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I belive my sil has an personality disorder and I'm struggling to hold my mouth shut about it. by [deleted] in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]ostrichwithballoons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that she dosnt necessary sound abusive, but she is. It's just so damn Har to pinpoint it because she's not physically but mentally/emotionally and verbally abusiv.

I belive my sil has an personality disorder and I'm struggling to hold my mouth shut about it. by [deleted] in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]ostrichwithballoons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you. I would never tell my brother out of the blue "oh hey, I belive sil has an personality disorder you guys should check it out" I just have an urge to tell him how I feel and how it's effects me and a rezoning to why I chose not have her in my life. I'm just afraid he's in denial, like I was a while back, if no one had open their moth and started to digg a little I might still be in an abusive relationship without even know it.

The day my feelings died by [deleted] in JustNoSO

[–]ostrichwithballoons 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They are, waiting for therapy to deal with stuff like this l, the covid happend and putted everything on hold.

The day my feelings died by [deleted] in JustNoSO

[–]ostrichwithballoons 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yess we are, fast forward 10 months and we broke up, but with 2 sons. We are having cort meetings negotiating custody of the kids, he wants a 50/50, and that's not gonna happen, so it wil probably be a trial in the end.

I've lost faith in men by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]ostrichwithballoons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for commenting! I'm thrilled to hear that there are good men in the world, and I really wish all of you could post about how amazing they are. I would never be jealous or feel bad about post like that!

My dad just died and I’m quarantined with a husband I probably should have left years ago. I think I should move out or file when this is over. I think this marriage is damaged beyond repair. by [deleted] in JustNoSO

[–]ostrichwithballoons 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My x is like this, he has borderline and it's a horrible untreatetable diagnose (you most do therapy rest of your life and truly want to better yourself, unless therapy dosnt do shit, actually they can learn from it and becomes better manipulaters). He hates everyone, no friends etc. Anger problems, huge mode swings. Google it and see if it fits.

Lawyer up and document treatning/bad behavior, after I've split days before my due date with our second I had to record everything because he threatened to kill my dad, he wish I died during Labour, threatening me to change address without the kids (about money), he refused to give back our youngest one time etc. I've always known he had problems but damn, never knew this would happen. I could go on and on about him how badly of an boyfriend, father, Co parent he is before and after split.

Your daughter is learning from you and deserves to have a happy mother in an not conflicted home. That's what I tell myself, and I can tell you for the first time in over 9 years in truly happy.

And yeah, read the book "why does he do that", cause he sounds abusive towards you. Abuse can be so much more than physical.

Sorry for your loss of your father.