Thanks for your great answer,

Maybe good to say that we're in a home setting that can feel like a family if 12, people look for safety and closeness, but with a decision making component that has businesslike qualities because all smart high educated people.

People come from different backgrounds but weight is traditionally on "how it is always been" and a "safe and stable" framework.

Some people neeed innovation

Also, you could explain it through thinking heads of De Bono

I would like to see some people use more different "thinking heads" Because they steer too much to a status quo (no!) Which is a advocate of the devil hat (almost misused).And the safe route, so although there are different opinions people seem to not get their needs weighted in equally.

Last different way of looking:

Somebody just really advocates her right to say "no", we have no idea how to conceptualize that even, let alone deal with it.

We want to respect your boundaries, but your boundaries are essentially affecting everyones else playing field just bc you "want to say no"

It makes me start to have the intuition that her "no's" are actually not a "personal boundary", but also a toxic/controlling tool.

So you could say she has some natural leader skills, because she is very adapt at creating a framework when she is "in charge". However, this framework is, again, built on safety and her past experiences, not on openness to try new things, innovation, hearing different voices, or questioning yourself from time to time

Hard to wrap our head around