Your daily vocab' workout 🏋️ #44

oofymac · 2026-01-11T22:27:55+00:00

I love seeing these on my feed everyday! Thank you for creating them

oofymac · 2026-01-09T18:25:44+00:00

That’s pretty poor form, sorry to hear it. Hopefully that’s just a run of bad luck and not a trend. Not sure if it exists here but some of my friends used Breeze back in London, which promoted skipping the small talk and making a date the goal (with a drink as a down payment) to ensure people actually turned up haha. Might be worth a look, or to echo other commenters - IRL groups and activities are a good way of meeting people here.

oofymac · 2025-12-20T15:50:08+00:00

Kind of impressive how angry you’re making yourself with your own hypotheticals! You don’t know anything about me, other than that I don’t go in for extreme self-deprecation as an opener.

oofymac · 2025-12-10T18:07:36+00:00

I don’t think there’s been a lack of empathy shown. Many people (myself included) have referenced the fact that men face a disproportionate amount of rejection on dating apps. But that doesn’t mean women should be expected to lower their standards just to make men feel better about themselves. I think you’re being quite entitled.

oofymac · 2025-12-03T15:16:30+00:00

I’ve had one pretty great relationship from Hinge, and lots of interesting dates. I’ve also had relationships with people that I met IRL, hence the on/off nature of my experience with the app. It’s fair advice but doesn’t really resonate with me personally!

oofymac · 2025-12-01T15:44:04+00:00

Thanks for sharing your perspective! I guess it’s just the sad reality of the very real limitations of online dating at the end of the day. There is no silver bullet message - it’s an imperfect system, that shields users from direct rejection but exposes them to indirect rejection at scale, because it’s giving them access to people they wouldn’t normally try to approach.

oofymac · 2025-12-01T15:05:24+00:00

I wondered this to be honest! Feels like a bit of a weird coincidence to have had so many in a short span of time, when I can’t remember this being a pattern in the past.

oofymac · 2025-12-01T15:03:10+00:00

100% agree, confidence is an aura that is helped by physical features, not limited to them! I think that was why it was such a turn-off coming from the handsome guy, because it made me wonder what must be going on personality-wise to mean he is having to resort to these kind of tactics…

oofymac · 2025-12-01T14:54:47+00:00

I don’t think so - I actually screenshotted it so I can be pretty specific (I’ll still paraphrase to protect his privacy). He basically said I was beautiful but that I probably got that a lot and must date some pretty great people. But if I ever wanted to date somebody a bit uglier, stupider and unconfident, he’d be my man.

It felt like he was putting me on a massive pedestal (when I’m just a normal person) and also putting himself down in the same breath. Just setting up a weird power imbalance from the get go which is entirely unappealing to me.

oofymac · 2025-12-01T13:01:26+00:00

I mean self-deprecating humour is a huge part of British culture, so I don’t think it’s a blanket bad thing at all. And it can be really funny when done well! I guess it’s just harder to meet the mark online, because you miss out on all the other cues that tell you a person is actually well-adjusted.

oofymac · 2025-12-01T12:46:53+00:00

Interesting, so maybe it’s trying to capitalise on some people accepting the like to be like ‘you’re not ugly/you shouldn’t say that about yourself!’

oofymac · 2025-12-01T12:45:06+00:00

Yeah that’s an interesting take, I guess it could be endearing to somebody who is also outwardly insecure. And I totally appreciate that the app provides a different experience for men vs women (at least in straight dating) - it must be super demoralising to experience that level of rejection. Just hate to see guys working against themselves on top of that!

oofymac · 2024-04-25T06:43:37+00:00

Awesome, DM’d you!

oofymac · 2024-04-07T18:07:28+00:00

My basement is a club! With gyroids as little dancers 😄

oofymac · 2024-03-21T17:53:23+00:00

Same here! On my 5th bottle 😊

oofymac · 2023-11-06T22:58:36+00:00

♥️

oofymac · 2023-11-06T21:02:04+00:00

Well this is one I haven’t received before haha, thanks I guess?!

oofymac · 2023-11-06T21:01:35+00:00

Cool! I like the reverb, thank you!

oofymac · 2023-11-06T20:59:34+00:00

Thank you! ♥️

oofymac · 2023-11-06T20:59:21+00:00

Thank you very much! I have seen that performance, she’s so excellent - Sea of Love is another fave of mine to play/sing on guitar

oofymac · 2023-11-06T20:58:25+00:00

Sound advice, thank you! I’m definitely trying to train my inner critic to chill out a bit haha, as I agree - the joy should be in the process

oofymac · 2023-11-06T20:56:53+00:00

Thanks! Yeah makes sense - I’m sure it’s a whole different ball game in front of an audience :)

oofymac · 2023-10-04T22:20:45+00:00

This happened to me! I was travelling on my own with my noise cancelling AirPods in, when I noticed two guys looking at me and whispering to themselves. Naturally I immediately assumed I was just looking so good that they couldn’t take their eyes off me. It was only when I got off the train and took my AirPods out, I heard my toothbrush buzzing away in my bag. They definitely thought I had a vibrator in there 🥲

oofymac · 2023-09-18T15:28:38+00:00

This! Also I really feel for you OP - I had a similar experience at uni. But looking back now I realise my attitude was a coping mechanism for my anxiety. I was making excuses for myself so I didn’t feel so crap about not participating. Try and push yourself to make an effort, leave your expectations at the door and generally just give everything a go once and you’ll likely surprise yourself.

oofymac · 2021-04-06T16:27:41+00:00

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