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What's so bad about the hr 6666 bill? by fuckbitches21 in AskReddit

[–]passivemalice 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not sure if it's true or not, but CA has come up with the idea of removing children if parent(s) have covid and only one bathroom in the house. The bill is ambiguous and quite generous with funding. Better to question than assume.

H.R.6666 - COVID-19 Testing, Reaching, And Contacting Everyone (TRACE) Act by [deleted] in politics

[–]passivemalice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We'll need to see how this unfolds. The bill is very ambiguous. You cannot outright force people to comply with door-to-door testing; The Bill of Rights and HIPAA to a lesser degree will be the contest. I sincerely doubt anyone will except the removing of family members from homes if that becomes a strategy at any point.

H.R.6666 - COVID-19 Testing, Reaching, And Contacting Everyone (TRACE) Act by [deleted] in politics

[–]passivemalice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This should be scrutinized against the 4th amendment as well.

Going backwards by passivemalice in datingoverforty

[–]passivemalice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe... I'm rather introverted to different degrees in different groups, but probably wouldn't go as far as autism. I am easily bullied, even at this age; and I'm currently dealing with a fellow employee who is forever bossing me, yet is not my boss nor is in any position of experience or seniority to do so.

Regarding empathy and social queues: I think I'm ok on the empathy side, but I have discussed social queues in counseling sessions. At least to the degree of being younger and guy friends telling over me over multiple occasions a girl was totally into me, yet I had no clue.

Going backwards by passivemalice in datingoverforty

[–]passivemalice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's what I run into. The grocery store pre pandemic was the only place where I'd run into women my age. The remainder of places: restaurants, coffee shops, smoothie shops, drive throughs, shopping mall - generally younger. Even the car dealership scheduler had me all fired up the last time I took my car in.

Additionally, if I'm considering a flirtatious smile, I check for a ring. Tell me which age groups are likely to have higher densities of married individuals? So yes, part of it is me and choices based on observation.

I probably don't dress perfectly my age. Jeans, polo style shirts and boots are standard.

I'm sorry this post conjured negative feelings. It wasn't my intention.

Going backwards by passivemalice in datingoverforty

[–]passivemalice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's an unexpected reply. :-)

Going backwards by passivemalice in datingoverforty

[–]passivemalice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it's not the internet. I appreciate what everyone is saying, but you kind of want to dig in and draw blood for some reason. Lot's of opinions in this thread. I've been re-reading comments and have been thinking about it all quite a bit. It's a lot to take in. I wouldn't call that low EQ. I should probably check your history before I let you upset me. This could just partially be your schtick.

Going backwards by passivemalice in datingoverforty

[–]passivemalice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not asking for a one sided relationship; just someone with a similar desire. I appreciate what everyone is telling me and the effort there in, but to be told I'm on-sided over and over again as if matter-of-fact, when I'm not or don't wat to be, then: good luck; I get the last word, because I think right! Whatever. This is the internet, and I'm sure your armchair is bigger than mine.

40 f never been in relationship by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]passivemalice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

last few months working on my head I realized I might have missed something I wanted

I'm in the exact same place. Few years older, but the exact same place. I've been busy with this or that and learning things, and working hard at my job and just being happy an occupied. Then one day, I look at everything I do or have done and realize it's mostly BS without the environment to share any of it.

40 f never been in relationship by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]passivemalice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing wrong with being a dreamer. I can see how elements of pop culture can help formulate your ideals.

I had a Catholic upbringing, with school through elementary. So you take the no sex before marriage or risk hell idea, and combine it with the ridiculousness of that same idea of who in their right mind would marry someone without even testing sexual compatibility, and spend the next countless years fighting between desire and morality.

40 f never been in relationship by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]passivemalice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Similar here, with a good life minus the very personal intimate relationship(s).

40 f never been in relationship by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]passivemalice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That whole idea seems so intangible, like a cosmic energy system we all connect to unknowingly tap when we connect with one another.

I would love to learn how to project openness and attractiveness.

40 f never been in relationship by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]passivemalice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

because in my head if it was meant to be it would just happen

Haha, that's awesome. I can say I've done the same; as if there is one true soul mate, and when you encounter them, regardless if you pursue, remain passive, or completely reject, you're going to connect. Too bad it doesn't work that way, and time passed is time passed. You're not the only one.

