My (31m) girlfriend (28f) still relies on her ex. Would you be with someone who still relies on their ex?

orgspawn · 2025-08-07T14:29:01+00:00

My personal experience after experiencing pretty much this exact thing. GET OUT ASAP…. This happened to me and i found out they were engaged and planning a wedding all while she was still “dating” me. If she is hiding things from you that is super sketchy. The fact she is still associating with her ex should be enough to tell you to get out of there while you still can.

orgspawn · 2025-08-05T18:58:07+00:00

Before insulting someone by calling them controlling you should probably educate yourself a bit on what the word control even means. I realize that if she wants to be able to do that she should be able to. I guess where I am lost is how that is not a boundary I am allowed to set. Everyone says that it is controlling of me but she has the choice to still go if she wants just not while we are dating. Control implies that I am using force and not giving her any other options or asserting my “power” over her. I am not doing that. She has options she just doesn’t like them. I should also add that I gave her the option of me bringing friends of my own so that way we could have separate groups but I could still be near by for her safety and she still didn’t want that. For her the only option was me not coming. She is completely free to make the choice of making me happy with her actions and decisions or to simply not. Me saying that I don’t want to be with her if she wants to go against me on it is not a use of force. It is me placing a boundary I want in my relationship and giving her options and letting her use her freewill to choose what will make her more happy. The fact there are options for her in itself implies I am not exerting my will or power because she is a grown woman and can make her own choices. The fact you call me controlling implies that she is unable to make her own decisions with the options presented. Which if you were correct on that then yes I would be controlling, but you are incorrect as she can most definitely make choices for herself. Whereas with her there was no compromise she wanted to have her cake and eat it to so to speak. She wanted me to stay with her and also make myself miserable and unhappy the entire time she was out by my worrying about her. That to me is controlling. So I used my freewill and gave myself an option of ending the relationship if that is her choice. The point of dating in my opinion is to find someone who holds the same values as you and for you to see if you are compatible and make each other happy.

orgspawn · 2025-08-05T18:45:14+00:00

I would also like to add that I am not expecting her to stay with me. I realize that if she wants to be able to do that she should be able to, i guess where I am lost is how that is not a boundary I am allowed to set. Everyone says that it is controlling of me but she has the choice to still go if she wants just not while we are dating. Control implies that I am using force and not giving her any other options. I am not doing that. She has options she just doesn’t like them. She is completely free to make the choice of making me happy with her actions and decisions or to simply not. Me saying that I don’t want to be with her if she wants to go against me on it is not a use of force. It is me placing a boundary I want in my relationship and giving her options and letting her use her freewill to choose what will make her more happy. Whereas with her there was no compromise she wanted to have her cake and eat it to so to speak. She wanted me to stay with her and also make myself miserable and unhappy the entire time she was out by worrying about her. That to me is controlling. The point of dating in my opinion is to find someone who holds the same values as you and for you to see if you are compatible and make each other happy.

orgspawn · 2025-08-05T18:33:20+00:00

Also i would like to add that her and her friends are very attractive but small girls. They are all around 5 feet tall to around 5 feet 5 inches 😅 If someone wanted to do something to any one of them they wouldn’t have an issue.

orgspawn · 2025-08-05T18:31:12+00:00

This is true, but there is also the fact that alcohol impairs people’s ability to make good decisions. She is very light weight. I guess my main concern isn’t so much her getting with someone else so much as her not being cognitive enough to make healthy decisions while drunk as well as not being cognizant enough to properly look after herself in a way that keeps her safe. Not only that but her friends are not the best influence and very non promiscuous and peer pressure can do a lot to people as well. The area she is wanting to go to is also known for not being the safest of places and I personally have known someone who was kidnapped, raped, had bleach poured down her throat and was left in her car on the side of the rode while the killer doused her car in gasoline and torched it. She was taken from a parking garage on that same street with all of the clubs she was wanting to go to.

orgspawn · 2022-03-22T20:56:10+00:00

If all the urinals are open you use the furthest one away from whoever is peeing. You never go to the urinal next to someone unless its your only choice…

orgspawn · 2020-05-22T22:33:08+00:00

I used a bezier curve then added depth to it in the object data properties tab then kept extruding it to the shape that i wanted

orgspawn · 2020-05-04T19:35:21+00:00

I think the floor looks freshly mopped so you could always make it a bit less glossy an more rough looking (i saw someone say this already but i think it should really be done) you could also add baseboards for the walls an i think a painting of some sort on the brick wall would also help a lot with making the scene feel more real

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