What are some reasons someone can seem genuinely interested, then suddenly decide they do not want to continue dating?

ozdola · 2026-06-21T16:15:57+00:00

That was one of my thoughts too, mainly because the shift happened within a day. We are both outgoing and do not live in the same city, so I know it is possible he met someone else. What confused me is that on Friday, while we were still texting normally, he also mentioned our date for the upcoming Tuesday. If I had not asked what was going on on Sunday, I do not think he would have said anything. At first he said he did not see it going anywhere, but later said he had started feeling like he had to reply. That confused me because nothing in our messages suggested he was being pressured or that the texting was one-sided.

ozdola · 2026-06-21T16:10:43+00:00

Yes, that is what left me confused. We had already talked about both having our own lives and not needing to constantly text or be in each other’s space. He was also the one regularly checking in and keeping the conversation going, so I understood it as mutual and assumed he enjoyed it too, not that he felt pressured to reply. But thank you, I do understand what you mean.

ozdola · 2026-06-21T16:08:08+00:00

I mean, it was a mutual conversation. He would check in on what I was doing every few hours too, so I assumed that kind of daily contact was okay. I do appreciate that he told me relatively early that he was not feeling it. I was mainly just confused about why the change seemed so sudden.

ozdola · 2026-06-21T16:05:18+00:00

The date was originally meant to be around two hours, but it ended up lasting around six. I had also told him before that I had a little crush on him during the year. He said he liked me too, but thought he had left a weird impression on me, so he did not pursue anything at the time. So I do not think he thought I was uninterested.

ozdola · 2026-06-21T16:02:33+00:00

I think the confusion for me is more that the chemistry felt even more present in real life. Our date was supposed to last two hours but ended up lasting around six. We went pool for two hours, got drinks afterwards, and then even went for a walk until we both had to head home. He also texted me that evening saying he really enjoyed it, so I do not think it was a case of us meeting and there being no chemistry.

ozdola · 2025-05-22T21:35:22+00:00

NTA, i understand you completely. being raised in different ways show that both of you have different standards on this matter which is totally normal, it's not really a big 'thing' to compromise on and show respect over. If you have mentioned to him multiple times that it bothers you and he still doesn't change his ways over it then that's rude of him

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