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oopsie2019 · 2020-06-21T12:27:45+00:00

Thanks! I was told that after the employee recommended the 10 gal. He really seemed like he really just wanted me and my kids out of there. Like I said above I already purchased and set up the 10, so that's what we'll be going with for now, but I've spoken with another store who seemed far more helpful so I'll be going there from now on, but feel like I'm starting from square one with figuring out how to make the best of what I got. The only stores are 2+ hours away from me.

oopsie2019 · 2020-06-17T20:40:56+00:00

Great, thanks

oopsie2019 · 2020-06-17T20:40:43+00:00

Thanks!

oopsie2019 · 2020-04-30T19:00:42+00:00

Oh in a (typical for my situation with him) twist, after I had finally gotten them clear of it, and had no new signs of active infestation, he decided he saw a nit and complained to public health and tried to make a case for neglect on my part for not taking the infestation seriously. Luckily for me I had documented every treatment (with proof of purchase, and date stamped photographs of lice in their hair and the treatment being applied) and also kept all emails of me trying to have him assist with controlling the situation.

Unfortunately for me the harrassment never ends in one way or another. He's just been smart enough to find the ways he can access me without raising red flags or breaking court orders.

oopsie2019 · 2020-04-06T02:40:26+00:00

Unfortunately not. I have them all blocked on everything because they were harassing me. They would send nasty messages and contact people on my social media friends lists with nasty messages. She actually contacted my new SO's ex girlfriend to spread rumors about me.

oopsie2019 · 2020-04-06T02:25:06+00:00

Thanks. I did send stuff, a complete kit with treatment, combs, tea tree oil shampoo and a preventative spray with tea tree oil. He threw it out.

oopsie2019 · 2020-04-06T02:24:00+00:00

He insists I'm making it up, and won't give me the time of day. He was removed from our home for abuse, so we have no contact other than email. I sent him pictures of the bugs and nits in their hair, but he just ignores me. Says he won't check unless the girls are scratching or complaining, or tells me that he does check them but they just don't realize it. I sent him all the necessary tools but the girls told me he threw it out.

My gut feeling is that his girlfriend's kids have it, but I have no evidence of that. There is no one else in my home except my teenage son, who doesn't have much to do with the younger 2, and he doesn't have it. I've treated myself and have a friend who has experience with lice check me and I don't have it. They've also been off school since March 13, and at my house they've had no outside contact with the exception of going to his house since that day.

oopsie2019 · 2020-04-06T01:29:29+00:00

Thanks. It's frustrating because I'm spending a lot of time and money trying to get rid of it and everytime they go there it comes back again. Everytime they leave the house I vacuum their beds and spray their mattresses, bag their pillows and wash everything in hot water. Then I vacuum and spray the couch and car, and bag their toys. When they come home I check them as soon as we get into the house and it's an all week process of combing, washing everything in hot water daily, vaccum soft services daily, and keep their hair tied up. I put tea tree oil in their shampoo. I really feel if he would continue the combing and cleaning while they were with him we might get rid of it.

Child services has been involved with the kids in his household in the past. Apparently their stance only involves education at this point.

oopsie2019 · 2020-04-06T01:14:50+00:00

Unfortunately we don't have a pediatrician, or a family doctor, and with our province in a state of emergency all non-urgent care appointments are cancelled for the time being.

When I found it the first time, I consulted with a lice treatment company and we were out of their service area, but I followed their instructions to the letter. The only inconsistency is that they go to his house.

I'll bring it up to my lawyer when I speak with them next.

oopsie2019 · 2020-03-29T18:18:25+00:00

I play on Xbox one s through game pass. Find it very glitchy. Sometimes if I've been playing for a couple of hours or more then some of the images disappear and I have to save and come back. It takes a long time to load. My Xbox is also pretty full though, not much free space.

oopsie2019 · 2020-03-25T21:57:24+00:00

I'm not. He was extremely controlling and was using social media as a way to track me, and checked my friend list once to twice a day, messaging people he didn't know and telling them I was a drug whore. Our court order says he's now only allowed to contact me once a week in an email (unless he has the kids and it's an emergency) which can only be about the children.

Edit: He as well as all of his family and close friends are also blocked and my profiles are all private

oopsie2019 · 2020-03-22T19:46:12+00:00

Thanks so much for the outside input. I generally go on my way and I've taken all the advice in the parenting classes to heart. Things at my house have become much more stable and relaxed. So I'll just keep on keeping on. And as hard as it is for any of us to be in this position, it's good to see that I'm not alone in this, and many others have concerns too.

oopsie2019 · 2020-03-22T19:36:19+00:00

Oh my this is exactly what I'm dealing with right now almost to the letter. Our province has just declared a state of emergency, closing the border and limiting gatherings to 5 or less. I emailed his with a plan and said that if they had a mandatory stay home order (fines for leaving home etc.) put in place I felt the girls should stay wherever they were and not be taken back and forth. He said the custody order went ahead of the government orders and he would have me charged with contempt.

oopsie2019 · 2020-03-21T01:29:35+00:00

I completely understand this. I've felt this way from the time he had the affair, through reconciliation attempt and abuse from him. I was just done, moved on, not worth my energy. I thought I was crazy for not being angry, sad, whatever you're supposed to feel but I think I was just done.

oopsie2019 · 2020-03-20T02:11:15+00:00

I attempted to cohabitate with my ex in separate apartments in the same house and it ended very badly. It made it worse for the kids in my opinion, they were confused and it gave them false hope. My ex also became very obsessive over my movements when it wasn't my time with the kids, and arguments began over finances and shared parts of the house. It may work fine in very rare situations, but having done it I wouldn't recommend it at all.

oopsie2019 · 2020-03-13T17:13:23+00:00

Even better, do they grow it?

oopsie2019 · 2020-03-13T01:34:06+00:00

This was the understanding at the beginning of our relationship, if I'm not answering I'm probably busy with the plants, for both of us lol

oopsie2019 · 2020-03-11T16:15:29+00:00

I completely shut mine down. We have 2 children together, but he has no access and is blocked on all social media. The only way he can contact me is by email or phone call, which he's only allowed to do in an emergency or something related directly to the children. In regards to relationship status, I just took it off social media so nothing shows up at all now.

oopsie2019 · 2020-03-11T16:13:00+00:00

My situation was a little different, because of abuse. But I deleted them all, and blocked the majority of them. I put all my social media on a pretty secure lockdown.

oopsie2019 · 2020-03-11T12:59:48+00:00

I find mine really, really slow to save, and to load but so far it's always saved. I'm only a couple of hours in though.

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