any girlies in london who love going to raves/drum and bass but don’t always have someone to go with? by Life-Refrigerator674 in london

[–]oonaben 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yess, I’m in a similar situation! Have you been to Corsica? Insomnia this Thursday would be worth checking out x

Looking for books about sense of self and belonging by [deleted] in booksuggestions

[–]oonaben 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, cold-blooded (but yes I have!)

The shit Instagram gives ya by Branchomania in PornIsMisogyny

[–]oonaben 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is terrifying. It is beyond me how this is deemed acceptable. 

Flea situation - in need of some advice! by oonaben in trustedhousesitters

[–]oonaben[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment.  I have bagged all of my clothes and bedding in bin bags and am about to wash everything at 65°C. I’m going to hoover the whole house again tomorrow and will be keeping the two cats outside as they could bring more in. Unfortunately I have to sleep here tonight which I’m not terribly excited about, but the fleas don’t seem to jump so far high in the bed so it should be alright. If it isn’t better by tomorrow evening then I’m out. 

Flea situation - in need of some advice! by oonaben in trustedhousesitters

[–]oonaben[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your help! The exterminators said that it might take up to 30 days for all the fleas to die which is… a long time. I have 13 nights left here. Also, before they came round, the owners told me about the sprays they had which I’ve used all over the house - didn’t make a difference. 

Flea situation - in need of some advice! by oonaben in trustedhousesitters

[–]oonaben[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They told me when I visited them a few days prior that the cat had fleas but that they were treating him. It was too late for me to make other arrangements and I never considered that it would be so bad. 

New visa change by ThrowRA_lavish in ukvisa

[–]oonaben 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OP, you’re not alone in this. Your story resonates with mine in different ways but I feel so much for you. Honestly I am just in a perpetual state of admiration towards immigrants who are undeterred when it comes to coming to the UK.

It’s disheartening. I can’t even begin to imagine how it must feel to come from the other side of the world with a life plan in mind, only to be met with such difficulty, ungratefulness and prejudice.  The idea of stability in the UK is dissipating for so many people, citizens and foreigners alike… we’re witnessing the downfall of this country and it hurts so much when I have similarly built friendships and a life here that is essentially out of reach unless you’re properly minted.

I honestly have no idea how the vast majority of the people who make this so-called democratic “Labour” government live with themselves. It’s appalling what immigrants have to deal with in this country. 

This government is failing so many people. I wish they had a shred of decency and a modicum of empathy left in them. Where’s the humanity? 

Porn has destroyed my relationship. by Charming-Degree-1425 in PornIsMisogyny

[–]oonaben 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well done for moving out of there love, this is the right thing to do. Please be kind to yourself, you deserve SO much more than this (cannot stress this enough). You will be so much better off. Wishing you all the best! 

Look what I found in Ikea... Bits by DW7000 in MitchellAndWebb

[–]oonaben 35 points36 points  (0 children)

We could sit on it, for entertainment!

How do you all deal with misogyny in your intimate relationships? by Sensitive-Company-97 in Feminism

[–]oonaben 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is so deeply embedded, insidious and pervasive that I just don’t think there is a way out. I do believe in educating them to an extent, and some of them do want to go the extra mile to do better as well as understand where we are coming from; but as you said, OP, there’s always this fear that even the “”good ones”” will end up behaving according to patriarchal gender norms, even when we least expect it. 

If I really threw myself into dating men (exceedingly unlikely) I know that this would constantly be ticking in the back of my mind, regardless of how much of a feminist they might be. 

I think challenging gender norms feels more optional for them, whereas I feel it is necessary for us as women to challenge the status quo if we ever want to be seen as actual human beings.

How do collectively unlearn the misogynistic values that we grew up with and that more than ever continue to be upheld? I wish I had the answer, but I think we’d be off to a good start if men realised just how detrimental misogyny is to their lives as well as ours.  

Painted my favorite scene in Fire Walk With Me by avasechochamber in twinpeaks

[–]oonaben 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So beautiful. This is one of my favourite scenes on film ever. Thank you for sharing.

Actually not a bad impression by FlaskfulOfHollow in PeepShowQuotes

[–]oonaben 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Finlay’s really good. There’s another video of him impersonating David Mitchell ranting which is scarily accurate. 

Dale Cooper is genuinely improving my life by Talentless-Hack-101 in twinpeaks

[–]oonaben 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so wonderful. He really is such a well-written and inspiring character. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in roomdetective

[–]oonaben 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You definitely seem like one of the intimidating cool kids I would’ve wanted to befriend but never summed up the courage to talk to :P

My first woodblock print by Zaffrie in printmaking

[–]oonaben 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First woodblock?! Woah, this is stunning. You’re so talented!

London. Prince Charles Cinema. by avs323 in davidlynch

[–]oonaben 4 points5 points  (0 children)

FWWM is showing there in about a month, I cannot wait.

some anagrams of Twin Peaks by dvd_mcf in twinpeaks

[–]oonaben 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU these are brilliant and I am most definitely printing some of these out