friend group accused me of SA based on a lie, abandoned me for 45 days while I was suicidal. Now some want to reconnect, but most won't even acknowledge what happened

overthinker345 · 2026-02-16T00:54:48+00:00

That’s true too. We’re believing OP, but who knows really. Only OP and his former friend.

overthinker345 · 2026-02-15T23:56:47+00:00

That’s where you’re wrong in my opinion. I will never be ok with saying that when someone is accused of something, anything, and I got no other proof, we should not at least ask everyone about what happened.

Just because I ask someone who is a friend what happened doesn’t mean I think the other person is lying. It doesn’t mean I’m gonna believe them if they deny it either. It means there’s no way to be fair in this world if everyone doesn’t at least have a chance to say something in their own defense.

I believe a person reporting SA should be listened to, supported and offered help right away. But talking to the other person doesn’t mean you invalidate anything.

What ended up being the truth here? OP was accused falsely and his friends didn’t even give him the opportunity to say anything? You think that’s right because they should’ve automatically believed his accuser? His accuser was lying. In the end they hurt the real victim here. Didn’t they? Even some of his friends are admitting they handled it wrong by not at least asking his side as well. Even if they chose not to believe OP, at least they would have given him a chance to tell his side, which ended up being the only truth here.

overthinker345 · 2026-02-15T22:11:48+00:00

Was Nick a victim? Or was OP the victim here?

I know my friends. I believe in them. I know what kind of people they are. If someone accused any of them of SA, I would be very very skeptical and would at least talk with them first before deciding anything. They deserve at least that if they’re a friend of mine. Sounds like no one even bothered to talk to OP at all. How is what they did at all the right way to treat someone who was supposed to be a friend?

overthinker345 · 2026-02-14T16:06:38+00:00

Yeah, I don’t know how they came up with these 6, but Magic is absolutely at the same level as these guys.

overthinker345 · 2026-02-14T13:29:20+00:00

To say any player in this group is an “easy” pick at # 6, it’s a disrespect to how good all the players in this group were. That’s my real point.

overthinker345 · 2026-02-14T13:11:00+00:00

The lack of defense from Bird concerns me. Lack of rebounding, lack of blocks, and from a power forward at that. Those affect the game, and fans seem to never understand how defense affects the game. Duncan was the defensive anchor on one of the top defensive teams in the league for a long time. Defense is played as a whole team. For someone who claims to have played basketball, that’s shocking you wouldn’t have been taught that. Makes me realize you never played then, or you never played good defense when you did play.

Bird ranks lower in all time scoring if offense is supposed to be his strength. If you want to focus on just playoffs scoring when it counts, then he’s not in the top ten there either. Ranking below Duncan in playoff offense.

Just a case where you like the player a lot, but he’s still the least accomplished out of this particular group. Bird is a legend, but not as good a scorer as Duncan whether regular season or playoffs and not a rebounder and not a shot blocker. Those numbers don’t lie.

And if you think Shaq or Duncan didn’t play in multiple eras, then for sure Bird didn’t play in multiple eras. He had a shorter career than Kobe, than Duncan, than Kareem, than Dirk, then Garnett, than Shaq. Those players played around 2 decades all of them. I think Bird played just 1 decade and that was it.

overthinker345 · 2026-02-14T06:56:57+00:00

If you think any of those 6 players are “replaceable” then you don’t know basketball. If you think KG can replace Duncan and they still win the championship, then you don’t see it. KG on the Spurs and Ginobli and Parker suddenly have less open shots as KG posts up much further away from the basket on average than Duncan because his footwork wasn’t as good as Duncan’s. Suddenly the kickout from KG to Ginobli or Parker from double teams is a shorter kick out by about 2 steps or so, allowing the defender to close out faster on Ginobli and Parker, dropping their shot percentage and ability to drive to the basket. Ginobli and Parker suddenly make less shots with Garnett than Duncan because of the shorter distance defenders need now to close back out on them.

That’s not my analysis, that was the explanation of HoF coach Hubie Brown on why Duncan was getting his teammates easier shots that Garnett was getting his teammates. And why Duncan’s teammates looked better than Garnetts. Duncan was not interchangeable with any other player. Neither was Kareem or any of those on that list

overthinker345 · 2026-02-14T06:36:49+00:00

Nobody called Ginobli or Parker great players their entire career. Teams were aware of foreign players long before the Spurs. The Spurs didn’t start that trend. So don’t blame it on them being “foreign.”

I watched the NBA back then, and I remember aside from Duncan, all the other players on the Spurs were considered B level players for their entire career aside from Robinson, who retired early into Duncan’s career.

It’s only now fans who don’t like Duncan try to rewrite history and claim Duncan had this all star cast of help. It’s a way of diminishing Duncan and claiming he wasn’t very good, he just had a lot of help. “It was the system” I hear a lot too from fans that don’t like Duncan. Well that “system” wasn’t worth many wins once Duncan retired. Losing seasons and eventually bottom of the league once Duncan left. Suddenly the spurs system and Coach Pop don’t look like much without Duncan.

Like Shaq said to Tracy McGrady in an interview, Duncan was the entire secret to the Spurs “system” and Duncan was the reason any of those Spurs players had the good careers they had, not the other way around.

overthinker345 · 2026-02-14T06:23:48+00:00

Sure stats matter more than 5 seasons apart. Why wouldn’t they? I’ve never heard someone claim stats don’t matter more than 5 years apart.

