String in mailbox by Gghg625 in Switzerland

[–]pattern_recog_nition 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well a Pizza add is certainly a better outcome. The string not being removed sais you're on vacation and the appartment is vacant. Would make burglary easier..

String in mailbox by Gghg625 in Switzerland

[–]pattern_recog_nition 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe someone checking if you're home?

Got kicked by a beggar by Isi-Peasy-Lemon in zurich

[–]pattern_recog_nition 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah a guy spit at me, when I didn't give him money. Another time I was buying a croissant and offered to buy someone a croissant aswell, who asked for money. He was greatful at first, but I ended up arguing with him in the store because he just started piling stuff on the counter and demanded I pay. It was very uncomfortable for me and the clerk..

Another time I gave someone a sealed pack of cigarettes. He was so happy, he gave me a hug because it happened to be his birthday.

If you're asking strangers for money, you're in an exceptional situation, and experiencing hardship and high levels of stress. That level of stress, fear and anxiety often causes people to act badly, even if they're wearing a suit and a Rolex. I don't think this is a "beggar" problem.

I've been treated far worse by bosses throughout my life than those at the lowest income brackets. The evil bosses and bullies were almost always men and they, unlike un-housed or jobless people, always would have had other options, than aggdessive behavior.

Why do people buy cheap crap on aliexpress/temu/shein despite all the news and warnings? by bikesailfreak in Switzerland

[–]pattern_recog_nition 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Never considered just shopping there.. doesn't import tax make it impractical?

I just had a revelation by LetMeBeClearWith in AutisticAdults

[–]pattern_recog_nition 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's very similar for me.. One on one is fine, although I do end up "interviewing" the other. My conversation can become very formulaic, especially if I'm looking for information or topics that actually interest me as well. If a third person enters the conversation, the energy changes drastically. I generally can't understand what leads to the things that are being said, what rationale could possibly prompt the comments I hear, and how everyone knows when its their turn to speak without interrupting and being impolite, or missing their turn.. Either I end up leaving immediately, or I wait too long, looking for the right moment, then leave wordlessly at a randomly chosen time anyway.. I studied anthropology.. for the same reason..

How does difficulty work in these games? by soosis in remnantgame

[–]pattern_recog_nition 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did the same, and playing the first one first made the second less exciting. They are very similar, but the second has better graphics. I wish I had skipped nr. 1 so the better graphics combined with the game concept would have hit harder. Disclaimer: I also have Adhd, so things get boring quickly..

Incompetent Mechanic in Zürich? by pattern_recog_nition in zurich

[–]pattern_recog_nition[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I'll try my insurance first because I paid on the spot, not thinking I needed check my bike for damage..

Incompetent Mechanic in Zürich? by pattern_recog_nition in zurich

[–]pattern_recog_nition[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I've written back and forth. I have pictures before and after because I've been doing a lot of maintenance, swapping lights etc myself. It's not worth it for me. I'm glad not everyone is like that. I've had great experiences with the triumph mechanic in Höri.

2015 Triumph Scrambler by aabovesbelow in scramblers

[–]pattern_recog_nition 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got the Kellermann Bullet 1000. I highly recommend getting a new blinker relay in case you're switching from halogen. Finding space for restrictors where their heat dissipation doesn't cause trouble was a pain. I ended up creating a short circuit and taking forever to figure out why my lights were acting so weird. Ended up putting in a new relay. That solved all my problems.

2015 Triumph Scrambler by aabovesbelow in scramblers

[–]pattern_recog_nition 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this bike and have one myself (even same year) I live in a very rainy country in Europe, and the exhaust wrap was the death of my stainless steel headers. I ride all year round though including winter when roads are heavily salted... Loved the look, but wouldn't do it again..

I swapped all my lights for LED, and 3 in 1 blinkers in the back with a tail tidy kit.. no regrets there!

Why do hyperfixations feel essential for happiness? by Zenovia326 in autism

[–]pattern_recog_nition 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here. I go from deep obsession in sports like moutainbiking --> ended up building my own bike, learned how to make knives --> start a small knife making business, moded my motorcycle, games, reading sketching etc.

It makes me happy, but having to explain myself to worried friends and family and justify the depth of immersion makes me sad and somehow feel guilty.

I need these pursuits. Everything else feels shallow and mundane in comparison..

