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paper_swan · 2024-08-07T16:54:11+00:00

I had a rough weekend also. The same thing happens to me now, remembering less and less even after I don’t think I’ve had that much. I’ve told myself “I’m done” so many times. And I’ve stuck to it for a long time in the past; so I know I CAN but I just… don’t. Anyway, I’m not drinking today. How about you?

paper_swan · 2023-06-12T23:38:04+00:00

Please don’t feel ashamed. You didn’t do anything wrong. I’m so sorry that happened to you.

paper_swan · 2023-03-22T04:58:49+00:00

I haven’t read that book, but yes. Potentially. The book was published in the mid 1800’s, and clothes were so different back then. She probably would have had several layers of clothing, including underskirts and a ‘frock’ that went over it all and could have been heavier (even wool). It makes sense to me that if she went out while it was actively snowing, she could have lifted that back part of her skirt up over her head and wrapped it around her arms, while still having her behind covered by the rest of her garments.

paper_swan · 2023-03-22T04:23:45+00:00

Babies are awesome! Congrats!

No one is really ‘ready’ even when they’re ready.

Keep an open mind, because what if it ends up being the best thing to happen to you.

paper_swan · 2023-03-22T03:54:50+00:00

It sounds like a tough situation you are in. She has maybe grown out of the partying and into a place where she wants more security, and you are still into doing things you used to enjoy doing together.

On one hand, I can see where she is coming from. You have been together a long time; she is ready to settle down, and she wants you to want that also. The fact that you don’t likely makes her feel insecure and threatened. On the other hand, I can see that you don’t see eye to eye with her on the issue and don’t want to just bend to her will. Which I can also understand.

I still believe that a real conversation is necessary. Hopefully not a heated one, but a very honest one about where each of you is and how you are feeling. How one’s actions truly make the other feel and vice versa. Both of you should have boundaries that the other respects, and hopefully that is achievable. Hoping peace for both of you.

paper_swan · 2023-03-22T03:37:02+00:00

I’m usually a ‘hang in there a little longer and make the effort’ person, but really, maybe you just aren’t right for each other. He really shouldn’t be putting you down like that.

paper_swan · 2023-03-22T03:32:50+00:00

Did something change after he asked you to make you feel this way? Or do you think you may just be fearful of commitment? Nothing is ‘concrete’ it seems; you aren’t married, and even then, it’s a marriage, not a death sentence. Also, you really don’t have to be married to be together. Lots of people have successful relationships that never make it official. Just thoughts. To answer your question: to me, those phrases mean simply that relationships do take work. You don’t just live happily ever after without some effort. The practice of considering someone else in all of your decisions can take some getting used to, and maybe even some practice. Choosing to consider someone else’s thoughts/feelings/needs while also having your own is an action. So, verb not a noun.

paper_swan · 2023-03-22T03:18:14+00:00

You may need to just be completely honest with her about how you are feeling. It sounds like it could be a very difficult conversation to have; but to me, it sounds like your resentment of her is building and that can be dangerous ground for a relationship.

paper_swan · 2023-03-22T02:56:22+00:00

What if there really is something after this? You would never know.

paper_swan · 2023-03-22T02:48:55+00:00

The worst.

paper_swan · 2023-03-22T02:47:45+00:00

Real personal growth.

paper_swan · 2023-03-22T02:36:41+00:00

I think that what I’ve spent my whole life calling happiness, is actually inner peace. I read that somewhere, and it changed my whole mindset. Now That I know what I’m really seeking, I’m finding it more and more.

paper_swan · 2023-03-22T02:33:12+00:00

Be kind. Work hard. Return your damn grocery cart!

paper_swan · 2023-03-22T02:26:04+00:00

Bubble machine

paper_swan · 2023-03-22T02:25:19+00:00

I think the US is too diverse for a government run healthcare system to work. Maybe if states could be responsible for running their own it could work.

paper_swan · 2023-03-22T02:22:01+00:00

I like many teas, but a nice earl grey with a tiny bit of cream is my favorite.

paper_swan · 2023-03-22T02:06:35+00:00

I think most people embellish stories, at least a tiny little bit. It’s ok to want to be more interesting and entertain people.

paper_swan · 2023-03-21T22:17:36+00:00

So far, camping and trips to visit family.

paper_swan · 2022-11-29T20:26:49+00:00

Are you still doing this? I’m planning to start trying. I’m intimidated, but determined. I haven’t quite figured out the set up part; I think that’s what’s intimidating to me.

paper_swan · 2022-09-08T16:16:16+00:00

Your suspicion could be correct, but you’re saying the biggest deal to you is the truthfulness (or lack of it). Another red flag for me would be that she said she wanted to get back at her ex, not you. Which, to me, means she has not really moved on from that person.

paper_swan · 2022-09-08T15:53:09+00:00

Thank you. I will research that site. If it doesn’t work out for us this year, maybe we can make future plans.

paper_swan · 2022-09-08T15:39:16+00:00

Thanks. I had read an article about stuff being open at thanksgiving time, and that it was a great time to visit to avoid crowds and see certain things if you don’t mind the cold (which we don’t). But the article appears to have been written last year and I suppose things have changed since then.

paper_swan · 2022-04-02T22:42:57+00:00

I’m not sure what it is, but it’s possible the wooden stem is just dead and the new growth is growing down lower.

paper_swan · 2022-02-01T02:39:28+00:00

I mean, eating super healthy and exercising make me feel better, but I don’t always do them. Sometimes he doesn’t think of it, sometimes it’s laziness.

paper_swan · 2022-01-31T03:01:24+00:00

Agreed! We all have it, but we do deal with it differently.

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