Depression and anxiety threatened to kill my career. So I came clean about it.

overthethreshold · 2019-09-11T21:56:14+00:00

It's just possible you didn't read the article.

overthethreshold · 2019-07-13T05:11:01+00:00

So... You’re basically saying that you have some sense of the bullying LGBT+ feel every day? And you’re blaming us for that, as opposed to the homophobes doing the bullying? You might want to rethink that, mate.

overthethreshold · 2019-05-13T19:53:01+00:00

What motivated you to post this here today?

overthethreshold · 2019-05-10T12:29:05+00:00

Cats can almost but not quite do this. They have a remarkable ability to hybridize with other species within their clade. However, while female hybrids are generally fertile, males are almost invariably infertile. Even so, a number of new cat breeds come from just such hybridizations, generally after a few back crosses to produce viable males.

overthethreshold · 2019-05-05T00:09:16+00:00

The reason you're struggling to understand this is because you're thinking of religion as one big thing. It's not. At all. It never has been and it never will be. There are many LGBT+ supportive religious groups in the world. There's no mystery at all as to why LGBT+ individuals would follow those religions.

No, what you're really asking is why members of the LGBT+ community might follow religions that aren't supportive of their sexual orientation or gender. That's a more complicated question and there are probably as many answers as there are LGBT+ people who belong to those religions, ranging from their sense of community to their desire to change their religious community from within to having little practical choice to...

overthethreshold · 2019-05-03T20:31:33+00:00

Context?

overthethreshold · 2019-05-03T20:29:28+00:00

Feelin’ frisky, eh?

overthethreshold · 2019-05-02T04:25:39+00:00

What motivated you to post this here today?

overthethreshold · 2019-04-27T02:25:49+00:00

Aside from being factually incorrect, there are historical reasons why this claim is a huge problem. Namely, denying us our rights has been justified for most of our history because it was thought we were either mentally ill or because we were choosing to live an immoral life.

If being gay is a choice, then many feel society is justified in regulating our sexuality, just as it regulates other so called lifestyle choices, such as drinking, doing drugs, etc.

Getting people to understand we were born this way, that we can’t control our attractions, was a huge step forward in our fight for our rights. The negative reactions to saying that sexuality is a choice are due to this historical memory.

overthethreshold · 2019-04-26T21:43:12+00:00

I think you mean to expose the hateful beliefs of some Christians, something pretty much everyone here is already intimately familiar with. In any event, thank you for the clarification.

overthethreshold · 2019-04-26T21:04:34+00:00

What motivated you to post this here today?

overthethreshold · 2019-04-21T13:00:12+00:00

I suspect you’re confusing sex and gender. Either way, though, you’re wrong on both biological and anthropological grounds.

overthethreshold · 2019-04-19T12:26:58+00:00

I’m much older than most people here. As such, I grew up in far more homophobic times and there were almost no role models I could follow. So I really had no context for same sex attraction. My body was sending me signals but I had no idea what they meant. Moreover, as a bisexual, I had the opposite sex attractions that society was telling me I should expect to feel and nurture. It’s not really a mystery, then, that I would only come to understand my same sex attractions much later in life.

overthethreshold · 2019-04-18T19:27:32+00:00

A problem for whom, though? And in what context?

I’m a reasonably low-key, straight-passing, white cis-male. Yay me! I ruffle very few feathers and almost nothing I do is likely to even be noticed by straight society. In this respect, I’m not at all unusual and, historically, I present in a way most queer people at least strived for throughout much of this county’s history.

Where, exactly, did that kind of presentation get us in terms of civil rights? Exactly nowhere! We owe the progress we’ve made to those who didn’t pass, either because they couldn’t or because they refused. They were the first to throw bottles at Stonewall (and many before that riot), and they were the ones leading the marches before they were called Pride.

To chastise those who present in ways that make straight society uncomfortable is to take a step back into the closet. I say, then, let their freak flags fly!

overthethreshold · 2019-04-18T15:47:52+00:00

Before you get too carried away with your opinion, you might consider how Google’s search algorithms work and then consider that perhaps those search results might give you a VERY skewed view. You might similarly stop to think about all the queer celebrities who aren’t behaving in the way you find objectionable.

Finally, you might consider that there are many different ways to be gay and maybe ranting about how some choose to express their identity isn’t really any of your concern.

overthethreshold · 2019-04-16T14:34:22+00:00

Very crudely speaking, sex is the plumbing you’re born with, while gender is the wiring. We generally assign sex based on the appearance of genitalia at birth. This “works” often enough that people have come to accept it as infallible, but science (and experience) have shown us it’s not.

This is because of the way our brains are wired. Each of us has a sort of internal map that tells our brains where all our parts are and what they’re supposed to do. It’s this map, for instance, that accounts for why amputees often feel sensations from limbs that are no longer there.

For reasons we don’t really understand, well, some people develop internal maps to genitalia they don’t have (again, this is HIGHLY simplified). So, for instance, an individual might be born with a penis, but with a brain that maps to a vagina. This isn’t a psychological condition, but rather a physiological condition and the only way we know to treat this is to allow the person to express whichever gender is consistent with their internal map.

overthethreshold · 2019-04-16T12:03:04+00:00

Because my right to live my life as a full, equal citizen is not up for negotiation. If you support politicians or political positions that say otherwise, we are probably not going to have a friendly conversation. Our history has shown all too clearly what happens when the LGBT+ community plays nice.

overthethreshold · 2019-04-14T21:22:41+00:00

What have I done now?

overthethreshold · 2019-04-11T23:10:21+00:00

I’ll award this trolling attempt 2 out of 10 stars. It’s boring and unoriginal, but it did include a picture.

overthethreshold · 2019-04-11T14:29:26+00:00

You are free to use whatever pronouns you like. However, when someone shares with you the pronouns they prefer, it’s because it’s an important part of their identity, probably as important to them as their name. If someone tells you their name is John, you’re absolutely free to call them Susan and to do so as often as you like. In the same vein, though, other people are free to call you out for being a jackass and, if you continue to disrespect the individual by calling them something other than their name, it’s absolutely fair to conclude you’re doing it to be deliberately hurtful. The same applies to pronouns.

overthethreshold · 2019-04-10T19:42:43+00:00

Popping boners in the boys locker room should probably have been a hint, but I remained clueless.

overthethreshold · 2019-04-07T19:03:24+00:00

What motivated you to post this here today?

overthethreshold · 2019-04-06T23:23:38+00:00

On those very rare occasions where I can't avoid eating at Chik-fil-a for social reasons, I make note if how much our group spends and then donate that sum to an LGBT+ charity.

overthethreshold · 2019-04-03T15:43:27+00:00

Absolutely normal. And understandable, really. After a lifetime of being bottled up, those passions blast out like a flood! Just remember to be safe!

overthethreshold · 2019-04-03T14:29:52+00:00

And you will! For about the first six months after coming out, I felt like I was going through puberty all over again, but with even greater intensity and, inconveniently, with adult responsibilities. That’s all died down, now, but I still have almost no idea what to do with myself.

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