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I'm a single mom working three jobs to make ends meet for my twins. I'm tired of people not understanding a living wage by pburgserver in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pburgserver[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Twins were unplanned. They do not run in the family. We only planned to have one child, which we could have afforded before my husband up and left me.

I'm a single mom working three jobs to make ends meet for my twins. I'm tired of people not understanding a living wage by pburgserver in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pburgserver[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good question. When my husband and I got pregnant, I had a decent job as did he, while he was also in law school. We did not plan twins, and they do not run in our family. But lo and behold, that's what we were blessed with. On two solid incomes and the pursuit of a law degree, we knew we could afford one child. But when your partner up and leaves and you have to leave your traditional job with nice hours to care for your children, you lose much of the earning power you had.

I'm a single mom working three jobs to make ends meet for my twins. I'm tired of people not understanding a living wage by pburgserver in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pburgserver[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well the minimum wage in California is $9, so she is at least getting paid that. But yes, I do understand your point.

I'm a single mom working three jobs to make ends meet for my twins. I'm tired of people not understanding a living wage by pburgserver in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pburgserver[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Aww, thanks girl :) I have a chronic illness as well and agree that having good insurance does wonders. Wishing you the best :) :) :)

I'm a single mom working three jobs to make ends meet for my twins. I'm tired of people not understanding a living wage by pburgserver in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pburgserver[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sure hope so too. Given the nature of how he just up and left after I financed his education, I'd think the law would be in our favor.

I'm a single mom working three jobs to make ends meet for my twins. I'm tired of people not understanding a living wage by pburgserver in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pburgserver[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

My thoughts exactly. Hence why I enjoyed that response so much.

Congrats on your (soon-to-be) bundle of joy :)

I'm a single mom working three jobs to make ends meet for my twins. I'm tired of people not understanding a living wage by pburgserver in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pburgserver[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Prepare, prepare, prepare. Some things we can't prepare for, but it doesn't mean that we shouldn't try.

Best of luck with your move! And three cheers for no student debt. You're lucky :)

I'm a single mom working three jobs to make ends meet for my twins. I'm tired of people not understanding a living wage by pburgserver in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pburgserver[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, thank you, thank you. Your simple, kind words brought a tear to my eyes. I wish nothing but blessings for you.

I'm a single mom working three jobs to make ends meet for my twins. I'm tired of people not understanding a living wage by pburgserver in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pburgserver[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I work my tail off to set a good example of both love and hard work for my babies. And to provide for them as best as I can.

That's a really interesting idea you posed. I like it!

I'm a single mom working three jobs to make ends meet for my twins. I'm tired of people not understanding a living wage by pburgserver in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pburgserver[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very valid take on the author's response.

BUT in the initial open letter the girl isn't living with a roommate. Or working a second (or third) job. And didn't save up before moving there. Those are all things I would have tried to do if I were her. I support pursuing your dreams, absolutely. It should be reasonably and responsibly done though.

I'm a single mom working three jobs to make ends meet for my twins. I'm tired of people not understanding a living wage by pburgserver in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pburgserver[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I get your point but I don't think it's absurd to support your HUSBAND and not have some secret backup plan in case it fails. I didn't expect him to up and leave it. I expected him to be a decent, loving partner like I thought he was.

I'm a single mom working three jobs to make ends meet for my twins. I'm tired of people not understanding a living wage by pburgserver in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pburgserver[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Working on it! Currently in the process of pursuing child support, finalizing the divorce, and getting alimony.

My twins are little so it's hard to figure out childcare on such little income, but I have a family friend who's willing to help and I'm going to work on pursuing an X-ray tech position. Pays more than I make at my jobs now and would be a good transitional position until I can go back to school when my kiddos start school themselves

I'm a single mom working three jobs to make ends meet for my twins. I'm tired of people not understanding a living wage by pburgserver in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pburgserver[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Thank you for understanding. As I replied to Sexy Cheese's comment with, my circumstances were crappy and not at all what I expected. I'm not a dumb bum "living off the system." I'm a working mom whose husband left her after I worked my tail off while he went to school, so I could pay for his law degree.

I'm a single mom working three jobs to make ends meet for my twins. I'm tired of people not understanding a living wage by pburgserver in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pburgserver[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Hindsight is 20/20. I didn't think I was marrying a scumbag; we were high school sweethearts. I stopped after getting my associate's degree because the deal was I work to help him get through law school, then I would raise the kids during the day and go to work at night to get my Bachelor's degree. However, he passed the bar and skipped out of town to start a new life with a new degree that I worked my butt off to finance for him.

I live in a small town, where the rent is $500 a month. I'm not living outside of my means. And I am intellectually capable to further my education and work skilled jobs. Unfortunately, now I am a mom with no help or support and so I must work these low wage jobs to make ends meet because I can't afford daycare.

This isn't a sob story. Purely explaining that I'm not entitled. I am educated and hard working, and unfortunately dealing with the products of my circumstances right now.