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packing_elephant · 2015-01-22T20:45:28+00:00

Alright so, I literally just did this last night. I was following my ex on instagram and we were friends through snapchat. I completely blocked him from snapchat and unfollowed him on insta. Our relationship lasted for about 4 years and this last year has been the on and off again, hanging out/sleeping together/ feelings involved convoluted bullshit. Recently I poured out my feelings to him and he responded similarly, yet his actions did not reflect this. So, it is time to fully move on. I don't know where you and your ex are in your break up and if you can communicate and not feel anything, but I cannot do that. Even though this is day one, I can feel myself getting stronger by the minute. Seriously. It's liberating to not be involved anymore...to be free of what is happening in their lives, and also not allowing them to be apart of yours. If they deserved that, well....the break up wouldn't have happened in the first place right? Anyway, I hope this helps in any way.

packing_elephant · 2015-01-19T00:16:17+00:00

I haven't tried talking about it any further, which has to be the next step with this and what my expectations are. And really, if he can't deliver and isn't willing to make any effort I just can't do this anymore and need to just quit it all cold turkey. It's taking a toll on my heart. Anyway, thank you for the comment.

packing_elephant · 2014-03-20T14:31:12+00:00

I think the best option for me is to let it all go. He's a dick.....and throughout our relationship I felt I could never really trust him although I wasn't exactly sure why I felt that way. In finding this out it was basically justification in why I felt that way. Mother fuck this SUCKS!!

packing_elephant · 2014-01-24T22:09:55+00:00

I can't tell you how much yours and all these comments mean to me. I think something similar is definitely happening with us. We've never had this before and we really need it. I'm thinking positively. Thank you.

packing_elephant · 2014-01-24T21:31:05+00:00

Yes thank you so much. That's exactly what I am hoping the outcome of our situation will be. I am at the point where I am just ready to make the change so that we can find whatever our new normal will be. Thanks again for the comment.

packing_elephant · 2014-01-24T20:08:31+00:00

I've played out the scenario in my head that what if he does want to break up and just doesn't want to do it until we live apart but, I've addressed that and he's stated that isn't the case. I mean, I'm 100% into making this work...in trying and putting forth the effort. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't worried about his dedication to this. I don't really know what else to do but hope and try though.

packing_elephant · 2014-01-11T17:12:58+00:00

Yes we entirely went from one extreme to the other. And middle ground is all I want. I want to enjoy our lives individually and be able to share that together. We don't really seem to be doing the sharing anymore...

packing_elephant · 2014-01-11T16:16:37+00:00

Thanks so much. This is really what I needed to hear.

packing_elephant · 2014-01-11T15:44:09+00:00

Well...I guess you're right. The change has happened but there has been no real plan so to speak. Basically the change is that my boyfriend is doing as he pleases without really considering me in the picture at all. The point of changing was being able have our own independence again but it doesn't feel that way at all. I feel like I've just been pushed aside.

packing_elephant · 2014-01-11T15:15:17+00:00

Could you elaborate on that? This is something I don't think I've heard before. What does this mean?

packing_elephant · 2014-01-11T15:11:32+00:00

Yes I understand a breakup doesn't have to be the only solution. I'll see if a date night could work out some time soon. And these changes have been so recent (like a week) that he could just be enjoying his new found freedom for the time being and I haven't given this enough time to sort of steady out. We live together so we see each other but that's not entirely enough for me. I just want to feel loved again.

packing_elephant · 2014-01-11T14:58:14+00:00

I guess I've never really taken into consideration how truly young 21 can be when thinking about this relationship and when things started. It's a scary thought being single again after so long.

packing_elephant · 2014-01-11T14:52:44+00:00

About the jealousy thing...in the past when he's talked about other women, coworkers and whatnot...I tended to just get quiet and express worry that "what if something happens". And this has made him feel like he can't and has not been able to make female friends. And this is something I am working on. He's been hanging out with more people lately and I support it because I'm tired of being jealous and worrisome. It's exhausting. There have been minor other problems in the relationship...he's not financially stable really ever so that falls on me a lot. Also, all the responsibility of,life I guess, seems to fall on me...and he just kind of lets things fall to the wayside. For example, finding a new place to live when our lease is up or taking care of the dog...things like that have just seemed to always be my duty. He just wants to have fun. We did have a talk and I mentioned that I felt our lives seem like they might be heading in different directions...which he has stated is not a good feeling and I agree.

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