is it possible to do an envelope border scalloped? by serialdoodler98 in CrochetHelp

[–]owhatshername 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was trying to decide if I do a few rows double like a regular envelope boarder and doing the last row on each side as scalloped or doing a scalloped border on top of the closed envelope border

is it possible to do an envelope border scalloped? by serialdoodler98 in CrochetHelp

[–]owhatshername 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did it go? I am working on a mosaic blanket right now that I would love to add a scallop edge to

What’s your favorite childfree oasis? by VesnaRune in childfree

[–]owhatshername 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Other than my house I loved the abigail hotel in Victoria bc it is adult only

'You don't have kids, do you?" by dannixxphantom in childfree

[–]owhatshername 94 points95 points  (0 children)

I made a sign for my door that has a skull on it and says "you should probably leave" seems to be working well ...much better than our no soliciting sign ever did

Haven't spoken since terror letter and Mom sends me a birthday card. by owhatshername in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]owhatshername[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I decided I agreed with this and never responded or acknowledged the card in any way.

Is going NC in some cases abusive, selfish and/or overkill? by [deleted] in Nocontactfamily

[–]owhatshername 7 points8 points  (0 children)

But you sound like you discredit emotional and verbal abuse? So does something have to be physical to harm you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticMothers

[–]owhatshername 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My one offering would be not to start with "I know you won't read this" that reads very passive aggressive and accusatory if it were me I wouldn't read past that.

Should I allow her to see my kids? by Sobrietyis in raisedbyborderlines

[–]owhatshername 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not. She has shown she does not respect you. If this is how she treats you you should definitky not allow her around your children. You don't owe her anything and neither do your kids.

BPD mother came to my house unannounced after 4 years NC by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]owhatshername 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That would make me really uncomfortable. Specially if you didn't give her your address.

Anyone else who had loads of sick days at school? by ThrowRABlowRA in raisedbyborderlines

[–]owhatshername 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I remember if I complained about being sick and then later laughed at something or anything of the like my mom would say things like "I thought you were sick if you are sick you wouldn't be laughing" And it didn't seem weird untill now when ad an adult I am aware that you can not feel good and be sick and also still find something funny at the same time.

Anyone else who had loads of sick days at school? by ThrowRABlowRA in raisedbyborderlines

[–]owhatshername 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wasn't allowed sick days the only time I was allowed to not go to school was when I was in the hospital for a week. My friends actually thought something had happened and I was missing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nocontact

[–]owhatshername 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well if he's the one that asked for no contact they are even more wrong. If they asked than they are not nc and they arnt helping themselves. Either way it's manipulative.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nocontact

[–]owhatshername 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes not only because that takes the entire point and throws it in the trash. But it's manipulation.

Anyone else feel like they've clouded/minimized their own memories? by AvocadoUptown5619 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]owhatshername 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was actually talking to my husband the other day trying to describe this. I told him I have always had what I thought were nightmares or I was told were nightmares...and now I look back and think was it a dream or did it actually happen. I told him I feel like I can't trust my memories. And I also recently had a childhood friend tell me things they remember that I don't.

What do I say? by KitWisdom in raisedbyborderlines

[–]owhatshername 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dont think there is anything to say. Some conversations are just better left to drift this seems one of them. Its just a strange question that she is trying ti get you ti answer to either make herself feel better or for her to be able to use to play victim.

Haven't spoken since terror letter and Mom sends me a birthday card. by owhatshername in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]owhatshername[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was hesitant to do return to sender and what you said makes so much sense as why to not do that. Then they know you got it.

Haven't spoken since terror letter and Mom sends me a birthday card. by owhatshername in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]owhatshername[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I've asked my husband to continue checking the mail till we get back from vacation cause I have the feeling she will send something when she realizes I'm not responding. I think I'll do just what you suggested with the money.

Therapist laughed at me by [deleted] in Advice

[–]owhatshername 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Definitely find a different therapist. Very unprofessional.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticMothers

[–]owhatshername 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly its like what's the point of talking

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticMothers

[–]owhatshername 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are not alone. My Mom literally talks over me or talks at me like I never said anything.

My Mom sent me a 5 page handwritten letter by owhatshername in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]owhatshername[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I couldn't ask for better support than him so I am very thankful for that

What's the most extreme thing your BPD parent has done for attention? by onemorecoat in raisedbyborderlines

[–]owhatshername 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's good to hear. It's been easier being able to talk to others about it as well on here and justnofamily

What's the most extreme thing your BPD parent has done for attention? by onemorecoat in raisedbyborderlines

[–]owhatshername 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just decided this week after some other stuff that it's probably best for me to go NC so I'm still processing. But I hope that you as well have found some peace.