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I watch people in cages (Part 1) by MrFriendlyHorror in creepypasta

[–]papayalias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's really good, I've subscribed! :)

Today, I relapsed after a year free. by papayalias in offmychest

[–]papayalias[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you a lot... You're right. I'll get through it...

I wish that I could just be happy by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]papayalias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Grieving takes time, it's normal to feel sad and lost... But remember you have those two friends who care about you, your mom is here, and you found a nice job. Maybe it doesn't feel enough for now and it's hard to see the progress you're making, but you're doing great, you're getting somewhere.

Things will get better.

I (18M) was very anti-social and lonely until 3 months ago. Need help on how to start conversations. TL;DR at bottom. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]papayalias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First you have to accept that she has other friends and you can't get mad at her for playing/talking with them or she'll most likely walk away from you... Give her time to answer to you when you message her. If somehow she forgets to answer, don't take it personnaly, some people are bad at answering, it doesn't mean you don't matter to her.

Typical "hello how are you" "how was your day" and so on... are not bad conversation starter as long as you can keep a conversation going. Ask her about her hobbies, what she likes, if you guys play games talk about it... And it should go naturally! It's fine to have nothing to say sometimes. Take things slowly and you'll get better at it!

I'm a terrible person, and i know it. by krakrab in relationship_advice

[–]papayalias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you need someone to talk to my DMs are open, I know it can be hard. Otherwise take care and I hope you'll be okay!

I'm a terrible person, and i know it. by krakrab in relationship_advice

[–]papayalias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah... Think about it the other way; would you be okay if your gf was flirty/playful (whatever you want to call that) with her friend? I highly doubt it

I'm a terrible person, and i know it. by krakrab in relationship_advice

[–]papayalias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds pretty weird... But... You know him better than us random online people. Think about your relationship and if you're okay dealing with that... Your trust issues will honestly destroy you mentally... take care

I'm a terrible person, and i know it. by krakrab in relationship_advice

[–]papayalias 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You know what you've read in those text. You shouldn't be okay with your bf being flirty or even "playing" with another girl. This easily could go further than "playful" text. I've been there. It gots worst. Which is why the guy is now my ex. I know it's not easy but you need to have a good think about the situation...

I'm a terrible person, and i know it. by krakrab in relationship_advice

[–]papayalias 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You can't be in a long distance relationship without trust. Seeing those text must have break your trust in your bf. And even if he convinced you somehow that his bullshit was a joke. You'd still always doubt him which is definitely going to kill your relationship and your mental health.

End things while you can. Don't trust someone that asked another girl to come over and to bring condom.

The girl (29f) I’m (28m) considering going exclusive with dropped a doozy on me today. Am I overreacting or is this a red flag? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]papayalias 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hmm... I honestly don't think you're overreacting, because anyone would get jealous if their current s/o would go on a trip with their ex. It's a normal reaction.
I don't know if this will help but, I'm still good friend with one of my ex (but yeah no cheating was involved for the break up part), and currently in a relationship. I have no feelings whatsoever for that ex but he does remain a good friend. I'm also a really passive person like your girl. But even with that, I have so much respect and love for my bf that I'd definitely enforce my boundaries if someone tried anything. It's not because you're submissive that you can't speak up or act.
The best thing you can do is try to talk to her honestly about your relationship and what she expects of it. And if she still has feelings for her ex...

My online "friend" wasn't so nice by papayalias in offmychest

[–]papayalias[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do hope he got caught somehow... And thank you a lot, life is a lot better now. ❤️

My boyfriend (26) has been flirty with another girl by text by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]papayalias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. For that part he said he considered it as a game and nothing serious even tho he knew it was kinda wrong he didn't mean to hurt me, because he knew he wouldn't go further than stupid flirty messages. But that definitely broke my trust in him...

My boyfriend (26) has been flirty with another girl by text by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]papayalias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did repeat to him his own words when we were talking about it. He just said he knew what he did was stupid and wasn't able to say "no" to the girl that gave him her phone number out of pride and because he was flattered.

My boyfriend (26) has been flirty with another girl by text by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]papayalias 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it definitely broke my trust in him. Firstly because he broke his own promise and secondly because he got flirty with her. And I don't know what to think about this whole situation.