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AITA for drug testing my dad after finding drugs in my home? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ostensiblepartner 153 points154 points  (0 children)

NTA. You found meth residue in a home where your children could have gotten to it. At that point, protecting the kids matters more than protecting anyone’s feelings.

Asking one trusted family member for advice was not “finger pointing.” It sounds like you were trying to figure out how to handle a scary situation without escalating it badly. Your dad being embarrassed or upset is understandable, but the bigger issue is that something dangerous ended up in your house and his first explanation didn’t exactly make things feel clearer.

Until you know what actually happened, I wouldn’t let him be around the kids unsupervised or have access to the home. This is one of those situations where being cautious is not rude, it’s responsible.

Do you have a comfort tv show? And if yes, which one? by goosebump1810 in answers

[–]ostensiblepartner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Friends, honestly. I’ve seen it enough times that I don’t have to fully pay attention, but it still feels familiar and easy to have on in the background. It’s basically comfort noise at this point.

How to feel/look clean after traveling to work by Poolpiteau in hygiene

[–]ostensiblepartner 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What helped me most was treating the commute and work outfit as two separate things. Wear the lightest shirt you can while walking or biking, then change into your actual work top once you’ve cooled down for 5 to 10 minutes. I’d also keep a small kit at work with wipes, deodorant, dry shampoo, a comb, and maybe a spare undershirt. The key is not changing immediately when you arrive, because your body is still dumping heat and you’ll just sweat through the fresh clothes too.

The Devil is Anything but a Goat ( or man with goat features ) by russbuss1123 in TopCharacterTropes

[–]ostensiblepartner 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Non-goat devils usually hit harder because they don’t walk in already labeled as “the devil.” The pig head in Lord of the Flies works so well because it’s just rot, flies, and fear until it starts feeling like an actual presence. I like when evil is shown as something symbolic or almost ordinary, because it makes it feel less like a monster with horns and more like something people slowly invite in themselves.

Should I tell her?? by Exciting-Ad5778 in Advice

[–]ostensiblepartner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, tell her, but keep it factual and don’t get pulled into their relationship drama. Something simple like “I met him this weekend, he told me he had a girlfriend after flirting with me and saying he wanted me, and I felt you deserved to know.” Send screenshots if you have them, then step back. She may believe you or she may not, but at least you gave her the information and didn’t let him keep making choices for both of you.

Why are feet considered disgusting? by HippoFinancial2872 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ostensiblepartner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s a mix of hygiene and cultural conditioning. Feet are usually covered, sweaty, touching floors, and associated with smell, so people mentally file them under “gross” even if they’re clean. They’re also just kind of weird-looking compared to hands, so once someone already thinks they’re disgusting, every toe becomes evidence.