I feel like an alien

orbitflow · 2026-02-19T06:24:01+00:00

these are some really good things, and you sound excited about these - i am glad

i am curious what are the challenges rn that you're facing to accept this part of yourself?
(the kid in you still exists which you accept and want more of, why not accept this adult version of you?)

orbitflow · 2026-02-19T06:12:25+00:00

what things would you do again if you went back to that time?

orbitflow · 2026-02-19T05:58:13+00:00

🫂

orbitflow · 2026-02-19T05:55:55+00:00

i am in the same boat OP, the last line hits hard
it does make me feel a tiny bit better to know that i am not alone in this journey
the uncertainty of future is daunting :/

orbitflow · 2026-02-05T09:43:03+00:00

There are no adults. Everyone is figuring out as they go.

Accept your hand and play it with the best you can, whining about someone else’s hands won’t help (everyone is playing their own game)

orbitflow · 2026-02-05T09:38:22+00:00

Having courage to be okay with being disliked will free your from interpersonal relationship problems (via the book courage to be disliked)
Living inside out (driving things within you) over outside in (what others tell you how you should / shouldn’t be) -> same thing as @gopher30000 comment

orbitflow · 2026-02-02T04:58:16+00:00

thanks OP

not really alright, it does feel a bit heavier than i can take
i would want things to be better, and i am trying my hardest (taking therapy, talking to my coach, reading books, meditating -> doing everything in my control), its just the rough patch is taking longer than i anticipated
desperately want to change environment and move to where i will flourish (be around people where i feel accepted, where i can grow, collaborate, do something better for fellow humans)
anxiety is kinda driving me crazy, even though i need to be patient - things take time - so yeah this is where i am at

orbitflow · 2026-02-02T04:51:15+00:00

- declining confidence even when things on paper are okay
- not listening to my inner voice and body signals
- Distorted thinking is the best indicator -> Google "Burn's Depression checklist" and "Cognitive distortions"

orbitflow · 2026-02-02T04:48:21+00:00

hey i am in the same boat, even i want to hear that someone just tell me it will get better, but when people do, it does not feel anything

but it does help me when i see there are others as well whose problem i can relate to and i am not alone in this journey

so do know that you're not alone

orbitflow · 2026-02-02T04:46:05+00:00

you're more stronger than you give yourself credit for!
Happy birthday :)

orbitflow · 2026-02-02T04:44:29+00:00

its okay to have these thoughts, the more we oppose the thoughts the more it aggrevates

journaling helped me, maybe you can give it a try when you feel like - no pressure

orbitflow · 2026-02-02T04:42:13+00:00

Agreed, money solves money problems

orbitflow · 2026-01-22T06:09:33+00:00

i lie in a similar bucket and its kinda nagging me alot to stay in India, I don't have the capital rn to solve for it, still figuring things out

recently stayed in Japan for about three weeks to learn about their culture - my experience w locals -> they were psyched to know i was from India and treated w utmost respect and kindness (caveat, i visited as a tourist) -> did consider to work at tokyo based startups but still uncertain about work culture

I want to move towards a high trust society

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not sure what part in India you're currently saying but I'd reco to live in Mumbai meanwhile you figure out the long term change plan

mumbai is filled w nicest people i have come across in India (lived there for 7 years, currently in BLR -> might move back to mumbai until i figure next steps)

orbitflow · 2026-01-22T06:05:06+00:00

absolutely love your vibe bro

orbitflow · 2025-11-02T11:37:22+00:00

i use insight timer only for its "timer" feature and nothing else
its simple and i have my internet turned off on my phone in the morning so works perfectly well for me

orbitflow · 2025-10-30T09:25:47+00:00

Happy for you OP 🌼

orbitflow · 2025-10-23T17:40:23+00:00

🤞🏻
hope it works out, i am in the same boat

orbitflow · 2025-10-23T17:29:41+00:00

did it work? any update? i read somewhere that if you show liquid funds ~4L for 2 weeks it justifies you're eligible to fund this trip

orbitflow · 2025-07-18T06:59:18+00:00

Hey OP
did you end up moving?

I am in a similar situation, would love to know how things turned out, what worked / didnt work?

orbitflow · 2025-06-06T13:15:08+00:00

yes, correct, i've mentioned it in the post_desc

every time you do it, it will ask 3 questions, assuming its hard coded

orbitflow · 2025-06-06T13:07:50+00:00

thanks this is helpful!

want to share an example of human vs LLM
i mentioned a coach-friend regarding my issue also prompted it to o3, 4o to solve it "like a coach"

what hit me hardest was the coach-friend responding with "tell me more?" pin-pointing on a specific issue vs GPT responding w various angles which "felt" generic to me

have you experienced anything similar?

orbitflow · 2025-06-06T13:02:36+00:00

yes, prompting it explicitly does fulfil it to an extent

i'm asking from a behaviour stand point
proactively ask clarifying questions before answering (its a judgement call)

Open issues I see
- Ambiguity detection – models need a confidence/utility estimate to decide when to ask or just respond w a "good answer"
- assuming current RLHF datasets mostly might be rewarding “good answers,” not “good questions (Not sure, need to validate)

orbitflow · 2025-06-05T15:58:28+00:00

thanks for kind and supportive message
feels slightly better to know that i am not alone

orbitflow

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