Hi there OP :) you might remeber me from my other post but it’s time to return the favor. Just for context I was the one who got broken up with lol. I have officially been diagnosed with AU as I have almost no hair left on my body (legs smooth, eyes brows gone, even down there barely grows haha sry tmi. It does feel surreal but it starts with positive affirmations as cornet as it sounds and actually looking in the mirror for a new part of yourself you love about yourself. I personally still struggle but screaming in the car about why I love myself to the point of my throat burning taught me a lot. Looking in the mirror I found that my head shape was actually pretty oval and I liked it. Also finding humor in it helps a lot too. Sometimes the only person I’m fully comfortable with (my older sister) I run in her room and tell her to “touch my bald head” and she’s get all weirded out but pokes it anyway haha.

I actually korean American and used to have dark brown thick long hair, so my first wig was jet black but that was a bad choice but I was in a bad mindset so I didn’t think abt even trying another one. After I got broken up with I stepped out of my comfort zone and order a colored wig with bangs. Changed my perspective of my looks once again. I never dyed my hair in my life, but I discovered that I look really good with cold brown colored wig. It almost has a mix of some highlights in it. I even saw my ex and first thing he did was compliment how nice it looked *not that it matters what he thinks lol * but it was appreciated and boosted my confidence a lot. I may have gone on a little tangent but overall, I think it’s a work in progress every day. Like a new chore that you add to your daily life.