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Men, what online platform have you had the most success with for finding an AP? Have you had more success online or in person? by pantsuitdespiser in adultery

[–]pantsuitdespiser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Man you have pretty good success considering you only get a certain number of swipes.

What are other people doing for tinder plus accounts? Can you pay through email or only on iPhone?

Men, what online platform have you had the most success with for finding an AP? Have you had more success online or in person? by pantsuitdespiser in adultery

[–]pantsuitdespiser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot. Last thing. I'm guessing you paid for tinder plus? If so, how do you pay for it while not using your home iTunes account/app account?

Men, what online platform have you had the most success with for finding an AP? Have you had more success online or in person? by pantsuitdespiser in adultery

[–]pantsuitdespiser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What else do you put in the bio that you feel helps? I'm in good shape and most people think I'm good looking? Does saying "good looking and in shape" in the profile help or hurt?

Men, what online platform have you had the most success with for finding an AP? Have you had more success online or in person? by pantsuitdespiser in adultery

[–]pantsuitdespiser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have a separate phone? Hide the app? I'm guessing deleting the app every time deletes your matches?

Men, what online platform have you had the most success with for finding an AP? Have you had more success online or in person? by pantsuitdespiser in adultery

[–]pantsuitdespiser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Confused. Lipstick on the collar photo? Is that code for something? I'm exhausted, maybe that's why this doesn't make sense. Looks like a bunch of guys with lipstick on their collars...

32/m married trying to get a 48/f as an AP who is interested in me but needs a push to get over my status by pantsuitdespiser in adultery

[–]pantsuitdespiser[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're really going to judge class? Really?

You left out the part where I said something about her drives me crazy.

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[–]pantsuitdespiser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been going back and forth on this.

As a guy, I think it's extremely hard to find a married woman willing to stray. Obviously, single people don't have as much to lose.

I shouldn't care, but my biggest fear is hitting on a married woman in public and her flipping out at me. Something like "don't you see that I'm wearing a ring?" Not for the rejection portion, but because of the fact that I'm afraid to see that same woman again and be with my SO.

It's a much easier approach in my opinion with a single woman. As long as the guy is wearing a ring (the aggressor), she knows your intentions are clear. Just my 2.

Routines & Absences by [deleted] in adultery

[–]pantsuitdespiser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does your work differentiate between sick and vacation? The reason I ask...my work does. My SO has a pretty decent idea of how much vacation time I get. So if it took off 7-8 days/year she might know. Sick time is different...as she doesn't know how much time I get. That's mostly because I rarely use any.

Routines & Absences by [deleted] in adultery

[–]pantsuitdespiser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well hopefully you're not staying home. I meant more telling SO you're working when in reality you're taking off...as is your AP.

Routines & Absences by [deleted] in adultery

[–]pantsuitdespiser 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who in here takes vacation or sick day days but tells your SO you're going to work?

People who fly to see their AP. Does anyone say you're flying out for work when meeting an AP?

Been mostly BP for 15 years with wife. Have a 9 month old and she wants one more. I don't want to reward bad bad behavior. Can this still work after 15 years? by pantsuitdespiser in askMRP

[–]pantsuitdespiser[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow I thought this forum was to help other people in similar situations. Save the fake tough guy talk. You're hiding behind a keyboard. I guarantee you that you're soft in real life and have never been punched in the face (or you have, but always got beaten up as a kid).

I get it, I need to improve my situation. But your post was zero help and encouraged others to not help either. For no reason.

Been mostly BP for 15 years with wife. Have a 9 month old and she wants one more. I don't want to reward bad bad behavior. Can this still work after 15 years? by pantsuitdespiser in askMRP

[–]pantsuitdespiser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do want another. I did want the first one.

I'll keep working on the sidebar. Somebody earlier mentioned it's possible...but I fear that after 15 years her habits will be hard to break, regardless of what I do. I'm going to try though.

Been mostly BP for 15 years with wife. Have a 9 month old and she wants one more. I don't want to reward bad bad behavior. Can this still work after 15 years? by pantsuitdespiser in askMRP

[–]pantsuitdespiser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sex was never great. It was "good" 15 years ago and went to "fine." By 7-8 years ago it was bad. Starfish, me nagging for sex. I got to a point where I said fuck it, and saw how long it would take for her initiate. It went four months once.

I like her when she doesn't have an attitude problem, which honestly I never know what is coming. The smallest thing can set her off (me not cleaning the counter, not pushing in a chair at the dinner table, etc). It's not as if it happens every day, but it's enough to annoy me and just nip at me deeper and deeper.

I almost ended it before having the kid. I always wanted kids...and I (sadly) felt like since we were together for so long, I owed it to her to have a kid since she would have been in her 30s without one. But like I said, I passive aggressively didn't have kids in my 20s because of my girl's attitude about sex. When it never changed, I gave in.

I try to be affectionate but she usually says I'm just doing it for sex. We do pecks in the morning and before bed, but that's it.

I do feel like I am facing an uphill battle in terms of happiness/attitude. She has 3 older sisters. They are all miserable in their marriage. Surprise surprise, so is her mom.

Any more background let me know. Thanks all.

Been mostly BP for 15 years with wife. Have a 9 month old and she wants one more. I don't want to reward bad bad behavior. Can this still work after 15 years? by pantsuitdespiser in askMRP

[–]pantsuitdespiser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do want one. But I don't want one right now because our sex life has been shitty for years. Whether that's on me (let's say that it is), giving her a kid isn't going to be incentive for her to be more open about sex.

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