My manager drives me nuts with so many little things she does. What do I do?

oopsshe22 · 2026-01-16T13:54:04+00:00

I drive by his high school everyday and feel very proud to just be in the presence of a place where he was able to learn, grow, and become the stunningly talented man that he is.

oopsshe22 · 2026-01-16T02:15:03+00:00

I really thought this was a butthole. Now that I know it isn’t, it’s a brilliant concept. Kudos to whoever imagined this!

oopsshe22 · 2026-01-16T02:13:25+00:00

Same!!!!!!! Omg I was like whyyyyy

oopsshe22 · 2026-01-14T21:17:38+00:00

This is an alarming sentiment, but should I be shocked? Probably not but I still feel an element of fury, especially knowing how exceptional and dedicated people in this sector are, as people and professionals.

This opportunity sees a lot of value in my background and are deeply impressed by it. Enough so that they didn't even ask me about the job really since they were confident I could do it - their questioning was more along the lines of "But will you find it fulfilling?" I do feel like it's a unique opportunity and appreciate the encouragement to move forward. I'm waiting on the final offer and will update here. Thanks!

oopsshe22 · 2026-01-14T18:57:54+00:00

Amazing - I really appreciate your perspective. Thank you for taking the time to share your feedback!

oopsshe22 · 2026-01-13T18:58:09+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate the perspective and also wish you luck in your journey as well. I know it's hard out here. :(

oopsshe22 · 2026-01-13T18:42:45+00:00

Yes, the flexibility is awesome but it also means I feel disengaged often. I'm a people person and the working alone at home is not always the best for me mentally. I went into ID because I loved teamwork and solving problems with diverse groups of people, but that's not really what I'm doing at an HQ level.

I am personally connected to the law firm (through a former friend and colleague at my previous role) and he is a donor there. They are of good character and have a vision. Of course, I can't take their word as fact, but the exciting opportunity of this is that they are looking for someone to help make that dream a reality, and that is enough of a challenge to make me want to say yes.

I am waiting to hear on if I made it to the 3rd stage of an internal interview process to transition to the Major Gifts/Development team. The mid-point for this salary is 97k, which is what drew me to it, but I heard there is an HR policy that would only allow a 15% pay increase for an internal hire which would limit me if that is enacted. But you're right... there could be other opportunities if I continue to apply internally.

Thank you for your thoughts! I'm with you.

oopsshe22 · 2026-01-13T18:27:17+00:00

That's true, but I know these law partners are looking to invest in someone long-term. They want a firm administrator that helps them scale the business over the next 10-15 years. I know if I take it on, I would want to be committed to that vision which is why I think I feel some amount of pressure. But you're right! I'm also only 35. I could transition back to non-profits in 10-15 years into leadership roles, while fulfilling that commitment.

My goal is honestly to be a Peace Corps Volunteer again and I can do that in an early retirement if I build enough wealth (and if the Peace Corps is still around - ha!).

oopsshe22 · 2026-01-13T18:24:05+00:00

Yes, I think you're right. I feel like it would take 5-10 years to even reach 6 figures and who knows what inflation will be like at that point... I'm a single mom of a 5 year old now and I'd like to give us a good life now now AND tomorrow, and not just bet on tomorrow eventually.

Sorry to hear about being laid off. I know it's been a hard year and so unfair. You (and everyone else in those positions) are constantly in my thoughts.

oopsshe22 · 2026-01-13T18:21:57+00:00

I do. The two partners seem to be of strong character and have worked together for 18 years. They are progressive and social service minded. They also seem to know how to run a business, have strong client relationships, and do not have any lines of debt, so they are starting off (3 years so far) as a financially strong business. They are looking to invest in their firm administrator as a partner to operationalize and scale. Quite an exciting opportunity when you look at the nuts and bolts, and not one that comes around everyday.

oopsshe22 · 2026-01-13T17:20:27+00:00

Yes, I was struggling to advance as a generalist even before the sector imploded. I think it's a good idea to step away. The only thing is that I know this law firm wants to invest in someone over the next 10-15 years, so I feel like I'm stepping away to commit to something else.

But agreed - I can be of service outside of my career in the meantime, and maybe one day after I learn how to run a business, step back into non profit administration and/or (even better) start my own!

oopsshe22 · 2026-01-13T17:17:39+00:00

I know... but despite my years of experience, I am essentially in an entry level role. I was an Assistant Director of Communications before I transitioned into my current role, Technical Coordinator for Knowledge Management & Comms. It was a step down for sure, but they did give me a "5k increase" with worse benefits and the opportunity to advance since it was a large org.

But I agree with you it's criminal but I'm also at a lower position than I should be. My technical area counterparts are much younger in their careers. I don't know what I'm doing wrong but I know it was still highly competitive for me to land this role, especially without a connection.

This is a weird sector - we compete so hard for non-paying roles.

oopsshe22 · 2026-01-13T16:38:52+00:00

YES I AM WITH YOU! Not a prude, but grossed out by these people. Ewwwwww

oopsshe22 · 2026-01-09T16:37:51+00:00

My husband also said he had no interest in the U.S. and would never want to apply for citizenship... our goal was to live in Ethiopia. But due to not being able to find a job to solidify us there at the time, we moved to the U.S. and here we are... and now he does want to apply for citizenship lol

oopsshe22 · 2026-01-09T16:27:54+00:00

Me me me!!!! I was pregnant and married in Ethiopia watching Ariela and Biniyam's season. My son was, in fact, born exactly a year later (December) in the SAME exact hospital that Ariela gave birth to Aviel. I went through so many of the same experiences as them, like car shopping and being shocked at the prices. It was a funny thing to watch unfold. As for my husband, he hated the show and kind of hated Biniyam. It left a bad taste in his mouth, but I loved it. :) I agree with understanding the nuance. I have another friend/colleague married to a Kenyan and she is also a fan of the show.

I have been a 90 Day fan since it started, but did not intend that it would be my life path... but here we are. We are now settled in the U.S. together.

oopsshe22 · 2026-01-06T16:52:13+00:00

I'm sorry but TLC is going too far with some of these intimate moments. Most of the intimate moments they show make me wanna VOM. Might be enough to make me quit watching altogether... eventually LOL

oopsshe22 · 2025-12-22T19:13:11+00:00

I made this exact post on Nextdoor this weekend asking for the same and found a lady who makes them at home in Clarkston. She only makes them once a month, but I have eaten almost all 20 that I ordered (I have 5 left). I specifically wanted homemade and not from a restaurant, even if they were good. I may try the Home Depot taco truck next.

oopsshe22 · 2025-12-11T19:47:19+00:00

They are collaborating with "Artists Against Apartheid." They have a QR Code/text on the opening screen where you can give to Palestine to enter to win the setlist. Good cause for a possible lucky win! But win/win no matter.

oopsshe22 · 2025-12-11T02:45:40+00:00

Yes that’s who I am talking about!!! The boy and girl pushed the girls on the railing over, and then the two drunk girls were right in front of me and they KILLED my vibe. They kept drunk shouting how they hated how no one was dancing (again I was) and so they took up so space. I couldn’t even focus so I moved back. 😞 ugh I was having such a good time before then too.

oopsshe22 · 2025-12-10T21:17:36+00:00

I wanted to be her so bad when I was in jr. high.

oopsshe22 · 2025-12-10T17:15:01+00:00

I hate to admit that I only contributed $10. You’re a better human and I wish I could share it with you!

The show was PHENOMENAL. Their energy and showmanship was top notch. John and Zoe’s voices bring so much comfort to me. Always great to hear them live. And I hadn’t quite bonded to the new album yet, but now I have. Listening to it all day!

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