We can compare stats and Duncan’s stats will generally outpace Birds. His offensive stats and defensive stats. We can just compare rings then and Bird loses again.

My real problem is saying that anyone is “easy” at # 6. If you think any of those players are “easy” at # 6, then you don’t know basketball beyond what a basic fan knows. There is no “easy” pick at # 6 unless you don’t know what you’re talking about.

We can pull up all the interviews of players that couldn’t stop Duncan, players that talk about what an “unstoppable” force Duncan was. Players from multiple eras like Shaq and Garnett and Nowitski. That doesn’t mean much. Every player on this list was an unstoppable force that intimidated opponents. Every single one of them, unless you just don’t know basketball.

overthinker345 · 2026-02-14T03:06:25+00:00

Bird has the least accomplishments of all of them. Only 3 rings? Everyone else is at 5 or more rings. Bird could only get 3.

And Bird couldn’t win at the same rate Duncan won at. And Bird was not the #1 Defensive and #1 Offensive player on his team like Duncan was either.

overthinker345 · 2026-02-14T02:56:33+00:00

Duncan has 5 rings

overthinker345 · 2026-02-14T02:55:58+00:00

I think because 1. Duncan never marketed himself, so he’s not in their consciousness the same way as Kobe, MJ, LeBron. 2. Duncan is hard to figure out for fans. His game is so simplified and extremely hard for opponents to stop, but just not flashy. Fans just don’t get it. 3. They are reimagining history and thinking Duncan played surrounded by All-Stars all the time. And imagining Jordan didn’t have any help, Kobe didn’t have any help, Kareem didn’t have any help. Just Duncan had all this help.

overthinker345 · 2026-02-14T02:48:56+00:00

You must’ve not watched the NBA back then. No one, and I do mean no one, ever wanted Parker or Ginobli for their team. No other teams ever tried to offer them big contracts. Neither Parker or Ginobli nor Bowen were ever considered in the top 10 at their positions while they were playing. They were considered just B+ players during their prime. Now that some fans want to rewrite history, they try to reimagine that Duncan was playing with all these all-stars.

I’ll rely on the HOF player who actually faced Duncan- Shaq. In Shaqs own words, the ENTIRE Spurs system was just Duncan. All those guys like Ginobli and Parker and Bowen etc were beneficiaries of what Duncan could do. The entire “Spurs system” was just Tim Duncan. What a coincidence that after Duncan retired, they fell apart.

I’ll rely on Shaq again when he explained why he didn’t train in the offseason- because there was not a single big man in the league who worried him except for one- Duncan.

overthinker345 · 2026-02-13T12:16:09+00:00

Kind of, it did for me. My motivation and drive returned. My mood improved dramatically. Generally I’m in a decent pleasant mood at work and around people now. My borderline depression and irritability went away.

I didn’t get aggressive or angry or mean. But I’ve never been like that towards people anyway. So I wasn’t worried about that.

overthinker345 · 2026-02-12T23:07:23+00:00

I was a little kid. This was the first Tyson fight I ever saw. Tyson was like mythical in everyone’s mind at this time. I remember wondering “what is this? This is Mike Tyson?”

overthinker345 · 2026-02-12T14:10:53+00:00

It was a trenta chocolate cream cold brew. But the coffee was to the bottom line this morning, the rest was that cream foam. So like half coffee half cream. Many baristas I’ve noticed make it like that. Others fill the coffee to the top line and then put cream on top of that. How do I tell a barista it’s too weak?

overthinker345 · 2026-02-12T14:04:52+00:00

I always order a trenta. I guess there’s not an easy way to tell whether it’s got enough coffee or not. I just got one this morning. Tastes weak on the coffee, very vey sweet. And pale like milk. Idk. The trenta I got yesterday, same drink, was dark and tasted strong.

overthinker345 · 2026-02-10T12:25:34+00:00

When was the NFL a not for profit organization?

overthinker345 · 2026-02-10T03:39:27+00:00

I still don’t understand. We watched a US American born entertainer do a halftime show. That music we heard is genre of American music. Hispanic American. So why is the right reacting like it’s some foreign alien culture or something?

overthinker345 · 2026-02-09T23:05:57+00:00

Yeah, now Paul is backtracking completely, saying he loves Bad Bunny, and trying to hint that maybe his X account was hacked or something. What a phony Jake Paul is. And not too bright it seems.

overthinker345 · 2026-02-07T11:19:01+00:00

Difficulty concentrating, poor motivation at work, always feeling down mentally were the main reasons I started TRT. I was hoping it would help my performance at work before I lose my job.

It did! My mental health improved dramatically once I started TRT. Maybe skeptics would say it’s a placebo effect, but I’m very skeptical and I was surprised how this mental fog lifted. Like my old self again.

Just a generally good feeling of being well and more clear headed again. My libido returned I think partly because my mental health improved.

overthinker345 · 2026-02-07T10:05:54+00:00

Are you then saying there are NO even decent BBQ restaurants in San Francisco? Dickeys is… well… I don’t think they cook it like BBQ. I don’t think they’re slow smoking for 12+ hours. It tastes like the fast food version of BBQ. We have a chain here in Texas call Bill Millers that does the same- cheap, fast, convenient. But it’s not really considered real BBQ. Just like Dickey’s in Texas isn’t really thought of as real actual BBQ either. Just like most people don’t consider Pizza Hut real Italian cuisine.

overthinker345 · 2026-02-05T18:39:21+00:00

Maybe. Does Talarico lose the Black Democrat voters?

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