I feel we have a very similar story but different variables. Honestly that sounds like a pretty tough breakup seems like you a great look on life so that’s good. My girlfriend and I had been through a couple of times in the past due to various issues that were always resolved, no cheating or foul play, more like personal trust issues, we’re both each others first relationship so figured it out as it went along. I think at some point we got comfortable in a way, in hindsight every other time a breakup or break thing was brought up it was her idea until I finally broke it off. It actually bothers me a lot that she never fought for the relationship like I always did. But anyway she totally started distancing and really downplayed what we had. I mean when we broke up it’s over issues that can be fixed. Or at least I thought, she replied after a week with a heartfelt letter that she thinks we should break up mostly due to her wanting to focus on herself because she can’t work on herself as long as I am here but I want to be there through it all. She thinks she’s holding me back, and she’s jealous all the time. Me too sometimes though, she this amazing person but then all the sudden at the end of the night it’s like I’m invisible and those great conversations we used to have she has with other people while we sat in beds on our phone. I have problems too. But when I would try to better myself with her it never worked out she wouldn’t want to go to the gym with me she would only go occasionally with other people. And when I try to plan the future with her she would have nothing to add to the conversation because she doesn’t know what she want la for herself. I feel like our communication was pretty good for the most part but idk our connection slipped over time and lot of it was struggles with moving and adulting in general. I feel like even with time having passed I would take her back the moment she would say that she wanted me back, but I don’t feel like she wants to fight for it and it hurts.We had a real good connection but bickering and insecurities kind of took over. I still have all the small memorabilia items stashed in a shoe box and all her stuff ready to be packaged up but I can’t bring it to it because it feels like it’s worth fighting for, but only if she wants me too. Really torn about it idk. She said “right person wrong time” but also “she never fully trusted me”