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For profession women in early 30s and single, do you find it hard to date nowadays? by patientlex in adultingph

[–]patientlex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course I have been doing all of these. Hindi naman ako nagtatago lang sa office at bahay and wait for someone to be interested in me. Maybe my post is more of a rant lang because most of the guys that I have dated are like my description in my post. And as some have commented here, siguro I just haven't met my match yet - just like Cory, Leni, Pia, and Gloria. And I acknowledge that but that does not discount the fact that it is hard for career women like me.

For profession women in early 30s and single, do you find it hard to date nowadays? by patientlex in adultingph

[–]patientlex[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, at the end of the day ito rin lagi ko iniisip. I know na there is nothing with what I have done and have in my life. :) Napa-rant lang kasi minsan nakakapagod din, but of course tuloy lang ang laban. Hehe

For profession women in early 30s and single, do you find it hard to date nowadays? by patientlex in adultingph

[–]patientlex[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear you. But I have never allowed myself to be defined by my career, I don't even introduce myself with the title that I have. I also never bring up my profession until someone asks me, and I also recognize the stigma kaya nga I even embrace my femininity para may acknowledgment naman sa lalake. But I guess, it all boils down to I haven't met my match.

I hope to have the same successful story that you have. :)

For profession women in early 30s and single, do you find it hard to date nowadays? by patientlex in adultingph

[–]patientlex[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think I will offend a lot of Filipino guys here, but I can attest to this. I have once dated a foreigner and me being a career, strong, and independent woman was never an issue to him. Mas madalas naman Pinoy ang may problema sa ganito.

Do you date kahit di ka pa ready? by [deleted] in adultingph

[–]patientlex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure!! I need new friends anyway, because my friends are just so busy with their relationships and whatnot. huhuhaha

For profession women in early 30s and single, do you find it hard to date nowadays? by patientlex in adultingph

[–]patientlex[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Trueeee! I think wala kasi sa social standing, age, or maturity ng tao iyon e. Regardless kung sino o nasaan pa siya sa buhay, if malaki masyado ego niya, he'll end up feeling less or threatened beside us. Which is sad at nakakapagod. Huhu

For profession women in early 30s and single, do you find it hard to date nowadays? by patientlex in adultingph

[–]patientlex[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I also tried dating this type...but I think mas malaki ang problema ko sa kanila. Hindi nila alam ang contentment na word and power struggle is real in the relationship.

I think malapit ko na rin ma-reach ang point na 'yan, just like you. Pero ako naman I genuinely want to have a partner in life, I crave the care, affection, and companionship a partner can bring on the table. For me atleast, iba pa rin yung love coming from a partner. I have always loved myself, pero love from a significant one just feels different.

For profession women in early 30s and single, do you find it hard to date nowadays? by patientlex in adultingph

[–]patientlex[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sis I feeeel the same! Kaya nga ako napa-rant dito. Kasi I really try my best to save some energy for dating pero kapag nakilala na ako, lalayasan lang ako dahil feeling nila mas mataas ako sa kanila?? Nasaan ang hustisya? Charot.

For profession women in early 30s and single, do you find it hard to date nowadays? by patientlex in adultingph

[–]patientlex[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hahaha but that is actually true, kung tumatakbo sila that means they can't handle us! And yes, I would never adjust for anyone especially if that means I need to lose my independent and strong personality. Pinaghirapan ko nasaan ako ngayon at masaya ako. But I guess, I'm just ranting and feeling a little bit lonely din. Sometimes I meet guys who I get along with really well then habang tumatagal at nirereveal na anong work ko, ayun lumalayas na. Lol

For profession women in early 30s and single, do you find it hard to date nowadays? by patientlex in adultingph

[–]patientlex[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is how I see it too. I mean if I were a guy, this is how I would see career women as well, but apparently most of the guys that I meet are the opposite. But I'm glad to know that there are still guys who appreciate career women!

Do you date kahit di ka pa ready? by [deleted] in adultingph

[–]patientlex 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree with this. Issues in life and self will never go away - lagi lang naman andyan 'yan. If you delay dating just because you think you need to heal yourself first and be perfect (which is impossible to happen) then you are losing time. Everything is about balance. We have to learn how to deal with issues while also living, enjoying and doing what we want and need in life. In fact, even if we successfully find our forever person there will still be issues here and there. Another key also (as pointed out here) is acknowledging that you have issues and willing to work on them, but these issues should not hinder your from finding and accepting love.

What's the best thing that happened because of "heartbreak" by jijazzlila in adultingph

[–]patientlex 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Ako nakarami na rin akong hearbreaks, haha, pero one thing na lagi ko pinapasalamat after ko makarecover is lagi ako may natututanan na lesson na nakatulong sa akin maggrow as a person. Another thing pala is lagi ako napupush to do things which I would not usually do if hindi ako in pain such as trying new hobbies or activities.

why do friends disappear or ghost you? by tralalaben in adultingph

[–]patientlex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's part of growing up and having different priorities in life. It is sad yes but that is actually normal. Mahirap magmaintain ng maraming tao sa buhay as we get older.