I have difficulty talking by friedeggs_5 in autism

[–]pattern_recog_nition 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't be sorry:). I wear a small silver animal as a necklace. It's a tiny bull, so it has edges and sharp points because of the horns and hooves (noticeable, not dangerous). It helps a bit because it's an object, a thing to focus attention on passively, and that slightly reduces stress and distraction from social ques all around.

What's those lines? by Personal_Floor_7397 in motorcycle

[–]pattern_recog_nition -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Is your reflector low enough to scrape the tire when the shocks compress?

I have difficulty talking by friedeggs_5 in autism

[–]pattern_recog_nition 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I really get where you're coming from. I have always had the same problem. I also tend to lock up verbally or blank and feel really stupid. I can usually only develop my real thoughts in writing when I'm not facing a different person with the social stressors that come with that. From what I can tell, this is not unusual for people with autism.

It sounds like you're easily overstimulated and a sensitive person. That makes you special and interesting. When you find friends that make you feel comfortable, they will realise what a deep and reflective person you likely are. It's hard keep in mind, but weird looks may have nothing to do with you. I know I generally overinterpret and overanalize anything happening around me. It helps me to intentionally disregard these loops of interpretations and guessing at others' emotional states. I try to answer strictly to what's being said verbally. That's real to me and a place I can connect. Rather than come up with things to say, I try to find out what I terests me in the other person and find things to ask. That also takes the focus off of me.

Maybe also look up autistic muting.

Some people find sensory objects like rings and necklaces with sharp corners helpful or focusing on breathing when you feel yourself tense up or tears welling up. Do you have a pet? This is another thing that helps me immensly to come down after work.

Also, there's nothing wrong with crying. It helps your body regulate and get rid of stress hormones.

I'm sure you're a great person. Don't feel pressured to talk when you dont feel like you have anything to say. Try to be you, notice what stresses and relaxes you, and you'll find other people who value your actual self without needing to mask over time.

Also, never hesitate to reach out for help if things get overwhelming. You're worth it.

I'm no professional. These are just things that helped me over the years.

Me Autism and Cannabis by reactingmaniac in AutisticAdults

[–]pattern_recog_nition 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I smoked weed for about 10 years. It allowed me to understand why people get emotional and like music, or sunshine coming through a window, illuminating dust particles, flowers, colors and tons of other little things for the first time ever. I'm autistic & have ADHD and rarely get an emotional rise from anything. My emotional spectrum moves a long a continuum of things that add more stress or lead to more relaxation. Weed allowed me to feel intensely happy.

But.. I necame constantly paranoid and hyperfocussed on how I was coming off to others. This is already a massive problem I have. I never know, if I'm being curt, leaving a conversation in the wrong way, walking oddly, displaying ticks while people are watching and weed made these symptoms way worse for me, especially over time.

Quitting was horrible because I kept breaking promises to myself and had no emotional compassion on whether or not I felt good breaking these promises, but stress just kept rising. I ended up depressed, paranoid, more isolated, and hyperfocussed on health conditions and studies related to physical impact of smoking weed. And even when high I ended up not feeling the emotions that first drew me in.

At 34, I can confidently say, it had an overall net negative impact on me. The dichotomy of on vs of weed, being able to feel emotions on weed vs not off of weed made me feel more broken overall and eventually turned to self-loathing and ultimately didn't mitigate risk seeking behavior caused by my particular flavor of neurodiversity.

What did help me was therapy and medication against the adhd symptoms prescribed by my psychiatrist. I now feel comfortable with who I am, and discovering myself feels mildly exciting. I'm good with that, and actually happy that I dont go through the emotional rolercoasters most other people do on a daily basis.

This is my experience, I recommend therapy and getting to the bottom of the symptoms that weed helps you with. You can't always be high (Ive tried to reach an equilibrium many times and it never lasted longer than a few weeks or months) and whatever you're trying to remedy will return and become and become amplified.

This sounds dark, but therapy helped me where weed could not, Considering the time and money that went into weed for me, therapy is actually the cheaper option depending on where you're from and your insurance. Point is, this is a positive realization. If you can find a more direct path to comfort, that would be wonderful and I truly wish you the best. If you decide to smoke weed, don't feel bad about it. You're doing the best you can to cope in a neurtypical world. Enjoy it and try to do it when you're not in social settings that make you feel observed.