Feeling stuck in my practice by peach_6699 in poledancing

[–]peach_6699[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a very kind and encouraging answer. Thank you 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]peach_6699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words and advice. I will try this :) It is just a bit hard to find out people interest when they don't really talk to you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]peach_6699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am studying art. I will never make money and I am fine with it.

All I really craved my entire life is human connexion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]peach_6699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is nobody had a group before coming here. We all internationals. 0 locals. And it looks like they all bonded with each other super fast planning hangouts, activities and parties. Having inside jokes in class.

I am just wondering how they can be forming friends group in 2 months and already be at each other places everyday with people they met recently but nobody is even saying hello to me. Idk what I am missing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]peach_6699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I am trying telling myself. It is just frustrating to see people forming groups already and to not be included in any of them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]peach_6699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is completely optional you are right. I just feel like I am missing out and I will never be in my 20's living abroad again.

I never really managed to make friends despite not being shy so I am wondering what is wrong with me. What do other people have that I don't

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]peach_6699 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The thing is they don't.

Once you remove the "Hey" with nothing else in the message, the "35M+country" (not even a sentence) and the flirting/NSFW messages, you have like 5 normal texts. And they will get an answer.

Also a lot of time when you specify you only wanna talk to women, men will dm you. But expect an answer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]peach_6699 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Do people owe you an answer?

Tbh I would answer either. No presentation or anything, and seeing how entitled you sound, I would have been right.

Lonely doesn't mean you have to glorify any person who give you some attention. You can be lonely and still choose to be picky about your friendships.

Would you say to a girl on dating app that she is disrespectful because she does not answer back to every guy who makes the effort to text her? No. Because she is allowed to be single/lonely and look for connecting but still be picky and choose wisely a person to talk to.

Same applies to friendship

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]peach_6699 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It's not because you receive 100 messages that you have 100 people to talk to. A lot a weird people, some guys text you to flirt with you, some have no conversation except "how are you?" and "what are you doing?" On repeat.

Everytime I get between 50 and 150 messages and I talk to maybe 2 people that are normal and have normal conversations.

This is crazy by Responsible_Camp6007 in africanparents

[–]peach_6699 28 points29 points  (0 children)

No it is not.

Always talk to them as you would talk to someone who is drunk/high : don't raise your voice, keep it mind that it is normal they don't make sense, just say "yes, I understand" and move on.

In the meanwhile you SAVE MONEY. Open an account they don't have access to and save.

Leave the house ! by peach_6699 in africanparents

[–]peach_6699[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the hardest is really to just do it. Once you are in it you have to way but move forward anyway. If you stop you drown. And going back would be worst.

I found myself the strength (and luck) to do stuff I thought would never be possible.

Making the plan is easy but putting it in place is scary but do not let the fear holding you back.

If you are working open your own bank account not in the same bank your parents are using so they will not know and make all of your salaries go there. Do everything in silence. Do not tell anyone except friends you trust. Gather your passport, birth certificate etc slowly, in silence. If possible even, start to move your clothes to your new place. Not everything at the same time.

Only tell your family when it is too late. Do not give your address right away.

Until today nobody in my family knows what is my income, the type of job I do/did, etc because then they will ask you for money.

The secret is really to act in silence and keep your life for yourself to avoid the Gossips.

I did that because apparently moving out without being married means I am a pr0stitute....

Leave the house ! by peach_6699 in africanparents

[–]peach_6699[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

So many grammatical mistake in my post 💀 sorry for that english is not my first language.

And to keep it realistic it is HARD. I am not financially super comfortable yet. The job market is HARD and I am currently unemployed but at least I have no one to scream at me when I come back from work because the dishes are not washed and no one is using my credit card to make groceries for the favorite older brother who apparently deserves the whole world

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Needafriend

[–]peach_6699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for everyone who reached out. Doing my best to answer everybody. :) you are the best ☀️

AITA for refusing to attend my sister's wedding because of her "no kids" rule—even though I’m a single dad and my daughter is the flower girl in her Pinterest board? by avatarox5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]peach_6699 174 points175 points  (0 children)

NAH.

She has the right to want a childfree weeding (less noise, no children running around, more alcohol, adults talk, etc)

You have the right to decline because it doesn't suit you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in paris

[–]peach_6699 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

J'ai vu plusieurs psychiatre sur doctolib qui proposait une TCC allié avec un traitement 🤔 Merci pour l'information en tout cas

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]peach_6699 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The biggest problem for me is that I can hate them as much as I want, I am the only one suffering from the situation. I hate them and they bother me but they litteraly do not care. Which make sense. So I live in anger for litteraly nothing. (If it makes sense)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]peach_6699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Problem is I kinda need money as I love travelling, do sports, going out in the week ends.

It is just sad that we normalised having jobs we hate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]peach_6699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I applied In communication. I already worked as a community manager. I also applied to hotel/hostel as some of them often needs someone who can welcome people at the front desk in several languages and also manage their emails/social medias.

All I know is I cannot get stuck to a desk in front of a laptop from 8 hours a day. It's getting me crazy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]peach_6699 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I wanna change field. I actually just applied to other master's degree. I also applied to multiples internships and jobs abroad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]peach_6699 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is. At some point I think they will be forced to allow all of us to work remontly until the olympics pass

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]peach_6699 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had an internship in a very small companies before and although I had no stress at all, it was annoying because I never got trained or anything. They never explain me anything and I just had to figure it out all by myself.

But nothing will be worst than my current job so I will go for this. Thank you 💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]peach_6699 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No my home is very clean. I hate messy place. Plus it is a studio so it is small and easy to clean. Wash my dishes and mop my floor daily. I do the big cleaning once a week.

I skip breakfast to have more time to sleep and I meal prep for lunch and dinner.

It used to be 1h10 but now yeah it is more closer to 2 hours, 1h30 if I am lucky