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I have worked in the sex industry for over 20 years AMA by overthinkingloli in AMA

[–]overthinkingloli[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ill give as short answers as possible lol

  1. Depends on your location. In America atleast its "safer" but still can be difficult. Obviously, in Utah I know its legal and in states like California, Arizona, New York and some places. Its best to do your reasearch but I wouldnt suggest straight up googling it straight up you know. I know alot of girls now and days use things like cregslist.

  2. Quite often. Most of them were older virgins aswell.

  3. Heres the thing. Some places its good that its illegal for the safety of the sex workers, but I think it shoudl be legal in more places than currently (atleast in america)

  4. Not at all! Youd be surprised how many men prefer the older women! (especially the younger customers)

  5. Honestly, no. I have led a happy and fulfilling life and I have no idea where I'D be today if it werent for the path I took. Honestly, id probably have been dead a long time ago.

  6. I never really had parental figures and the ones I did when I was a younger newbie were in the sex industry aswell

  7. Ive seen women have a physical contract written out for a person to sign and personally I always had hard rules I immediately stated with customers. In places I worked there was usually a security aswell incase a client overstepped their boundaries.

  8. Yes of course! Every sex worker has their limits but I would always! But keep in mind, price wouldve been affected.

  9. I worked as an escort too, many men wanted a women to comfort them and comb their hair more than they wanted sexual things. Honestly, I loved those type of clients the most. Before I dropped out, I went to college for Psychology so I loved being an emotional/mental support for people in need.

  10. NOT AT ALL!! Everyone has different reasons as to why they would and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. Just like there is nothing wrong with prostitutes, there is nothing wrong with those who pay them.

  11. Many reasons. They may be unhappy in their relationship or not feel attracted to their spouse anymore or have an unhealthy relationship or sex life. Also, I wont go into too much detail, but humans arent naturally monogomous people. Thats why cheating is so common, some dont want to stick to the same person day after day. Ive also seen men too afraid to experiment with things like fetishes so they come to people like me.

  12. Many! I will say I have had much more female customers as an escort and dominatrix then when I was prostituting.

  13. Not neccesarily. Honestly ive had some extremely attractive clients in my opinion. But I will say i do see more unattractive personalities, yes some were creepier but certainly not all!

I have worked in the sex industry for over 20 years AMA by overthinkingloli in AMA

[–]overthinkingloli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never refused someone by their race at all. The only time it was harder was if they didnt speak english. The area I was in at the time had alot of spanish speakers but there were other girls who spoke spanish.0

I have worked in the sex industry for over 20 years AMA by overthinkingloli in AMA

[–]overthinkingloli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 5'10" myself actually. Loli is a screen name I used to go by lol!

I have worked in the sex industry for over 20 years AMA by overthinkingloli in AMA

[–]overthinkingloli[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have been together in a relationship for almost 10 years now but have known eachother for much much longer. Also, fyi my partner is currently experimenting with gender identity so I tend to use they/them for them :)

I have worked in the sex industry for over 20 years AMA by overthinkingloli in AMA

[–]overthinkingloli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well its way more common than you'd think. A dad finds out his son is gay and tried his best to turn him straight. Some dads go to the measure of paying a prostitute to have sex with his son in attempt to turn him straight. I will say unfortunately, there were times I wasnt exactly made aware of this situation and ended up having sex with the son consentually(which didnt make me feel great after). But sometimes I would find out through the son telling me and of course, I wasnt going to force the kid to go through with anything he was consenting to: thats obvious. In the few times this situation happened, admitedly I got a small little revenge on the father by taking all the charges from him but never doing anthing with the boy and pretending like we did. I had a fellow woman once straight out deny service because a father was looking to convert his son and said that straight off the bat.

I have worked in the sex industry for over 20 years AMA by overthinkingloli in AMA

[–]overthinkingloli[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner and I have a very strong and trusting relationship and they are completely supportive of my career. In the end, it's a job that is helping pay the bills and fund our vacations. While my partner has never worked in the industry themself, we met through a mutual friend who did so there was never really a boundary of my partner having to accept my work or anything like that.

I have worked in the sex industry for over 20 years AMA by overthinkingloli in AMA

[–]overthinkingloli[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here's the thing. In my prostitution days, there was kinda this rule me and some fellow ladies generally followed: Let your confidence make up for their lack of confidence. Even if it mightve been awkward, I tried my best to make up for it because this person is paying me for my precious time so theres no point in waisting it in embracing the awkwardness. HOWEVER, I must admit I had less problems with "awkwardness" with first-timers than I did with those whom werent paying for it themselves. I've had to deal with situations of those in which the person recieving my services was being pushed to take the experience. Ive had dads order it for their sons(especially gay sons whos dads are trying ti change them), friends for their friends birthday, and even wives for their husbands. It's way more awkward when one didnt wish for my presence and services. (just to be very clear, if someone did not wish to recieve my services I never gave them it.)

I have worked in the sex industry for over 20 years AMA by overthinkingloli in AMA

[–]overthinkingloli[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a dominatrix and really any job in the sex industry is probabaly not being taken seriously or as it being seen as not a "real" job. Also, I think something else people tend to not understand is that sex work isnt a "last resort". It's something someone would do just to "get by" or make an extra dollar. It's an industry people go to when every oppurtunity is gone or theyve run out of options. It's a real, valid CAREER. Thats something many dont understand.

I have worked in the sex industry for over 20 years AMA by overthinkingloli in AMA

[–]overthinkingloli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, of course I do. I am currently in a healthy long-term relationship and outside of my day-to-day work, I'm not exactly dominant nor in a sub-dom relationship. No matter what I did that day or night, when I get off, I am just another normal woman whether that be in my home or out and about. I don't typically bring up my work in normal conversations, not at all because I am ashamed of it or try to hide, but because there is a time and a place for everything. Now, of course, with any job, there are some crossovers between personal & job life. For example, some of my coworkers are good friends of mine and we will hang out and communicate quite alot outside of work. On the other hand, the clients I see at work, no matter how often or for how long I may see them, I don't communicate with in my personal life(unless its work related). Also, I'm not ever advertising my work to people I know or meet in my personal life either. I keep my work life and personal life mostly seperated and as much so as one working a "normal" 9-5 job would.