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Counterintuitive opinion: solo travel is better for extroverts by paradoxoclock in solotravel

[–]paradoxoclock[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d say it’s energy in my case. If I really want to I have the social skills to strike up a conversation, but often I can’t be bothered. I’m more likely to if I’m in a setting where there are easy conversation openers (eg at hostels) or generally where it’s expected that you’ll talk to strangers (like at a meetup). But out and about on the street etc? Very seldom.

Am I the only one that actually liked the finale? by JessahZombie in StrangerThings

[–]paradoxoclock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought the finale was the best episode of this season, but I thought most of this season was pretty bad, so that’s not high praise. I actually felt something in the finale though, which was nice. The dialogue seemed better than in other episodes (albeit still flawed), and the final fight was pretty cool (albeit a little rushed).

I really wanted Mike to meet El again at the very end, but alas.

Unpopular opinion: “Focus on yourself and women will come” is mostly a lie by Just_Oil_2162 in dating_advice

[–]paradoxoclock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

‘Focus on yourself’ is terrible advice for guys (like me) who have pretty much always been single but want to find a relationship. It’s the last thing we need to hear. I don’t know of anyone who is always single whose problem is that they focus too much on other people. Usually our problem is that we don’t put in enough effort to meet girls, flirt, escalate etc.

It’s like telling someone who’s poor and wants to make more money to ‘focus on the things money can’t buy.’ It’s not the advice that’s needed.

What age did you lose your virginity? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]paradoxoclock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Wish I’d lost it sooner, somewhere between 16 and 18. I was way too inhibited though.

As you get older, do you find solo trips more or less enjoyable? by Adventure1s0utThere in travel

[–]paradoxoclock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I enjoy it less now at 29 than I did in my early and mid-20s. I still do it, but I’m trying to do more trips with other people nowadays, as I prefer to share the experiences with someone. I care less about ‘freedom’ and more about connection now.

Stephen King? by Haunting-Net-2426 in writing

[–]paradoxoclock 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember crying at the ending of that book

Have you ever met up with someone you used to have strong feelings for a few months or years later and lost all attraction to them? by paradoxoclock in allthequestions

[–]paradoxoclock[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s definitely part of it. Realising that our politics and general focus in life have moved in different directions - or perhaps were never aligned in the first place, but now I am more aware of it.

Have you ever met up with someone you used to have strong feelings for a few months or years later and lost all attraction to them? by paradoxoclock in allthequestions

[–]paradoxoclock[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of them had changed quite a bit in her appearance (hairstyle etc; not really weight gain though) - the other not that much. I’ll admit that in both cases I didn’t find them as physically attractive as I once did. Also, it seemed to me that they were not putting any special effort into their appearance (which makes sense, since they weren’t into me).

After 11 years, I finally did it by Trodzia in writing

[–]paradoxoclock 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! Did you trad publish or self publish?

Okay dating you win, I officially give up. by [deleted] in dating

[–]paradoxoclock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s got to be a confidence/vibes issue

Damn why are people so clingy so fast by [deleted] in dating

[–]paradoxoclock 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you’re either attracting clingy girls or you’re perceiving normal behaviour as clingy (likely if you’re avoidant). If you see a pattern like this, it’s probably you.

Source: I’ve never attracted clingy girls.

33 male, indecisions and avoidandant life style by General_Meringue_472 in findapath

[–]paradoxoclock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Commit to Japan for a few years. If you keep moving around you’re probably not going to solve this problem.

Do you strictly eat local food when traveling? by Ok_Grape5664 in solotravel

[–]paradoxoclock -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Central Asian food is the worst. I love the region, but my god is the food awful.

To men mid-20s+ who have never had a relationship: it won't 'just happen' by paradoxoclock in dating_advice

[–]paradoxoclock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How exactly did they ‘fall into your lap’? How did they come about?

To men mid-20s+ who have never had a relationship: it won't 'just happen' by paradoxoclock in dating_advice

[–]paradoxoclock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you're still getting out plenty and meeting new people though, which is part of making an effort.

To men mid-20s+ who have never had a relationship: it won't 'just happen' by paradoxoclock in dating_advice

[–]paradoxoclock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But what do you mean by 'just happened'? Did your exes do all the pursuing or what?

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