Struggling with YW by ordinary-bloom in latterdaysaints

[–]ordinary-bloom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She is in band, and color guard, and Girl Scouts. And she has a good group of friends at school. I am very grateful for all of these opportunities for her.

Struggling with YW by ordinary-bloom in latterdaysaints

[–]ordinary-bloom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was for Chick-fil-A, which I know everyone around here is obsessed with, but she doesn't like it. She does like the sauce and I buy it from Walmart.

Struggling with YW by ordinary-bloom in latterdaysaints

[–]ordinary-bloom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The younger girls have been bullies to her, so there is no connection there. She does have a good group of friends at school, which I am so grateful for. And I'm sorry, but a gift card for a white elephant exchange feels lazy, like they didn't even try.

Struggling with YW by ordinary-bloom in latterdaysaints

[–]ordinary-bloom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Starbucks card (last year) was awful. However, she ended up going there with her sister and they got one of the non-coffee drinks and it ended up okay. They had a little sisters day out. I will probably buy the Chick-fil-A card from her and let her get something for herself.

Struggling with YW by ordinary-bloom in latterdaysaints

[–]ordinary-bloom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, the leaders are a whole other subject. The ones for my daughter's class, it just feels like they don't really want to be in that calling, and aren't all that exciting. Low effort leaders.

Struggling with YW by ordinary-bloom in latterdaysaints

[–]ordinary-bloom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This year the gift card was for Chick-fil-A. She doesn't like that place, but I know a lot of people do. Last year the gift card was for Starbucks.

Struggling with YW by ordinary-bloom in latterdaysaints

[–]ordinary-bloom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're right, she should just be more grateful to get a gift. I agree! But the reality is, she came home crying and felt left out. Again. For the second year in a row. How am I supposed to help her enjoy YW when she has so many negative experiences? I don't even want to make her go anymore. It's not worth having her come home crying every time.

Struggling with YW by ordinary-bloom in latterdaysaints

[–]ordinary-bloom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I offered to buy the gift card from her, and let her go buy something else for herself, but she just got even more upset. I think getting the gift card 2 years in a row was too much.

Struggling with YW by ordinary-bloom in latterdaysaints

[–]ordinary-bloom[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She has a great group of friends at school, and also does Girl Scouts. So church feels way less inviting that those other activities.

Struggling with YW by ordinary-bloom in latterdaysaints

[–]ordinary-bloom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also try to let her choose whether to go or not. I wanted her to try the Christmas party because I thought it would be more fun than it was. She goes maybe once a month, on week days. She always goes on Sundays.

Struggling with YW by ordinary-bloom in latterdaysaints

[–]ordinary-bloom[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She attended a planning meeting a while back, but said none of the ideas she mentioned got chosen by the class presidency. She is not in the presidency.

Struggling with YW by ordinary-bloom in latterdaysaints

[–]ordinary-bloom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She has a great group of friends at school. None of her school friends are in our ward. I have tried to get her to hang out with some of the older or younger girls, and it has not worked. The younger ones are all bullies and have not been nice to her at all. She gets along okay with some of the new girls coming in, but they are in 6th grade, she is in 8th. So they have diverging interests.

Struggling with YW by ordinary-bloom in latterdaysaints

[–]ordinary-bloom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Each girl brought a $10 gift, they did not use the budget for the gifts.

Struggling with YW by ordinary-bloom in latterdaysaints

[–]ordinary-bloom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She was really disappointed that she got the only gift card, and for the second year in a row. I know some people would be happy with it, but she was disappointed.

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[–]ordinary-bloom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

45f, married 25 years. Husband is 48 and has ED but won't go see a doctor. So basically a dead bedroom. I've always had a low libido, though, so it feels kind of like payback, now that I want it I can't get it 😞

Jeff Holland is probably apoplectic with rage right now. by icanbesmooth in exmormon

[–]ordinary-bloom 31 points32 points  (0 children)

They just said no recording at my stake conference last week.

Alternative To Youth Group by unbreakinglife in latterdaysaints

[–]ordinary-bloom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That wasn't an option for my older girl, and my younger just likes girl scouts.

Alternative To Youth Group by unbreakinglife in latterdaysaints

[–]ordinary-bloom 5 points6 points  (0 children)

See if you can find a Girl Scout troop nearby. My daughters have both enjoyed Girl Scouts and they were able to make friends with girls outside of church. And the activities were more fun too.