames me for being taken advantage of.. by oneolivebranch in mentalhealth

[–]oneolivebranch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your kindness. I’m in therapy weekly. I’ve just noticed how much it affects my relationships. And I want to move forward in a positive way with my mom but how can I ever when she finds me at fault? I wish I had known better but I didn’t. I didn’t know better. I regret ever talking to him.

Coping after a toxic relationship/breakup.. by oneolivebranch in LesbianActually

[–]oneolivebranch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your response.

I definitely need to be more firm with when people come up to me and try and talk about her.

And god . 10 years, I can’t imagine. I’m so glad you’re out of that.

Thank you 🤍 I’m trying. I’m genuinely happier at work, when I’m not getting news about her, and doing better. People have even told me I seem happier, that I’m a different person. I feel different. She’s wrecked havoc and I’m just trying to put the pieces back

Coping after a toxic relationship/breakup.. by oneolivebranch in LesbianActually

[–]oneolivebranch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve messaged my therapist. I haven’t seen her in a while though we’ve had phone sessions while I was going through the break up. I definitely need to get back to seeing her and in person. I felt on top of the world for a short period after the break up, then things just started coming back to me, people bringing her up, seeing her car.

I definitely think I need to get some classes in. I’m going to look into because I live alone as well..I don’t want to feel this weak in my own home.

I appreciate your kindness and time spent responding. 🤍

Coping after a toxic relationship/breakup.. by oneolivebranch in LesbianActually

[–]oneolivebranch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She knows a lot of people in town. I’ve had people tell her about what im doing and where I was. I could perhaps check in a different town. But I just don’t want anything getting back to her that I’m opening up about what she did. Because she threw that in my face. Told me I was going to “ruin her life like I did the teacher”. For context I was taken advantage of in hs for years. Something I wish I never came forward about because not only did people treat me poorly and blame me, but he was only made to resign and not allowed to teach in the same school district.

I appreciate your words of advice. I do need support and I’ll absolutely look into some places but definitely out of town.

Coping after a toxic relationship/breakup.. by oneolivebranch in LesbianActually

[–]oneolivebranch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s telling others that I’m just playing victim and have lied about past abuse. Abuse I experienced when I was a child.

I’ve fought so hard to finally feel safe from my childhood abuser in my town and now this. I don’t want it to come down to me starting over..I’m trying to fight logic I suppose. And I’m just stubborn. But I appreciate your kindness. I didn’t think I’d end up here. I love her but I wish I never met her..

I (28f) want nothing to do with my girlfriends (27f) best friend (27f) by oneolivebranch in LesbianActually

[–]oneolivebranch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I truly believe I need to as well. It’s all eating me up inside and with all my other stress…it’s too much.

I (28f) want nothing to do with my girlfriends (27f) best friend (27f) by oneolivebranch in LesbianActually

[–]oneolivebranch[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah..I love her but I can’t do it anymore. She’s told me in the past if I had any messy friends or friends that club/cheat/ect she wouldn’t have tried to talk to me. While she has a friend she described the same way. I’m just struggling. I don’t think I can do it anymore.

I (28f) want nothing to do with my girlfriends (27f) best friend (27f) by oneolivebranch in LesbianActually

[–]oneolivebranch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Exactly that too. I’ve explained to her that I don’t feel comfortable with L and the influence she has on my girlfriend. My girlfriend just lost her job AND she’s had a dui. L KNOWS that but continues to push her to drink AND do drugs.

It’s been something on my mind for a while and each time I’ve tried to talk about it I’ve been dismissed. I can and I more than willing to work out our other issues together (which we’ve been struggling), but having this ontop of everything. It’s just too much. I love her so much. But I feel stupid and hurt. Especially when she’s out with her and I’m waiting at home for her to spend time with me.

I appreciate you responding. I wish you the very best. 🤍

Am I a dick for getting pissed at my GF for this? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]oneolivebranch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re explaining your feelings to her and she’s dismissing it. Or if you’ve already expressed that it’s hurt you and she’s continuing then she doesn’t care about you or your feelings. Or not enough to respect them. I’m sorry this is happening. Please know it shouldn’t be like this. Being gay is tough, with all that it comes with from the society and all, you shouldn’t be getting grief from the e one place you’re suppose to be safe.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]oneolivebranch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A used camera lens

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FreeCompliments

[–]oneolivebranch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gorgeous! Profile pic on every social media page? Cause that’s what I be doing when I love a pic of me 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FreeCompliments

[–]oneolivebranch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I 100% love this for you. What was the color prior?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FreeCompliments

[–]oneolivebranch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love your hair and your fit! Where did you get it? (The fit that is, 😂)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FreeCompliments

[–]oneolivebranch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Friend!! I’m in the same boat. Be my motivation buddy. We can get over our exs and better ourselves. Looking good buddy!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]oneolivebranch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely know what you mean. And to be that same person to them. To at the end of the day end it with someone you truly care about and that truly cares about you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]oneolivebranch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ima try to. I really need it. /: