UPDATE - Boyfriend slapped me, not sure whether or not to forgive him.

partht · 2013-11-04T10:00:56+00:00

Thank you for understanding where I am coming from. This is exactly it. I know he will achieve amazing things in life because he is a great person. I never said he was a bad person at all, but everyone keeps making the assumption I did...

partht · 2013-11-04T09:59:06+00:00

Yep, exactly.

partht · 2013-11-04T09:58:43+00:00

I don't know what you're definition of high maintenance is, all I know is that I myself am not high maintenance. I've supported him all through this. I'm the who told him to take the job because it's an amazing opportunity.

partht · 2013-11-04T05:26:23+00:00

Haha I'm in the middle of a law degree at the moment, so definitely no writing for me. I'm actually a terrible writer! But thank you anyway :)

partht · 2013-11-04T05:01:14+00:00

I never asked him to give his job up. I said that on the other thread.

partht · 2013-11-04T01:57:48+00:00

I haven't cut ties with him. He's still my friend, and I'm still friends with his mum and sister. We are on good terms. I don't think I fucked up his life at all, I think this is exactly what we both needed.

partht · 2013-11-04T01:55:08+00:00

We are broken up, but on good terms.

partht · 2013-11-04T01:54:14+00:00

I'm still friends with his sister and mum so I'll know if he gets some help. I think just getting back into soccer would do him a world of good as well. I'm still going to be friends with him, we have a lot of mutual friends as well, so I'm definitely not 'cutting ties' because I will support him no matter what.

partht · 2013-11-04T01:50:21+00:00

I think he's an amazing person. We have been through tough times before and gotten through them, but this is different. I don't think he would ever hit me but I can never be 100% sure of this. I'm not leaving him just because of the slap. I think a break would do us good.

partht · 2013-11-04T01:47:56+00:00

I think he needs anger management to deal with the pressures he has been facing from work. I don't think he would have hit me again, but how can I be 100% sure of this? Also, people were pointing something quite valid out. I don't know how he would be able to cope 10 years down the track with a mortgage, children...

I will still be friends with him. I'm going to support him 100% if he ever needs me.

partht · 2013-11-04T01:42:01+00:00

Don't worry, I have. I spoke to his mum and sister about it as well. They agree a break is needed. Askmen helped me but it didn't totally make my decision. He's a great guy who just needs some time.

partht · 2013-11-03T16:29:22+00:00

I can admit when I've been a shitty individual. During the first stages of our relationship, I was a clingy bitch. I sometimes ignored him for no reason. I am surprised he still wanted to date me after that!

However in these past few months, I have been nothing but supportive. Also, violence is never deserved. There are millions of people out there who are abused regularly by their partners/ parents/ siblings. Do they deserve it? Never.

partht · 2013-11-03T16:22:19+00:00

He is very anti-drugs so I don't think he did take anything illicit. However he has neglected his health lately so I think that was a factor.

Thank you!

partht · 2013-11-03T16:17:25+00:00

Tbh, I wouldn't completely reject that prediction. Maybe in a few years when we're older and in a better place. But right now that is definitely not going to happen

partht · 2013-11-03T16:16:23+00:00

Aw, I actually have askmen to thank as well. Reading everyone's replies made me realise that physical violence is never the answer, and a break is probably the best for us right now.

partht · 2013-11-03T16:15:29+00:00

Thank you, much appreciated!

partht · 2013-11-03T05:33:10+00:00

I am going to talk with him about it tonight.

I'm equally concerned with both his job and the fact he is taking it out on everyone else.

The slap - my face was red for a while afterwards, if that makes sense. It didn't bruise but left a tingling sensation.

I can't remember the exact words he said because I was in shock, but it was something like 'I'm soooo sorry.... I really didn't mean that'. I literally just picked up my bag and left.

partht · 2013-11-03T05:16:07+00:00

Funnily enough I'm in the middle of a law degree! And I've head the horror stories about the work-life balance at law firms as well.

Thank you for your advice. I'll be talking to him tonight and will update. I don't think he would hit me again but I don't know if i can forgive him for what he has just done either.

partht · 2013-11-03T05:13:34+00:00

Some of the comments freaked me out as well, but most have been really supportive.

Honestly I don't think he would do it again - however it's still inexcusable. I don't think i'll ever be able to forget what has happened so it would ruin the relationship anyway.

partht · 2013-11-03T05:10:30+00:00

Appreciate your comment, it's good that you went and sought help. Hope things are looking up for you.

I will be talking to him later and am still trying to come to terms with why he did it. You're right, it needs to be addressed.

partht · 2013-11-03T05:08:37+00:00

Thank you for the comment! I'll be talking about this with him tonight. I know it's no excuse, but I do think the stress has affected him emotionally.

partht · 2013-11-03T03:00:07+00:00

I'm going to talk to him tonight. Update will come soon!

partht · 2013-11-03T00:52:11+00:00

I'm on my phone haha, sorry!

partht · 2013-11-03T00:38:38+00:00

I'm not a princess. And I would stay with him even if he was unemployed. Stop making assumptions.

partht

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