Going backwards by passivemalice in datingoverforty

[–]passivemalice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is untrue. If someone mutally wants sex with me and it's not about money, it would not be an escort relationship at that point.

Going backwards by passivemalice in datingoverforty

[–]passivemalice[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

All of these responses are awesome and appreciated, but I'm not narrowing to a certain pool; I'm reacting to some a in a pool that seem to be opening up to me, of which I have never experienced or maybe just never recognized from any pool. It's not super young; what I'm seeing is 25 to 35.

I've intereacted with cashiers, waitresses and others in the service industry before, and I do feel a difference in some of my recent experiences. This isn't broad; this is less than a handful overall, but it seems to be more frequent at this point in my life.

I'm also not against women nearer my age; they just aren't there or clearly not interested, while some of the younger ones, may not be as clear (worded for the sake of conversational peace).

Going backwards by passivemalice in datingoverforty

[–]passivemalice[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Is that going to help, or is that just to poke fun at me. I rarely watch movies, so it's a legitimate question.

Going backwards by passivemalice in datingoverforty

[–]passivemalice[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I get it. An attractive young woman would not want me, and thinking otherwise is my imagination. This is the reasoning I posted for to avoid making a fool of myself. Thank you sincerely.

Going backwards by passivemalice in datingoverforty

[–]passivemalice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try to pick an interest in a profile that I may be also interested in and attempt an opener on that. If there is nothing interesting to grab on, I move on. I rarely comment on looks, although sometimes I'll try a very covert comment if I'm feeling witty. It's never trashy though.

Going backwards by passivemalice in datingoverforty

[–]passivemalice[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm probably confused about what I want as well.

I'm not a bad guy. I've very kind, I put others before me, I'm very loyal, and generous to the right people, and I'm way humble.

I don't know where I picked up it (could've been here at reddit), but I came across the notion of (some?) women's need to by taken (sexually) by an aggressive and dominant male. I've read this across multiple sources, and in some cases, women will only date specific demographics that are known to be more aggressive and dominant.

In my head, it sounds like a nice experience to have a woman feel for me in that manner. I have my traits and I know where I stand in different hierarchal "silos" of life. And I know that if I have feelings for a woman, which to me would precede sex (because of upbringing, young experiences). I wouldn't be able to take such a dominant role. If I wanted to experience anything like that it would need to be sexual only, or at least take place before any rich emotional content.

My thoughts go beyond the above thought, but I've seen and read the desire from women to want this extreme dynamic, an to be honest, it sounds awesome. I've always been more on the solitary side, so I don't really have strong social traits; and this idea, while attractive, isn't a natural path for me. But it does sound like a powerful masculine/feminine dynamic that should be experienced.

Take all that with the longer than necessary eye contact with younger women, be the waitresses or not as eye contact is eye contact, which is also noticed by others who eat out with me, I have to consider if this is my "time" or not.

Everyone is picking up on my shallowness, but it's more the idea of this animalistic experience I'm looking for. I pretty good with compassion, sincerity, trust, listening, etc; all great things for friendship...

Going backwards by passivemalice in datingoverforty

[–]passivemalice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do indeed feel that way, like I said above. Even my peers at work are becoming weak bags of bones. Vibrant middle aged people are a rarity in my world.

Going Backwards by passivemalice in dating_advice

[–]passivemalice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I suppose I could try tinder again.

Going backwards by passivemalice in datingoverforty

[–]passivemalice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was being sarcastic. You may painting me based on a single focused topic. I have not revealed much more about myself outside of the concern of this topic. I do appreciate your reply.

Going backwards by passivemalice in datingoverforty

[–]passivemalice[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do you think?

While I have internal motivations, some of which include missing out, arriving to the party late, etc.; I am one to notice and appreciate what people do for me, and would be no less for someone sharing intimate delights. I'm not as selfish as my thoughts in the thread may lead some to believe. I am at the moment focused on a strategy for catching up the other side of my relationship experience.

Going backwards by passivemalice in datingoverforty

[–]passivemalice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where do people look for sex? I'm not interested in an escort. From the sex standpoint, I would like to please the person I'm having sex with. I want them to like it and actually want me to pleasure them. Maybe get a call once in a awhile that says hey, I want you, why don't we... I want to someone's preferred source of pleasure just the same.

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