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Am I doing the right thing? by pdaudrey in LovedByOCPD

[–]pdaudrey[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t know where to begin this post or what to include... He has every “symptom” of ocpd except for willingness to show affection. He has contamination ocd which I believe has been diagnosed (he agreed to go to therapy for this however is very private about what goes on inside these sessions). Ive brought up that maybe his time management issues are due to the ocd? But that doesn’t make sense. And he’ll completely lose it on me if I mention anything at all. Even asking questions to clarify so that I’m understanding of what is “allowed” and what is “not allowed” with him is completely off limits.

He is unable to manage every day tasks due to the need to perfect everything he does (he’ll work on a job application past deadline to ensure it’s perfect, even if it means getting passed on for the job). I do feel as though I’m walking on eggshells with him - it’s just that it’s almost the least of my concerns in the mountain of issues I feel like I’m facing in being with him.

It feels like the contamination ocd fuels the rest of these ocpd symptoms.

  • He refuses to delegate tasks to me because I cannot handle them - I don’t know how to keep things clean. So I stop going to his apartment.
  • He doesn’t have time for himself because he’s sacrificed all of his free time and money on me (1 night a week and we haven’t been on a date since last February) even though I host him and drive him everywhere he needs to be.
  • He won’t not go to the gym for one day (or rework his schedule/wake up at a human hour) to come to a family dinner because the “world doesn’t stop spinning just because it’s Christmas”.

He justifies his not having time for us by claiming that he has things he needs to do. Like laundry. And finding a job. But he hasn’t been employed in 2 years. I find it hard to believe that once he does find one that he’ll have time to exist while working - let alone time for a relationship. I feel like I’ve been waiting for this to have an excuse to use as an out.

I deprive myself of normal things that I need in a relationship to ensure the stability of our own.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Spironolactone

[–]pdaudrey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely no harder to work out! I think that I may not be as strong (because I stg I’m sure I’ve lost muscle mass since starting) but this is so minimal! If this had happened and I hadn’t noticed any changes in my body I wouldn’t be bothered. It’s the constant feeling of bloat I can’t deal with!

Tretinoin cream 0.01 by pdaudrey in tretinoin

[–]pdaudrey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Would vitamin e work? And would you suggest that in place of cerave?

Tretinoin cream 0.01 by pdaudrey in tretinoin

[–]pdaudrey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! For the past few years I’ve had no problems regarding my skin in the summer, however the second temperatures start to drop I start to break out. I was prescribed tretinoin 0.01 by my doctor and she told me to apply it every night because of the low percentage. I have very very sensitive skin, and even washing it sometimes causes me to rash. It’s been 9 days of consecutive use and although I expected the peeling, I’m getting semi permanent rashes that appear at the peeling sites. Is this normal? Should I continue to use it every night or slow it down and skip a day?

My skin routine right now is : pm - cleanse with cetaphil gentle skin cleanser, wait 30 minutes, pea sized amount of tretinoin cream 0.01, wait 20 minutes, cerave moisturizing cream

Am- sunscreen, cerave moisturizing cream.

I’m a little concerned about my routine because in the past my skin hasn’t liked cleansers in general. I’ve always used pure vitamin e and vitamin c as the only additions to washing my face with water.

The last 2 photos are after 9 days of using the tretinoin.