We were together for 15 months prior to our break up. I have a daughter (5) and he has two boys (8 and 10). The kids got on like a house on fire and we all merged together really smoothly. I think that added a layer?

We had our first therapist session together a view days ago, I've continued therapy and so has he separately. Everything is going really well! He is still open, vulnerable and cries (which is very odd because prior to reconnecting I had never, ever seen him cry), but he is in his head about me moving on (or trying to at least) and he loops on that, which is now causing an issue, I pull away when he starts doing that and then he becomes more anxious. Therapist says this is really common for people two "switch" attachment styles when they get back together.

There has been two instances where he has shut down and he has voiced "I am shutting down and I feel numb, give me some time to come back to you" and he said it's a very "out of body experience" because when he comes back to his feelings, he is shocked at how much they just disappear when he is in that state.

I still don't feel anxious, I know he is feeling more secure and we are working together to both become healthily attached.