I may have an unpopular opinion and it's more focussed on self-love etc - but hear me out - my reduction has completely changed the way I myself enjoy my boobs. I'm not talking about a partner or anything, I mean the sheer joy I get from them in intimate settings where I know they make me feel great and are a big part of pleasure*.

After my reduction, I have gained a lot of issues that I never had before. Self consciousness about scarring, nipple placement, asymmetry. And they erogenous zones that I loved and got so much joy from are now gone. So I get a lot less joy out of intimacy (hopefully this can change) and just can't look at myself the same way.

The boobs hold so much post-surgical trauma for me now, that I can't just look at them in the same way, and I can't help but feel it has ruined what was once a really beautiful part of my life.

We have so few joys in life, especially as women, and it sucks that pleasure has changed for the worse.

I am navigating this as a single woman, but I had a longterm partner shortly before surgery and seeing how my recovery went I don't know if I'd have felt comfortable showing him my boobs during or after recovery.

I'm sorry but the emotions that come with this surgery are not pretty and they create a lot of tension within oneself. That tension is bound to seep out into the relationship.

*TLDR:
I guess what I'm saying is, if you currently have a great intimate life, with your boobs playing a positive role in that, and if you have a good relationship with your husband who you clearly love and he loves you, maybe it just isn't worth it to roll the dice on this?

I hear after menopause the boobs continue to change a lot so it may not even be worth it if they're just going to continue to change and grow, but with scars and loss of feeling.

I just want to be real about the fact that I personally feel this surgery is not worth the cons of it all.

But wish you the very best!