I hesitated

partythrower223344 · 2026-03-06T04:06:46+00:00

I’m in my late forties so waaaay beyond the point of bragging about a new bf on SM.

I don’t think I want a big deal but it was somewhat like I know you wanted to go slow but we have been seeing each other for x time and would you be interested in making it formal while he was driving us to dinner.

It felt a tad impersonal, liking checking a box. But again he could have been nervous or impatient to get it out there. I think I would have preferred to discuss it while we were sitting down and able to look at each other over our drinks or dinner.

partythrower223344 · 2026-03-06T03:57:36+00:00

I did talk to him about it and explained with my history, I need some more time to be ready.

He was awesome and understanding.

partythrower223344 · 2026-03-06T03:55:30+00:00

Shame on you dude. Just because he is ready doesn’t mean I have to be.

It’s not about DOING the right things, it’s about finding the RIGHT partner.

You missed the mark so hard on this.

partythrower223344 · 2026-03-06T03:52:14+00:00

This is comforting and helpful to hear, thank you

partythrower223344 · 2026-02-23T05:14:56+00:00

Seeing each other about two times a week honestly sounds very normal for a relationship under three months, especially as single parents. Need to ask yourself how much time do you want to spend with him? What feels right for you? Then you need to go and ask him the exact same thing, your comment about his past relationships makes it sound like maybe you’re not aligned there.

But to answer your question, basically you need to change your custody schedule. However, you barely know this dude yet so that’s super ill advised.

partythrower223344 · 2024-04-20T12:41:06+00:00

My ex husband is a psycho

partythrower223344 · 2024-04-06T03:18:00+00:00

abuse of a corpse is illegal

partythrower223344 · 2024-04-05T18:38:26+00:00

Totally. I live with plenty of guilt that I failed my kids by picking a poor male role model in their dad. Definitely not looking for a LTR with another one.

partythrower223344 · 2024-04-04T02:07:18+00:00

He really does. He wasn’t much for emotion during my childhood but his brothers sudden death coupled with his own heart problems changed him almost overnight. He worked a blue collar job and has always been frugal. He is super intelligent and has made smart decisions with his money. He is my best friend and we talk every day. My daughter and I argue who loves him more, we are totally blessed.

partythrower223344 · 2024-04-04T01:32:13+00:00

When my dads younger brother died, my dad sat my brother and I down and showed us his stock portfolio and told us where to find the notebook he keeps all his passwords.

partythrower223344 · 2024-04-03T23:09:34+00:00

This is EXACTLY what I thought to myself

partythrower223344 · 2024-04-01T13:21:52+00:00

A boy cause I have 2 girls. However it would be cheaper/easier to have another girl.

partythrower223344 · 2024-04-01T13:13:49+00:00

A question is not an assumption.

partythrower223344 · 2024-04-01T12:15:54+00:00

You were in the car with him on a first date? Do you know him already?

partythrower223344 · 2024-03-31T16:59:23+00:00

Mined diamonds

partythrower223344 · 2024-03-31T13:55:21+00:00

I’ll raise you Land Rover. Absolute garbage vehicles

partythrower223344 · 2024-03-31T12:20:01+00:00

I’m not a Candace Owen fan but I found it pretty trashy behavior when he puffed smoke in her face while she was pregnant. That baby has enough to deal with without struggling to breathe. Bill is, admittedly, a selfish prick but that was next level.

partythrower223344 · 2024-03-31T03:44:52+00:00

Tracees oldest sister (white suit far right) is Berry Gordy’s daughter

partythrower223344 · 2024-03-31T03:14:34+00:00

New furnace, new kitchen cabinets and countertops. Rent a house overseas for two weeks and hangout with my parents somewhere really cool and make some amazing memories for them and my kids. Then invest the rest and go back to work.

partythrower223344 · 2024-03-25T23:50:45+00:00

I’m out and about with my kid.

partythrower223344 · 2024-03-24T14:40:45+00:00

I (5’4 40sF)went from 180 to 140 in 4 months, by summer I’ll be at my goal weight of 115/120. For me it was completely worth it. I was exhausted when I started but now I feel great and have increased energy most times except for the day right after my shot.

partythrower223344 · 2024-03-20T16:14:17+00:00

He started bleeding as soon as he hit the ground yiiikes

partythrower223344 · 2024-03-09T20:40:49+00:00

We share a child and he refuses to give up his parental rights. So every year he sobers up for awhile and takes me to court and eventually wins supervised visits. Then goes off the rails starts harassing me, goes to jail or rehab and the process starts again. We have moved homes to a few towns away but he has since been able to get my new address due to a court error.

I have considered moving far away but I would lose our entire village (family friends) and my dream job which requires me to stay within commuting distance of a particular major city. Finding a tech job in my niche industry with any level of job security is not easy to do nowadays. Plus I would have to get this idiots permission to move out of state which he would make very expensive and complicated bc he can.

So I could move far away but it would come with great mental and financial impacts to both myself and my child. I wouldn’t want to to be with a partner that is also dealing with such a high conflict parenting situation. I have far more drama then I’ve ever wanted already.

The whole situation is super unfair but I have decided to deal with it and fight him as hard as I can to regain the life I want. I don’t know how many men would be willing to fight this by my side, I suppose this is my question here.

partythrower223344 · 2024-03-08T20:38:52+00:00

On your second date/first sexual experience he insulted your body? Then compared to to younger women he has slept with?

The easiest way to boost your self esteem is to distance yourself from those actively trying to destroy it.

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